Chapter 14 Chapter 4 Mania and Sublimation-4

pure meditation Chirping in love excites the human spirit and intensifies the renewal process of consciousness.This is mainly due to the fact that all kinds of feelings have reached a white-hot emotional level, and the emotions have become intense.In the intoxicating world of love, which is half reality, half fantasy, the extremely gentle and considerate atmosphere and moderate passion create a climate suitable for couples to communicate. A person's emotions are how he feels about the reality around him and about himself.Emotions create people's experience of opposites (polarities): pleasure-unhappiness, joy-pain, appreciation-disgust, fear-confidence, and so on.Emotions are closely related to the realization of instincts, to the functions of the body, and to sensations.It can be both low-level and high-level.This is related to the intellectual activity, aesthetic ability and moral judgment of consciousness in a specific situation.

Psychologists believe that complex collections of human feelings can be called emotions.According to the impact of psychological feelings on the human mind and emotions, such as intensity, duration, and specificity, emotions can be divided into: Moods - longer-lasting, less profound emotional states that color consciousness .As the name suggests, the environment of the mood.This emotional state gives a certain atmosphere to the mental life; Affect—an emotion that causes a strong vibration, but is short-lived; Passion—a deep, vibrating and stable emotion governed by the field of will; Stress— —Super nervousness spontaneously generated for emergency, seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages.

Many people confuse emotions with emotions.The scientific meaning of these two concepts is different.Some psychologists regard emotion as a special kind of emotion, which has "distinctive objectivity" and is related to ideas or concepts about concrete objects or abstract objects (abstract objects can specifically refer to attachment to hometown, attachment to enemies, etc.) hatred, but neither is specific). Why is the emotional life based on interrelated similar and opposite experiences? Why do contentment and dissatisfaction, pleasure and non-pleasure, pleasure and unpleasantness constitute the deepest contents of the psyche? Why does a person in a certain life situation experience What about experiencing one emotion (mood) while another person experiences the exact opposite in the same situation?

The development of culture does not lead to the weakening of emotion and the drying up of enthusiasm.Advances in science can lead to dramatic advances in culture.The development of culture has a huge impact on the human spirit.Civilized man has become more and more delicate emotionally. Without information there is no emotion.The more fully one perceives and understands another, the deeper one loves him.Undoubtedly, mystery heightens emotion.However, human emotions are stimulated by known information.Ideas about ideals, found in the features of the figure recognized, strengthen the emotion.

Emotions that arise at a certain moment as a result of a particular life experience do not disappear without leaving a trace.This kind of experience is like wealth, stored in memory, and reproduced in a certain way in similar situations.So the same emotion will be renewed over time.  Social life creates a rich cultural formation of the highest states of mind.Therefore, human desires are much more complex and more malleable.In the process of social development, there will continue to be new, higher-level individual needs that are compatible with the cultural level at that time. It is very interesting that Ukhtomsky established the theory that human psychology has a superior center in a specific situation.This theory can explain why the subject of perception focuses on various objects in reality, or different aspects of the same object.According to Ukhtomsky, the "dominant center" sets the focus for human consciousness through certain psychological emotions.As a special reaction of consciousness, emotion expresses the attitude of giving priority to surrounding phenomena and things.Emotions consolidate the "superior centers" of the psyche and exclude or weaken accidental and derivative influences.For example, the joy and comfort in the presence of someone close to you causes you to see only those pleasing features in him.This sense of joy and relief at the same time eliminates and suppresses and ignores those unpleasant aspects.

Emotions stimulate the brain and excite the nerves.Emotions can therefore be included among the so-called "motives" of human behavior.To be precise, if thought is compared to "a cloud in the sky that is about to turn into rain of words", then emotion is "the wind that blows this cloud". The emotion of love varies from person to person in its intensity and qualitative character.They reflect a beautiful musical scale of sharp tones and softest tones.Which emotion predominates in the overall feeling depends on the specific situation formed in the development of love.Temperament and upbringing also play a large role.There are many, many combinations of the subject's affections of love, varying in intensity and quality.And the emotional advantage that accompanies the fulfillment of desires is in all cases physical and mental pleasure, a sense of hedonism.It comes in many colors and even some variations.

