Chapter 16 fishing beluga whale

In "Sleepless in Seattle", Tom Hanks told his friends that he was about to meet a woman he met on the Internet, but was intimidated by his friends: "Don't be the woman in "Fatal Attraction"!" Tom Hanks was so frightened that he was out of his wits, his voice was trembling: "Men all over America are scared to death by it!" The movie that terrified men all over America, which appeared in 1987, showed the aftermath of "one-night stands" in extreme ways.In the movie, the male protagonist is married, and after having a fling with the female editor he met by chance, he thought he could leave the scene easily, but then he was threatened by a phone call from a slut, he was thrown into a bloody dead cat in his mailbox, and his child was also kidnapped. In the end, the woman even came to the door, and was pushed into the bathtub by the couple, but she was able to break out of the water brazenly. "Fatal Attraction" is not only frightened by American men. In the second half of the Reagan era, it not only helped the ebb of feminism, but also sounded the alarm to defend the family. AIDS!The remaining prestige has remained for many years. When the heroine in Stephen King's "Lisey's Story" was threatened by her husband's readers, she suspected that the perverted reader would follow the example of "Fatal Attraction" and throw dead cats into the mailbox. The readers certainly did not disappoint her. The influence and popularity of "Fatal Attraction" can be seen from this.

Virginia Woolf's words can be used as a footnote in "Fatal Attraction".She said: "A man who comes out to have fun, meeting a woman who loves too much is like fishing for a white whale." Just like Chen Jiaming's love for Xu Meijing, he just loves her like a man, but she is clearly like a woman Love him the same.He hoped that she would be sensible, stop in moderation, hope that the relationship would be pleasant, and hope that the situation would stop before it got out of hand; but like many women in the past and present, she was desperate for love, with all the depression, expectations, nervousness, and even hysteria to love him.And men are not gods, not heaven, men are also human beings, since they can't get pleasure from this relationship, they quickly retreat in horror.

But, is the image of the white whale only applicable to women? Sabina in "The Unbearable Lightness of Being" heard that Franz was going to divorce her, and ran away in a stark way.It is also possible that the white whale was a man.But Milan Kundera didn’t mean that. He used Sabina’s choice to express a longer-term fear, the fear of “heaviness”.Some people have a terrible life experience and a heavy breath, and getting along with him is like a heavy punch in the face, while some people have no load and exhale like a blue sky. The so-called spring breeze is probably the feeling when you are with this kind of person.Some people have never been able to escape these choices - family and country, life and death, love and hate.To get along with the former, you have to share the "heaviness", but when you get along with the latter, you may share the "lightness".

Therefore, "Fatal Attraction" is actually a contest between "light" and "heavy", but it happens between the sexes.In other places, this kind of contest still exists.I have two friends, one A and one B, both are poor. A has a miserable life experience and has a mild hearing impairment. His life stories are full of family sins, gloomy big houses, poisonous oaths in the ward, lettering on his arms, and tempering his character. I was terrified by him when taking a cold bath in winter, in other words, I was terrified by the "heavy" dragged behind him, so I flashed; If I have money, I get drunk, and I even dare to be hot and cold to my rich girlfriend who puts on hot faces. I hang out with B every day.My snobbery lies not in the poor and the rich, but in the light and the heavy.

People are instinctively avoiding "heaviness" and tending to "lightness". Meeting people who are too "heavy" is actually like catching a white whale when fishing.