open your heart, Stabilize yourself first, Only then can we see through the reasons for broken love. Kobayashi. 25.Real estate broker. I have been living with him for two years, and I never imagined that we finally broke up because he said he needed his own space and blamed me for not respecting his privacy.God, isn't it a joke to tell me he needs his own space after being together for more than 700 days? Inexplicably want to break up, within two days he moved everything away, this is his house!He said I could continue to live until I moved out, and he didn't come back.Indifferently explain the "funeral affairs" like the landlord.My heart is cut like a knife!I was heartbroken, very helpless, wronged and angry.

It has been two months since he moved out, and I still live with him. The house is half empty, and my heart is already empty!I still can't let go, not reconciled. Those who have never been dumped by a man feel very humiliated.During this period, I kept calling him, wanting him to change his mind, wanting to see him, even if we are friends, we can meet each other, stay with me, and care about each other, but he always doesn't call me back, very heartless!A month later, he actually changed his phone number. I was even angrier when I found out that he was renting a house with a male colleague!Doesn't he want his own space?Why can you live with other people!I felt even more hurt and he never called me back.I tried to find him at home. He knew that I went to his house and didn’t come home all day and night. I found his new phone number, called him, and asked why he didn’t see me. He said he was on a business trip, but his colleague’s girlfriend happened to be at home. Don't know, say he will come back later.

Am I really that annoying?Actually want to avoid me.I want to let go but can't.I found him by chance, but he always ignored my feelings and didn't say anything. He always said that he had something to do and it was inconvenient to chat, or that his phone was out of battery, etc.I know that love has left, I am very sad, I always want to wait for him to say something about me, and want him to turn around. I changed my offensive and changed to texting him every day to say hello and sending him interesting emails, but last week I learned from a close friend that he had a new girlfriend and was staying overnight at his house. I was so sad that I was going to die. Called his home, but he wasn't there, and my colleague yelled, "Shameless, are you still calling me to annoy you?" He scolded me severely!

I've never been bullied like this before, I think it's better to die, why did he treat me like that?I did nothing wrong!I want to let him know that what has changed is him, not me, and that I still love him. Yesterday, I mustered up the courage to call him again, but he said he was busy, and hung up quickly. I called him again and said directly what advice would you give me if I miss, but he told me to ask my mother, and then Then hang up. A man who is utterly merciful, do you still have to wait for him?Just unconvinced.In a fit of rage, I threw the earrings he had given me into the toilet and flushed them, and I had better flush him too.But I still can't let go, what else can I do to balance myself?

Su Hei Analysis: It was the second day after she sent me the letter from Kobayashi, but she couldn't wait and sent two letters within one day asking me why I didn't receive my reply after I opened the mailbox.It clearly reflects that her spirit is in a highly compulsive state, and she can't wait for a second, which is at least 30 times faster than the normal psychological jet lag. There can be many reasons for falling out of love and breaking up. If you can’t accept it, you have to face it. Meditate and reflect on where the problem is, and whether there is room for improvement and salvation. This is the attitude towards breaking up, not blindly believing that the relationship is still there, and the reality is okay. Change is all about striving for it.

Fighting is okay, but the method must be correct and rational. You can’t bombard others with phone calls like Kobayashi to collect debts, mentally abuse others, and turn your efforts into violence.The boyfriend left just because he couldn't stand her oppression. A man who can even give up his house can imagine the urgency of the problem.He was about to collapse, so he resolutely left and gave me back my freedom.She used the same weapon to force him back to her. This is a violent war. No one would be foolish enough to think it was love. Xiaolin kept making excuses for her excessive demands, but she didn't see her biggest flaws: self-centered, blind domineering, ignoring other people's feelings, and brutally encroaching on other people's freedom.

She sets her own time and space world of her own, and puts her loved ones in it for her to watch and control, sacrificing the freedom of others.The boyfriend couldn't bear to break up, and she was still pestering him, eating away his energy in the name of love, and focusing all her energy on the action of catching him back to the nest, making herself very hard, constantly losing energy, and finally exhausted, Still achieve nothing, but only increase people's strong resentment, and everything done is in vain, a complete failure. No one hurt her except herself. Calling and harassing people, infecting others with my inner struggle, hoping that others will accompany me in pain, and asking them to bear it, but there is no room for self-reflection, and I ask for trouble.Beware of violent harassment becoming out of control and sick!No one owed her anything, she justified the repeated invasion of privacy by ignoring her ex-boyfriend, making herself obnoxious, pathological, like a crazy person, is this the result she hopes?It will only kill yourself and others, and the problem is still not resolved.

Open your heart and stabilize yourself before you can see through the reasons for broken love. Let others go. Many people have uncontrollable heart addictions, and always want to call their old lovers who are no longer in love. Knowing that it will be more uncomfortable if they call, and they will hear what they don’t want to hear, they still call themselves, and then hang up due to serious injuries.You must find a way to make yourself more rational. Even if you can't immediately change your mentality and stop contacting the other party, you should reduce the number of active contacts. This is a self-healing method.

If you can't find a therapist to help you, try this self-remedy: When you really want to make a call, do a "simulated conversation" first, imagine the first sentence you want to say after the call is connected, first say it into the microphone, and then change the role, as if you are him, respond to what you just said, but The condition of the response is: playing in balance, that is to say, giving oneself two opposite responses respectively.For example, if your first sentence is: "I miss you very much." Your first response is gentle: "Really? Me too!" Then, immediately give yourself a second annoying response: "And It’s you, why are you still calling? Don’t bother me!” If you still want to continue, say the second sentence: “Can I see you?” Give yourself two responses: “It’s not convenient now.” “No Did you say don't bother me again? I don't want to see you!"

The key is to say the two responses and let yourself hear them, not think them in your heart.Let yourself truly experience the two possibilities with your own ears, the combination of positive and negative phases, fulfill your desires, and awaken your blind spots at the same time.This will satisfy your divisive emotional desires while reminding yourself of the reality of your situation. Let the emotions vent, whether you cry or yell, you can cancel or at least delay the real harassment.This takes time, and gradually the desire to break up will be toned down, reducing the chance of energy loss and self-harm.

Do you want to have sex with your lover? It depends on whether you can handle a sexual relationship with no future in a chic way, Can you bear the pain of separation after a short-term pleasure.