The richness and variety of emotional strengths has been noted as far back as ancient times.Epicurus said that pleasure is "the beginning and the end of a happy life".According to Epicurus, to be a happy person.One should not choose, nor forsake, the pleasures of savoring delicacies and satisfying sensual desires, but choose the pleasures of temperance, moderation, and prudence. "If you live irrationally, irrationally, and irrationally, you won't live happily..." Plato pointed out that there is both pleasure in seeking knowledge from life and pleasure in various sensations.The former is noble, and it arises in the process of intellectual development.Diogenes Laertius pointed out that there are four types of happiness: contentment, schadenfreude, hedonism, and gratification.Only contentment can make people noble.Pleasure is "intemperance," a tendency to indulgence, and pleasure is "against virtue."Taking pleasure in others' misfortune should be condemned and punished even more.

The ancient Roman philosopher Seneca opposed virtue to happiness.The belief that the quiet nobility of the human soul is the source of happiness is the basis of his ethics.Pleasure, though attractive in appearance, is a "seduction," Seneca wrote.It seduces the credulous consciousness, kindles the sensual flames, arouses deep passions, which in turn arouses cold boredom. Kant divided this feeling into more fine-grained, and he divided happiness into three types: pleasure, beauty, and goodness.The first and third are related to interests.Pleasure is the enjoyment obtained from satisfying instincts in various senses.Goodness is derived from something that an individual values

satisfaction.Beauty is the feeling when people like something.The pleasure that beauty brings is a disinterested, free, unfettered pleasure. In the history of ethics and psychology there is another thread that gradually reveals happiness and its positive, bright emotions. The ancient Roman philosopher and poet Lucretius once pointed out that pleasure stimulates sexual desire, and therein lies the sweetness of magical life, which makes both sexes blissfully reproduce the species. Therefore, we say that respect, friendship, goodwill, appreciation, admiration, intoxication, nostalgia, self-sacrifice, purity, delicacy and other emotions completely dominate the sense of physical proximity, skin sensitivity, and the physiological realization of instinct in reality.Every form of physical contact has a mental equivalent.Touching, kissing, coitus do not produce purely "lower" emotions, but stimulate those elegant, profound feelings that would not exist apart from love and without instinctive stimulation.Lovers always touch each other's body only when they admire each other's soul. He turns the sexual instinct into the most profound and purely human aesthetic and moral form of sexual intimacy, a violent emission, overflowing with light.Subsequently, the body and spirit of the lovers, at least one of them, has gained great satisfaction and pleasure.There are times when couples' dissatisfaction and contentment, joy and pain, run together like two torrents of emotional superiority.

The protagonist in Musset's novel Confessions of a Century Son experiences this emotional split.He feels "obsessed" with a woman he both loves and hates. "I made up my mind that I would never see her again, but within a quarter of an hour, I turned back...I secretly harbored the desire to possess her again...I despised her deeply, but had no I love her with reason; I feel her love destroy me, and yet I cannot live without this woman." One can both love and hate a particular object, and this splitting of emotions proves that the synthetic nature of the emotion of love is what makes it elusive.Every aspect of reality, every attribute of the object of love, is at the root of this emotion.A woman's physical appearance is sometimes a pleasure, but some of her behavior is repulsive.Conversely, a woman in certain situations admires certain talents in a man, but may resent his cowardice.

