Chapter 10 Chapter 8 The Priceless Treasure - The Interpersonal Master

Relationship Guru is priceless!Everyone needs him!Opportunities are only offered to those who can illuminate the hearts of others.In industry and business, those who inspire others to achieve positive results are always richly rewarded.Business tycoons are constantly on the lookout for those unusual sales geniuses who have the knack for turning recalcitrant clients into making deals with them only.The field of sales offers lucrative income for those who are known as "snapshots" who genuinely like people and work effectively among clients.Yes, becoming a master of relationships will open the door to almost limitless opportunities.How many people do you know who have mastered such an extraordinary craft despite such enormous opportunities?hardly!I've had the good fortune of working happily with people from all backgrounds.I've sat at heavy oak conference tables and signed million-dollar insurance contracts in the boardrooms of some of the most successful companies in America.But on the other hand, I also remember working in 115-degree heat, mile after mile, laying pipelines across the wilds of Texas.However, in all my experience, I have not met more than ten people who can be called relationship masters.I've found that people with this extraordinary talent are invariably on the way to the top, or have reached the pinnacle of success.Why are people who have mastered the art of relationships so successful?Why do others like and accept them so much?Why does good luck always seem to favor them in everything?That's because they've learned and embraced a simple, crucial rule in your relationship with your partner, which some call the Golden Rule: "Treat others as you would like them to treat you. ".By positively applying this golden rule in your own life, you will enrich the lives of many others, but in the end the greatest reward will be your own.Every action brings a reaction!If the behavior is good, the response will also be good, however, on the other hand, if the behavior is bad, the response will also be bad.Using this law, goodness will center in you, radiate in all directions and will return to you in the form of happiness and abundance in turn, and the person you deal with will suddenly become one of your supporters.They will all want to work on your team, and this will ultimately propel you to the top.Treating others the way you would expect them to treat you will cause them to fully commit to helping you achieve your goals in life.

You may come across people who do not respond according to this law, and if so, go the extra mile for them and show them patience and understanding.Treat him exactly as you want him to be, and he'll do his best to be that kind of person.You will find that this rule is very effective when dealing with bosses. I have seen firsthand how this rule can transform a bossy, uncooperative corporate executive into a soft-spoken sheep who will do things for you. Nothing is too much.Let me repeat this rule: "If you treat him the way you want him to be, he will try his best to be that way." Try it, it works!Now let us describe a master of the art of human relations: he will be the leader of the crowd, he will be happy, he will be very prosperous.He has everything you can imagine, let's take a look at his inner world and how he relates to others.Let's try to uncover how to be incredibly successful at getting people to like him.Put on his shoes and see if they fit your feet.

The first picture of a master of human relations, he looks innocent, but wise.The French thinker Montesquieu once said: "I have observed that to be successful in this world, one must appear simple but be wise." If you appear simple, others will tend to underestimate your strength , and this will allow you to keep the opportunity to deal with them, while their protection is removed.If you are known to be a soft-spoken person with a sharp wit, others will automatically create a protective barrier against potential threats.Seemingly innocent, but wise, you can really achieve your goal before anyone realizes what's going on, and everyone is still happy.

I have seen those who rise to the top, tormented by egoism, treachery and deceit, are neither loved nor respected by their colleagues, who trample them down at every opportunity.Their days are numbered! King David said, "I have seen that the wicked man is mighty, like a green tree sprouting in his land. A man passed by, but he was gone; and I sought him, but You will not find it. Look carefully at the upright, and observe the upright, for the peaceful will have a happy end. As for the transgressors, they will be destroyed together, and the wicked will be cut off at last." (Psalm 37:35-38) Second, he Be humble.He will not be arrogant, let alone offend others.He can calmly look at the great achievements he has made, and will not overestimate himself or underestimate others because of his achievements.He has great self-control and can control his anger because he knows that a violent, sick temper will affect his judgment of things and hurt his relationships with others.The good shepherd puts it this way: "For whoever exalts himself will be humbled, but he who humbles himself will be exalted." (Luke 14:11) One of the defining characteristics of those who have mastered the art of relationships is humility, This is a character trait that everyone admires.

