Chapter 4 Lesson 1 - What Marriage Means to a Man

If you listen to how men talk about marriage, you can tell that they don't like it very much. In one cartoon, a young man holds a hat in his hand and stands before an old man sitting on a chair.The old man said, "No, you must never marry my daughter. But, would you consider taking my wife away? Take my wife away, please." The joke sounds like marriage is a trap that makes men miserable.You must never take men's jokes lightly.According to expert research, men are constantly looking for marriage, and the number greatly exceeds that of women. More than 90% of men get married at different ages.Even after marriage, men still feel dissatisfied with their choices.Despite dissatisfaction, in a survey, 87% of married men believed that if they were allowed to choose again, they would still marry their current wives, but only 70% of women would choose their current husband again.

In fact, marriage is more beneficial for men than for women.Both physically and socially, married men appear to be healthier, more successful, and less likely to commit crimes than single men. Why do they still complain so much? Why do they still vilify marriage? In fact, men's verbal vilification of marriage is a compensatory response to their dependence on marriage. Is this true? Is what a man is complaining about because he loves you so much that he hates himself for being a coward? If a man told those guys he didn't want to go drinking with them, he wouldn't say it was because he wanted to go home with his wife.

If he realizes that he needs you, he never wants to admit it to other men, because doing so will be ridiculed and blamed by others.He would explain: "I'm going home and my wife is dying to see me." He would never say, "I'm going home, I need a wife." Everyone is a coward of affection to some extent, and everyone longs for love.Both men and women look forward to marriage so that they can gain the love of their family.He wants you to care about him emotionally, just as you want him to care about you.One of the allures of marriage for a man is that it provides a place of comfort and love.The need for marriage was normal for him.But for a man, so many emotional demands can make him uncomfortable, and becoming too dependent on you can make him shudder and make him feel weak.He would often deny it, even if he had to admit it in private.

When a man decides to get married, he feels good about marriage, he takes on the responsibility of being a man, and marriage is a challenge that makes him accept the challenge as a man. After accepting the challenges of marriage, men hope to get something in return, to feel like a grown-up, and to make others feel more empowered.He has crossed a very important threshold, which becomes a reward for the man.However, marriage will not make you and him into adults.Marriage does not guarantee a satisfying sexual relationship, or spiritual support, or love. Marriage is just a promise, a promise to work towards a better goal with your lover.Few people, even fewer men, understand this.

A man thinks he will be a good husband, which means to him that he can be relied upon, or become a good provider, a good lover.Will be a good dad someday.However, he didn't realize how complicated these were. A man knows as well as you intellectually that a successful marriage lies in hard work, but he ignores this in real life.