Chapter 56 image legacy of parents

In my memory, my father is very brave and optimistic, and my mother is very kind.A psychologist told me that if a child has such a positive impression of his parents, then the child must be healthy and happy.I'm so glad he said that.A good image of parents will accompany children throughout their lives, and will always inspire and inspire them. I call it "the image heritage of parents".Think carefully about the filial piety in our traditional culture, which places great emphasis on the image of parents. If a man is noticed, he puts on clean and tidy clothes, and strives to perfect his appearance.And if a person is not noticed, he will become disheveled and disheveled.Where is our "parental image" now?It was smashed and robbed by the "revolutionary young general" during the "Cultural Revolution".It is very important to reconstruct the image of the parents.

Parents, as their children's first instructors, inevitably pass on their experience, wisdom, and morality to their children. This is the actual content of "filial piety" in the tradition, and I think it is very good.We need to rebuild the image of parents from the perspective of social value, and there must be a system to evaluate parents in the broader society.As parents themselves, they should also be clear about their social responsibilities to their children at all times, and must present excellent things for inheritance. Parents have a huge influence on their children.When I was a child, I grew up in a closed rural area, poor and monotonous, and there was no culture and entertainment. 90% of my childhood education came from my father's precepts and deeds.Even though I have a lot of experience now, when I encounter something, I will first think of what my parents did when I was young, and many of their practices have become my principles for dealing with problems now.

There are a few things that really impressed me.My dad grew up in a family of military officers, a college student, and has always been in a good place.Later, he was classified as a rightist and sent to the countryside. He was short and could not do farm work, so he was very angry, but he was always optimistic, and he talked a lot, and he was happy every day.I remember one time, my dad picked me up from school wearing a shirt with one sleeve, and there was blood all over his arms. I asked him why the shirt only had one sleeve. "Militia Squad") fought.Even with this misfortune, my dad sang along the way home with me.This incident shocked me greatly, and left a deep impression on me. I felt the power of an optimistic role model from it.The effectiveness of this kind of learning surpasses any kind of learning I have done later.

There is also a story about my dad, which is also a remarkable thing in my memory.He went to work in a small paper mill to make ends meet. A pulley fell and broke the leg of a farmer in our village.Everyone was so frightened that they cried, because their legs were broken, and it cost a lot of money to see them, but everyone was very poor, what should we do?At this time, a person came to the factory and said that he should be sent to the hospital immediately!Everyone says there is no money, but there is really no money.A person from the factory said, "I don't have money to write an IOU. If I borrow 200 yuan first, who of you can write?" At that time, everyone was looking for a job, and college students didn't say they could write.My dad stood up and said: "I know a few words." So, he wrote a "collar".The people in the factory asked him why he wrote "IOU" as "collar"?My dad said, our production team is extremely poor, and your 200 yuan is equivalent to the total income of our village for a year, and you can’t afford to borrow it, so you can only write a collar.With this 200 yuan, the farmer's leg was cured.In my impression, my dad is really an optimistic, brave and wise man.

From a child's point of view, parents are powerful, and the image of parents is in a position close to a sage in his heart.I saw a story about a mother in ancient China who taught her child how to write and read the Four Books and Five Classics every day, while the child’s father read books every day. Regardless of the child, the mother complained to the father, saying, “You always don’t teach your child, you can only do it by reading books.”Dad said, sitting here and reading a book is educating children.I think the father's method is very good, so he shares a study with the child.I sat inside and read a book while the kids played beside me.We are actually inspiring each other. He is learning from me and gradually becomes interested in reading. The pure and innocent play of the child actually contains many simple truths, which is quite inspiring to me.

Now, my child and I have established a "Father and Son Studio", where we read books, study together, and engage in other activities together.Now if there is no activity in the "Father and Son Studio" for a while, the child will ask me, when will the activity be held?I think this way of communicating with children is very good, and I will stick to it.I believe that the influence of actions is far greater than words. Instead of teaching children to be a good person a thousand times, it is better to be a good person for your children. A good father can leave a positive, positive, and uplifting image for his children.He likes everyone around him and can bring the warmth of love to everyone around him. This is also the image I hope I can leave to my children.I firmly believe that the image of parents is a major issue in social education.Because the image of parents is the first door for children to enter the society, and it will also be a precious wealth that will last in the memory of children throughout their lives.