Third, he really cares about his work partners without any utilitarianism.He will treat everyone with great respect, regardless of their social status.Every human being is important to him because he knows that every human being is a child of God and has a beneficial service to humanity.He is the kind of person you can talk to, share your deepest secrets with, and he will take the time to listen and will be able to give you sound advice.He has the capacity to love his brother genuinely, he has compassion. "Love others without hypocrisy; hate what is evil; be close to what is good; love each other when loving brothers; push each other before respecting others." (Romans 12:9-10) Fourth, in all his business activities and personal In life, he is honest and reliable, and in order to work successfully with others, he must be honest and reliable in every small aspect of life.In the twelfth chapter of Romans, verse 17, we read this sentence: "Do not repay evil for evil, but be careful to do that which is good in the eyes of all." Do not have any doubts!If your friends and business associates are convinced that you are an honest and reliable person, they will trust you and hold you accountable.Honesty and reliability are twin brothers. Without honesty, it is impossible to win the trust of others.God said: "This is what you should do: Speak truthfully, each of you to your neighbor, and judge wisely at the gate of the city, to make peace; let no one plot evil against his neighbor in his heart, nor take pleasure in swearing falsely, for these things are done for me that you hate." (Zechariah 8:16-17) If you are honest and trustworthy in all your dealings with others, you will be richly rewarded, and if you know how to guard other people's change wisely, you will have the opportunity to serve them Watch over greater wealth.Chance always seeks out the honest and trustworthy!" The master said, 'Well, you good and faithful servant, you have been faithful in a few things, I will put you in charge of many things, that I may come in and enjoy you The joy of the master.'” (Matthew 25:23) Fifth, he will stay far away from gossip.He understood that only a small-minded person would spread vicious gossip. "The first to tell the cause seems right, but the neighbor comes and finds out the truth." (Proverbs 18:17) If you must spread a gossip, go to the sea and write your shameful rumor near the water's edge in the sand so that the next tide could wash them away forever.Rumors that go around can destroy others as well as yourself, if you love it.If you can't say anything nice about someone, say nothing at all!You will be a much happier and better human being in doing so.

Sixth, he will give appreciation and praise to others.One of the easiest ways to lose the loyalty and support of others is to take full credit for doing something.Stand yourself out of the picture and pour all the praise on others, who, in return, will give you more support.Give others compliments and you will get money. "Ask others to praise you, but don't boast with your mouth; wait for others to praise you, and don't use your mouth to call yourself." (Proverbs 27:2) It is very difficult to do this, but if you are truly worthy of praise, words of praise will They fell upon you one after another.

Seventh, he will be kind and patient.You have to gain enough patience.The young or inexperienced cannot understand the power of patience.They want everything to happen at once.Not long ago, I saw a cartoon that reminded me of someone who is impatient in life.Two vultures stare at each other from the branches of a dead tree in the heart of the desert.The comic reads "Patience as hell, let's kill something!" This seems to be the common attitude of most people who don't really understand the power of patience.Disraeli wrote: "Things will happen as long as one waits. After thinking long and hard, I am convinced that he who has a stable purpose can surely achieve it, and that there is nothing for desires that exist persistently. Things can prevent them from being true." Another important quality you must have is kindness.This trait will also help you gain the affection of others and create an inner peace deep in your soul that you could not have otherwise achieved.When you treat others with kindness, it is you who really benefit from it. "The merciful man is kind to himself, but the cruel man is to himself." (Proverbs 11:17) Eighth, he will be fair and just.Your business associates or your friends will accept almost everything you do if they think you've treated them fairly and equitably.It is human nature to rebel against unfair treatment, to rebel against giving special favors to one person and not to all others.Favoring one person will destroy the harmonious atmosphere in the whole group - business partners or friends.Their point is: "If something is good for one, it is good for everyone else." They are right to give everyone an equal opportunity and to How much happiness and success they will achieve depends on how much they give.The rewards must be based on the results of the work! A master of human relations must also be impartial. He must be able to gather all the facts about a situation, consider all solutions, and then make the best decision based on the facts. And stick to your decision.When a business partner or personal friend is about to stray from the right track in life, it is his responsibility to try to prevent this from happening.I have observed people in high positions and positions of authority ignore friends or business associates who are going the wrong way.Their excuse is, "I don't want to get involved with that." Their attitude is, "Let him find a rope and hang himself, that's his own problem. I have enough of my own business. "