Emotions of the same or similar nature enhance each other, while different and to some extent opposite emotions cancel each other out and weaken each other.In the following, in the selection of the object, we use this principle to analyze people's choice of lover.Why can there be a long-term unchanging love?Positive and negative combinations, positive emotions gradually grow.The amount of integrated emotions determines the richness of feelings. Likes and dislikes play a major emotional role in people's lives.Some sociologists use the term "empathy" (empathy, sympathy, and also transference).This word expresses the ability of a person to "perceive the psychology of others and sympathize with others".This is called "closeness", that is, the feeling of complete agreement. Goodwill is the element and prelude to love.It makes one recognize the worth of another.Goodwill can break through the barriers of loneliness in one's inner world.The first criterion for expressing the intensity of sexual desire is whether there is a good impression. On the emotional spectrum of love, the role of appreciation is also very prominent.Admiration expresses the high spiritual satisfaction obtained from the intuition or awareness of beauty.Kant pointed out that admiration is a repeated surprise, which does not disappear with the loss of novelty.Appreciation of beauty and harmony in the category of aesthetic values.The sense of appreciation is unique to human beings, the result of the development of human culture for thousands of years, and the testimony of human beings' unlimited potential for self-improvement.Appreciation expresses man's value system, which guides him to fully and completely understand the qualities of the object of love, and guides him to establish a noble aesthetic and moral relationship.Appreciation is full of tenderness.In the absence of this emotion, relations between the sexes are bound to be crude and indecent. The tenderness of love also takes different forms.It widely exists in various psychological fields, and it can be manifested as gently touching, smiling, kissing, hugging, and kind and tender eyes.Tenderness is the warmth of love.The richness of the entire aesthetic space that contains the sense of beauty, ecstasy and imagination. The development of tenderness in erotic love has its own history.The development of tenderness is closely related to its most direct external expression, which everyone understands—the human smile full of sincerity and beauty.The smile of love is like a magic key, which can open the maze of the mind and dispel the fog.Its radiance illuminates everything around it, adding to the surrounding atmosphere warmth and sympathy, ardent anticipation and wondrous visions.It has inspired great poets to sing of this magic of life, and great artists to express its elusive allure.The smile is a testimony to the long journey of nature from the instinct of animals to the graceful caress of higher creatures. Shyness is often accompanied by noble intimacy. Shyness is trying to cover up the contact and intimacy between men and women. Men and women are clear about the ultimate purpose of their communication. In fact, it is shyness about sex, shy avoidance and attachment to this attraction.Shyness often manifests itself in restraint when talking about love.Shyness is a "moral and aesthetic reflex", a manifestation of self-monitoring, avoiding direct references to all things carnal, erotic, even when alone with loved ones, even in intimate arms.Therefore, this emotion inherent in civilized society has a specific cultural function.Shyness is a special reaction of the mind, and shyness is a critical attitude of people's moral concepts to sexual nudity. In this regard, Kant's point of view is very representative."Shyness," he writes, "is a certain secret of nature, designed to curb indulgent desires: it obeys nature's call, but is always in harmony with goodness and virtue, even when it goes too far." But Kant also pointed out that this kind of intimacy produced under the aestheticization of the relationship between the sexes has another function.Man's shyness, he emphasized, "has the other service of throwing a veil of mystery over the most reasonable and necessary purposes of nature, lest man be misunderstood by too crude acquaintance with them." aversion, or at least indifference, to the ultimate purpose of the awakening of human nature to which the subtlest and strongest tendencies are bound." Shyness has specific external manifestations.A sudden blushing is the first sign of shyness.A second sign of shyness is covering parts of the body with hands, clothing, or other objects.Even in Greco-Roman times, when nudity was particularly valued, there has always been a female shy reflex that expresses a certain inner activity.The works of Braxiteles "Aphrodite of Cneides" and Aphrodite of Medici are both nude sculptures.However, they all reflect a sense of shyness, restraint, albeit in subtle ways.The noblest image of women—Aphrodite, Milo's goddess of love—also shone with shy charm.The casually draped clothes slipped down from her thighs, revealing the beautiful and moving part of the goddess' nude body.Some ancient Greek art history experts analyzed that the missing left hand of Milo's Aphrodite II statue was originally holding the clothes that slipped from the leg.It can be seen that the ancient Greek masters knew how important shyness is as an attribute of female beauty, and it can better express the beautiful body.  Rurikov has emphasized that shame is a "defensive emotion," a desire to keep "certain corners of one's life" away from others.Rurikov said: "Beasts do not know shame. It is only in the human stage that shame appears in nature. And it is after man has left his primitive state, after man has dimly realized that he should get rid of his similarity with animals. after the office." Having turned the mysteries of sex into an inexhaustible source of physical and psychological enjoyment, one cannot fail to recognize the threat this discovery poses to civilization.A magical treasure of human existence has been opened.Man becomes the master of intense pleasures that intoxicate body and mind. But this kind of excessive enjoyment will be harmful to people, so it should be restrained.Unrestrained indulgence and frequent direct sexual stimulation will keep the opposite sex in a state of long-term excitement, exhausting the energy of the body, and will eventually damage people's