Chapter 24 love is the best awakening

Jane Campion's new film "Bright Star" tells the story of the great British poets John Keats and Fanny Braun, to be precise, the story of them waking each other up. It was March 1818, and Keats, suffering from tuberculosis, moved to a house in Hampstead, where his friend Brown was recuperating, and there he met Fanny Braun, with whom they quickly developed an affection , but this relationship was blocked by Fanny's family, and the two then made a private engagement for life, and Fanny put on Keats' wedding ring.However, not long after, Keats died of tuberculosis at the age of twenty-six.

The most important function of this relationship is to arouse their life passion and wake them up.For Keats, this period became his "miracle period", and his most important poems were written during this period.For Fanny, this relationship awakened her deepest feelings and made her a legend. She was born in a wealthy family and was only 18 years old at the time. She had no interest in literature, and she did not feel much about Keats's poetry. Her hobby was fashion design, and she often went to dance halls. She began to learn to read and write poems. After the death of Keats, this frivolous woman was extremely sad, physically and mentally collapsed, and it took a long time to recover.For the next three years she wore black to Keats's funeral, although they were not officially married.She lived with Keats's sister, immersed in memories all day long, flipping through the letters and wandering in the places they had been.Missing has been spreading for twelve years before subsiding slightly. In 1833, Fanny married a banker, but she never took off the ring that Keats gave her when he proposed, and never revealed her past to her husband. .No matter Keats or Fanny, it is through this relationship that they start to wake up, then know themselves, take root in the world, and become the person they eventually become.

Yes, as soon as a person lands, they will open their eyes, but they may not really wake up. Many people have to go through a long period of psychological lethargy. The mind is ignorant, the perception is in chaos, and the shape of self Unclear, the reflex arc is unbearably long, and although he walks the same way, he is always separated from everything around him.Some people will never wake up all their lives, some people wake up very slowly, while some people will be awakened suddenly by an opportunity, accelerate into the growth period, and start to shape themselves.For most people, the best awakening opportunity comes from love.

I have a cousin who is a standard version of a man of science and engineering. On the one hand, he has all the advantages that a man of science and technology should have, such as excellent grades and a honest personality. The chaos of ignorance.The most bizarre time was when relatives went to his house to celebrate his grandma’s birthday. At noon, he came out of his house in shorts and a T-shirt, rubbing his eyes while ignoring at least fifteen living people sitting in the house , walked through the hall, making everyone look at each other in blank dismay.But his grandma didn't think it was out of the ordinary, and said flatly: "It's good to have a good relationship."

What is the relationship between love and life and character?A year later, he met a girl and began to fall in love seriously. When he reappeared in front of us, he was a completely different person. Before and after weight loss and before and after plastic surgery comparison pictures in the newspaper.Everyone has to admire that the old man is the most insightful and wise. Fromm believes that love is a positive action, "the result of the comprehensive cooperation of a person's body, spirit, mind, and soul, and the display of a rich sense of life and will", which means a sense of responsibility, conscious Action is "the answer to the expressed or unexpressed desire of another being".

It’s about the awakening function of love——love will promote a person’s self-awakening, and make people have a deep contact with the world. The princess sheltered by the white world is not enough to make her a complete and sane person just by being cursed and suffering. She must be kissed by another person before she wakes up. For those ignorant people, we might as well prescribe a prescription: "It's enough to love once."Of course, the premise is that it is a good and positive love. This kind of love will clear away the fog and make a person's outline clearly appear.