For sure, that friend who hit rock bottom one day will ask him, "Why didn't you tell me I was going in the wrong direction?" It will always be a difficult question to answer.If you feel that someone is going in the wrong direction, you must offer him your help and advice -- at least once, because that's what you owe him.You will be happy if you do this!If you treat people fairly and justly, they will definitely reward you very high. Ninth, he will be open to constructive criticism and to accept criticism.If you are in a position where you have to work with others in order to achieve positive results, then from time to time it will be necessary for you to offer constructive criticism.Constructive criticism has only one intention, to help others.This should never be done in a way of arguing and blaming, but only as a means of obtaining a solution to the disadvantageous situation faced by everyone who takes action.Those who don't cause any problems are the ones who do nothing, the others, the "doers" are bound to face problems constantly on a daily basis.A person who masters relationships must also be open to constructive criticism.He listened willingly to the complaints of those around him, weighed them in his mind, extracted the truth from them, and then benefited from them.In personal life as well as at work, it helps a person to grow, and if you become so self-important that you no longer want to spend time taking in constructive criticism from others, then your good days will be long too. no.Especially if the criticism comes from someone you deeply admire, it will help keep you humble and creative.So, welcome it! "You need to pay attention to receiving instruction, and listen to the words of knowledge." (Proverbs 23:12) Tenth, he will be a person worthy of respect.No one is perfect and no one is infallible, so don't expect your friends and business associates to go through life without making any mistakes.They make mistakes, just as you and I make mistakes, because we're all just human.You must struggle every day to live within the limits of the laws created by your Creator.You're going to make mistakes now and then, but once you do, get back on track.This is a matter of vital importance, and if you study the life of King David, you will find that, though he was one of God's special favorites, he was a scoundrel.He was constantly straying from the right track, but he always had a clear awareness of his human weakness, and by acknowledging his mistakes, he set himself back on the right track.

He has received great blessings from the Creator and His people.If other people understand that you are basically a solid person, they will ignore the mistakes you have committed and let their attention focus on the many good things you stand for.If you have been living a dishonorable life, people will neither respect nor follow you, and you will not be able to manage relationships well. "The good man will receive the favor of the Lord; the man who devises tricks, the Lord will condemn him." (Proverbs 12:2) Eleventh, he will be generous to others.Here we do not use the word "generosity" in a material sense.When we talk about a person's generosity, we mean that he is willing to give himself for others. He cannot allow "self" to stand in the way of others, but let others go first.I vividly remember when I was the head coach of a football team and I was lucky to have several wonderful assistant coaches working under my command.Because we only get paid 9 months a year according to the school calendar, all coaches have to find an extra summer job to supplement their income.Before I start looking myself, I always make sure that all of my assistant coaches have a job.This is a perhaps oversimplified statement, but it illustrates perfectly that being generous is about putting the needs of others first, and these coaches have been very important to me.I would not have been able to succeed without their support and loyalty, so I make sure they are all happy.It turned out that people were so interested in me that I ended up finding the best summer job ever.My assistant coaches have also generously rewarded me with other forms of achievement, winning many football games.Simply forget about "acquiring".Be a generous person, give yourself, and good things will happen to you. "He who gives favors and lends money to others, his affairs prosper." (Psalm 112:

5) Don't let yourself be afraid that your generosity won't be reciprocated, because it will, it's a law of nature. "Scatter your food on the water, because you will surely get it in the long run." (Ecclesiastes 11:1) Twelfth, he will have a positive psychological attitude.A positive mental attitude is a powerful magnet that will draw others to you like nectar attracts bees.If you project a warm, sunny outlook on the world, your friends and business associates will naturally want to gather around you.When you wake up every morning, what is the first thought that comes to your mind?Do you think "Good morning, God" or "My God, it's morning again!" This can show whether you are a positive person or a negative person. When you see a half glass of water, you are Thinking "This glass is half full" or "This glass is half empty"? Your answer definitely reflects how you see the world around you.If you really want to be a relationship master, you have to learn to be positive and expect good things to happen to you.You may have heard the story of twin brothers.One is an optimist and the other is a pessimist.The pessimistic brother is always very negative and complains about everything, while the happy brother always sees everything beautifully through rose-colored glasses.As Christmas rolls around, their father wants to check their true attitudes.He puts every fancy toy imaginable on the pessimistic brother's Christmas tree, a new bicycle, a basketball, a rifle, dozens of things that would delight a small child.And on Brother Lotte's Christmas tree, he only put a pile of horse manure as the only Christmas gift for Brother Lotte.On Christmas morning, Dad hid behind a couch and watched.The pessimistic brother entered the room first and saw all the toys with his name written on them.Immediately he began to complain:

