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Chapter 7 Chapter 5 Life is like a play——role masks

meet the unknown self 张德芬 1777Words 2018-03-18
No wonder the old man asked "Who are you" as soon as they met, and he was sure that no one could answer this question.At least, no one can answer the answer he wants. Ruo Ling was sitting on the desk, looking at the heavy traffic on the window, thinking obsessively. Today is TGIF (thank God it’s Friday!), and the traffic in the evening is extremely crowded. Through the window, Ruo Ling can feel the restlessness of the city tonight.People who rush to work in the morning, after five days of competing for fame and fortune, can finally rest for two days, pursue some entertainment, and look forward to a certain degree of relaxation.

Family reunion, doing sports, going to nightclubs, meeting lovers, watching TV, watching movies, getting a good night's sleep, playing mahjong... After relaxing, get ready for next Monday Re-enter the battlefield. Of course, in the metropolis, those who never rest are impenetrable.Either continue to work overtime on weekends, or deal with in-laws.A lot of personal matters are worth getting rid of over the weekend. Busy, busy, everyone is busy. Pursue, pursue, everyone is pursuing. But why is this society, this world, and us human beings not getting better and better? "Ruoling, why don't you leave?" Chen Yumei, the marketing manager of another product department sitting next to her, asked while holding her bag.In this large company with hundreds of people, she is the only friend Ruo Ling can talk to.Yumei is in her early thirties and still unmarried, and the two hit it off very well.

"Oh, I'll be leaving soon!" Ruo Ling replied. "OK, bye, have a nice weekend! (Happy weekend!)" Yumei was dressed up beautifully, she had obviously changed her clothes before leaving get off work, and added heavy makeup on her face. "It's good not to be married!" Ruo Ling thought. If you are not married, you have only one family; if you are married, you have three families at once: your family, my family, and our family. For Ruo Ling, the "my family" when she was young was like an icehouse, and she finally escaped; her own "our family" is also cold now.

But compared with "his house", "our house" can be regarded as spring. She procrastinated on her own time and stayed behind after get off work for no other reason, but because she had to go back to her husband's house to have dinner with her sister-in-law and mother-in-law today.Ruo Ling's native family is already one of the worst in a hundred, and her in-law's family can also be selected as the unlucky champion—of course, from the perspective of a daughter-in-law! The mother-in-law was widowed early and raised two children by herself.My sister-in-law is good-looking, but she is too old to be married, not to mention her mother-in-law, and her personality has become weird.

Ruo Ling has been married for many years and has not conceived, her mother-in-law doesn't say anything clearly, her words and facial expressions make Ruo Ling feel bad enough, and her sister-in-law is still beating gongs and drums to help her.Therefore, Ruo Ling regards going back to her in-law's house every week as a daunting way, procrastinating if she can, and avoiding it if she can. I can’t avoid it, so I deliberately arrange other activities on weekends, so “only” I am free on Friday, so as to avoid having to go back at four or five in the afternoon, and when I go, I can also go because of the traffic jam on Friday night, or the boss temporarily Tell me to be late for something!After eating, you can also say:

"Oh! I'm really tired after working all day, I'm sorry I have to go back first." This kind of drama is staged once a week. Ruoling doesn't say anything about her pain, but her mother-in-law and sister-in-law know it well, and the estrangement between the two is getting deeper and deeper. Sitting in Zhiming's car, Ruoling was thinking about the homework given by the old man when he was parting.This time he said: "Think about it, who are we, and what are we? What keeps us from seeing our true selves.Remember, when death comes, it will sweep away everything that does not represent the real us, and the real you will not change with time or even death. "

*** "How is work today? When will your product upgrade be announced?" As usual, Zhiming asked Ruo Ling about his work, as an icebreaker for the two of them to exchange topics. "Well, next week!" Watching the street lamps on both sides speeding backwards, Ruo Ling's heart also flew to that warm hut, dancing with the firelight of the fireplace. The old man finally gave some hints: From childhood to adulthood, we all have a consciousness, and that consciousness has existed since you were a child, and it has been with you to go to school, study, get married, and do things.So, there is one thing in us that has never changed, despite our bodies, emotions, feelings, knowledge and experiences

Things change all the time, but we still retain a basic inner sense of who we are. This inner true self will not be born with your body, nor will it disappear with death. It can observe the various states of the world, appreciate the sunrise and moonset, the rise and fall of clouds, and the passage of time and the changes of the environment will not change it. Something inside Ruo Ling resonated with the old man's words. Indeed, that basic sense of having a me has always existed and never changed.So why don't we feel the love, joy and peace of our true self? At the gate of her in-law's house, Zhiming parked the car and woke up Ruo Ling who was in deep thought.She got out of the car slowly and took a deep breath.

"I'm going to act again!" Ruo Ling was inspired by this thought in the blink of an eye. Aren't we all acting every day?Play good employees, good friends, good citizens, good children, good daughter-in-law, good son-in-law, good parents, and even good people!However, in the scenes, how many are we willing to perform?In order to play different roles in these life dramas well, each of us has to wear some masks according to the place and time. Is this one of the reasons why we cannot see the real self? Ruo Ling was very excited about her discovery and beamed with joy.Hearing the voice of my sister-in-law opening the door from the inside, I felt kind.

"Since you have to act, let's do it well and go to compete for the Golden Rooster Award and the Hundred Flowers Award!" Ruo Ling thought, "Who is afraid of whom!" (to be continued) (There are a lot of mosquitoes in the room, so I have to go to bed quickly~)
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