health.Therefore, the contribution of shyness to society is indelible. Shyness represses the immediate action of the sensual element, gives it a cloak of mystery, and thus gives wider scope to the imagination.Shyness awakens the spiritual element in the relationship between the sexes, and thereby diminishes the purely physical role. Another blind accelerator of love is jealousy.Love is related to jealousy in very different manifestations.What is jealousy: a slow-acting poison, or the measure of love that has been tested for thousands of years? Undoubtedly, this emotion is an integral part of sex.It attests to the intensity of spiritual desire.Jealousy is even more of a shadow of two people in love. Spinoza pointed out two aspects of jealousy: resentment of the object of love, and jealousy of the person who threatens the object of love, so jealousy is full.All these have caused a special division of emotions, cast a dark shadow on the beautiful love, and long-term torture has destroyed the sweetest feelings of people.Jealousy is a complex inner feeling of lovers, and it is an inexplicable hatred.This emotion takes on very different colors in different people.It inflicts a pathogenic injury on the consciousness, which can be characterized by the following basic feelings: a sense of humiliated self-esteem due to neglect, dissatisfaction due to the lack of loved ones, reluctance and sometimes even resentment for those whom one loves, Show hatred towards those who cause you pain. Not all types of jealousy can be described as "brutal emotion", "animal relic", "egoism", etc.True love does not exclude certain emotions that can be classified under the category of sexual jealousy.  Shakespeare wrote in his long poem "Venus and Adonis": "In the kingdom ruled by love, jealousy, who is capable of playing right and wrong, consciously acts as a defender." "It is an informer, an ominous spy, a source of evil that causes disputes, slander and troubles", "It is sometimes a disseminator of lies, and sometimes it is a messenger of truth...". Jealousy, says Robe de Vega, "is a gift from heaven", "it is the guarantee of love" and, like "the shadow", symbolizes the coming of strong emotions.Diana in the comedy "The Hay Dog" confides: "Vos is cunning...I love because I'm jealous..." Beaumarchais' hero, the lively Figaro, unmistakably discovers Suzana's love based on her jealousy.So he certainly has the right to shout before the hypocrites: "Long live jealousy!" Selfish jealousy in some people may be called jealousy.Anger and suspicion, selfishness and hatred vented will cause trauma to love and kill the vitality of intimacy. Jealousy has its social and psychological causes.Its origin can be explored from the following aspects: the education of petty citizens, the concept of treating love objects as personal private property, distorting the personality of men and women, some people are withdrawn and overly sensitive, and so on.Stubborn paranoia and masochism are also important reasons. Contrary to jealousy, which has bad consequences, jealousy as a natural and normal emotion usually only touches the delicate chords of the human psyche.Natural sexual jealousy acts as a motivator in the general complex of the affections of love.French writer André Moloya said, "The thing that can make people feel nostalgic is none other than jealousy." A hostess in "The Tragedy and Comedy of Marriage" by the Swedish writer Strindberg said: "There is a The old and proven method: to provoke her jealousy. This is an immediate one: if her love is indeed not extinguished, it always has to show in such a case." Victor Leon in American poet Longfellow's "Spanish Students" said: "I envy all the eyes in the world, let them be blind!" The feeling of jealousy, in its delicate and civilized expression, is a chaste pain, a longing for a complete reciprocal fusion, and a tinge of sorrow for the happiness of love because this wish cannot be realized at all.This underlying worry, buried deep in consciousness, is like a great hidden pain that makes the feeling of intimacy all the more precious. Jealousy will not lead to suspicion, insult, spying, mutual hatred, or self-inflicted trouble, as long as it takes a stand of noble sentiments.Put yourself and your Quarry in an atmosphere of mistrust.Its presence signifies the sadness and regret of lost moments of connection, the underlying anxiety of realizing that you might lose someone dear to you, and the longing for an intimate relationship to always be fulfilled.This kind of jealousy is an integral part of love. The pleasure of love requires a certain stimulation—the antithesis of pleasure.This kind of happiness will never be "clear sky" (not even a transparent thin cloud) for a long time.Happiness also appears flat if it is not accompanied by unhappiness.Feelings are always an emotional mosaic of brighter colors. The happiness of love in "a clear sky" usually disappears very quickly.The happiness of love cannot exist alone without the feeling of foil.That's why love needs a thin layer of melancholy, a little bit of jealousy, doubts, dramatic games. In other words, jealousy, which slightly disturbs the mood, is inherent in love.It means that the relationship between men and women is deep, and through intangible channels, both parties pursue and attract each other.And the unstoppable act of jealousy (or jealousy), manifested in mutual distrust, spying, stalking, and rough behavior, is incompatible with love in its essence.It corrupts the relationship between lovers, it is an insult to their personality, it stains a friendship of intimacy and mutual respect. Love seems to speed up the passage of time. Emotion plays a huge role in promoting and driving the whole complex of sexual love.The more the object of love can adapt to the requirements of the subject of love, the stronger the emotion, the more vital, the more persistent, and the more inclusive.The richness of love in turn ennobles the human reproductive instinct, combining it with the experience of excitement, of noble psychic pleasure.Appreciation, sympathy, and tenderness cannot fail to arouse the deepest associations, the spiritual beauty of thinking, and the flash of wisdom.Emotions form a unified and complete feeling, which makes instinct wonderfully merged with reason, and reason wonderfully merged with instinct.Emotions kindle the fire of intimacy and keep love in flames.It makes people directly experience the joy of pleasure and happiness.