"If I take this new bike out for a ride and I fall over, I'm sure I'll hurt myself and Dad will be worried to death. Ah, here's a basketball, and I knew I'd blow it up the first time I played.Ahh, there's a rifle here, but I'd better not play with it, because I'm sure I'll smash a neighbor's window. "He just talked like this, kept talking, and fell into a deep pessimistic mood. Christmas morning turned into a disaster for him. Then, the optimistic brother walked in, when he saw When he saw the pile of horse manure with his name written on it, he began to happily run around the house, looking at every room, the garage, and the grass behind the house, as his father I took him into my arms and said to him, "Son, what are you looking for?" The optimistic brother replied, "Dad, I know where the house is from the pile of horse manure I found on the Christmas tree." There must be a pony. "A positive mental attitude plays an important role in human relationships. It's contagious, it affects others. Stay positive and you'll be able to do a better job with people A man who possesses all these twelve qualities will rise to great heights in his life and will be long remembered when he returns to dust. He is a master of the art of human relationships. He Will accomplish every goal in his life by working with others, seeing people as his partners in every endeavor and guiding them to a life of joyful success and value creation. People thrive in every adversity Zhongdu will still follow him and share every victory with him. He knows how to work with others, he applies the golden rule. Before wrapping up this chapter on relationships, we have a few other principles to discuss.Understanding the following principles will allow you to climb the ladder of happiness and success more easily with less effort, and will enable you to see more deeply the way things really are.If you really want to make a great career and become happy and successful, you should gather a group of capable supporters around you. Many managers refuse to hire those capable and potential subordinates because Fearing that they would eventually take his place, but in reality, things were quite different.The manager who is afraid to hire capable people will eventually lose their jobs because of their poor performance, and the manager who surrounds himself with a large group of capable optimistic people.Eventually they will be promoted to the highest positions in the company.You don't have to be better or more efficient than those around you. The head coach of a football team is no better than his assistant coaches. The president of a company is no better than his executives. No matter how strong it is, the leader is the one who sets the goals and lets the subordinates achieve them.On your way to success, surround yourself with a group of top subordinates who will turn out to be a great man.Another rule about relationships is that you must remember that you must not involve yourself in nepotism.When you go to the top, there will always be something imperfect. There will always be a company president who promotes his 23-year-old son to the position of vice president, and that son has only been a vice president for 6 months. work; or, a fledgling manager who is promoted to the top simply because he is favored but not because of his performance.At the same time, there will always be a few pushy salespeople who claim to be the most loyal to the company and thus attract the attention of their bosses.There will always be some guy who just lays around doing nothing at his job and gets as much praise as you when you actually did the work.As long as there are crowds, there will always be unfairness and injustice, and you have to deal with it.Those who are favored don't stay there long if they don't deserve to be at the top.I have seen them fall, perhaps the saddest sight, when they have to support themselves, no one to hold their hand and provide them with protection, well, there are always so many enemies who want to break him.A worker who is not promoted because of his ability and performance is tantamount to letting himself out.Promotion by patronage, "is only temporary, so don't get involved, and keep working hard towards your own personal goals. If you really want to get there, be open-minded and don't let yourself get involved. When you become successful, you will bring others to the top with yourself, you will experience new adventures, do things that no one has ever done before, and in that special moment, maybe you will only get a lot. Little compensation.When a person who has been promoted to your position through connections will easily get paid more than you, don't envy them because you have something they will never have, which is knowledge and the ability to solve problems. The methods, and these are the price of your hard work, no one can take them away from you, it is yours until the day you die.You only have to use them to make them invaluable to you, and they will bring you more opportunities than those who have never paid such a price could have dreamed of.You're going to take others to the top with you, but if they don't deserve to be there, they won't be there for long, free yourself from all jealousy and prejudice, and wish all that you Finding happiness and success in those who bring it to the top, keeping your eyes on your own personal goals and not letting anyone stand in your way is all there is to it!Rely on the strength of character to continually shape the future.In this chapter, I've laid out some simple principles about relationships that, if applied, will enable you to be: one of the top salespeople in your company, one of the top salespeople in your school, The best teacher, one of the top managers in your company, the best actor in the movie business, or the most successful business person in your city.It doesn't matter what your profession might be.These principles will work, and they will work for you, try them!If you master the art of relationships, you can achieve all your dreams!Just take the time to find out what other people want, and spend your time helping them get it, and you will be successful.Again, remember: "Do for others what you want others to do for you." As long as you believe that you can, you will become a master of relationships. Before you move on to the next chapter, you must accept these principles: Number one, becoming a master of relationships will make you a leader. Second, it is a craft that can be developed with effort. Third, learn and apply the twelve principles you discover in this chapter.Accepting these principles brings you one step closer to a happy and successful life. KEY POINTS TO REMEMBER First, the person who masters the art of interpersonal relationships is invaluable. Second, every action brings a response. Third, if you treat him the way you want him to be, he will do his best to become that person. Fourth, gather capable supporters around you. Fifth, never involve yourself in nepotism. Sixth, you will bring others to the top with you. Seventh, find out what other people want, help them get it, and you will become successful.