Chapter 55 i have a love ideal

What can be compared with the power of faith may be the power of love.Love cannot be described in words, but its effect on people is too obvious.I often see some people become beautiful all of a sudden because of love, they are refreshed, they are also happy, they love to laugh, and their skin seems to have become fair and delicate, just like a different person.Love has become an important turning point in their lives, and it has also become a driving force to push their lives forward.The power of love is enough to physically change our appearance, and it can also make us mobilize all our abilities to pursue and understand the one we love, and thus express our sincere praise to the worldly life.Ideal love has long been described by poets and philosophers, but it is still difficult to understand without personal experience.Because love is a state. If you are not in this state, or have never experienced this state, no matter how much you tell him, he still doesn’t understand.Just like the same poem, some people are moved to tears after reading it, but another person may not feel it, and even laugh at the poet for being too sour.I am often moved by love stories in literary works, and feel that being able to experience true love is one of the happiest things in life, and it is also one of the most important things in life.

"Ordinary World" is my favorite novel. Whenever I encounter difficulties, I always take it out and read it. I don’t know how many times I have read it. The love story about Sun Shaoping and Tian Xiaoxia in it makes me very move.I think Lu Yao must have experienced true love once, otherwise he would not be able to write so vividly and touchingly about Sun Shaoping's grief after Tian Xiaoxia's death.In addition, Sun Shaoping and Tian Xiaoxia are always under the Du pear tree every time they date, so I also firmly remember the Du pear tree and regard this tree as a token of love.Later, when Lu Yao passed away, many readers went to mourn him, and they all brought Du pear branches. It can be seen that not only me, but countless people were moved by the love he described.This also shows that love is precious and contagious in people's hearts.The idealist of love has an overall conception of love in mind, including perfect moral conduct and the design of romantic behavior.In order to realize this idea, they restrain themselves like an ascetic monk, so that they can conform to the requirements of love in terms of spiritual sentiment, behavior and style of life.When our generation was young, we all believed that the ideal of love was so sacred, comparable to the dream of the "four modernizations" at that time.

Ideal love includes like-mindedness, mutual devotion, loyalty to each other, staying together for a long time, and romantic feelings. The deeper connotations include gender equality, rational understanding of sex, and inclined protection of vulnerable women. I have always believed that it is the idealism of love that compensates for the inequality between men and women in reality.Ideal love must be based on equality between men and women, and equality between men and women refers to the equality of their basic human rights, not random equality that erases all differences. During the "Cultural Revolution", all women pursued exactly the same as men: the same hairstyle, the same clothes, and the same job. As a result, a group of "Marxist-Leninist old ladies" who looked neither male nor female were created.This is similar to the idea of ​​equality between men and women pursued by extreme feminists in the West today.Is this true gender equality?Man is made up of two parts: one is the material man, and the other is the spiritual, soul man.The physical structure of men and women is different, but their souls are the same; their physical strength is different, but their spirit is the same; the personalities of men and women are different, but they pursue the truth and desire to have The qualities of virtue are the same.Therefore, in society and family, men and women have different roles and division of labor, but their status in society and family should be the same.This society needs men as well as women.If only one sex existed, humans would be extinct within 100 years.Therefore, in the case of the same status, although men and women have different divisions of labor, they cooperate and cooperate with each other, which is the real equality between men and women. What the "Marxist-Leninist old lady" pursues is not true equality between men and women, and what Western feminism pursues is not true equality between men and women.

There are differences between men and women in terms of natural attributes.Natural attributes include their feelings and ways of thinking. Nature stipulates that men and women have different divisions of labor, and men and women also create different but equally precious cultures with their different talents. We cannot unilaterally favor one over the other. The conflicts between different ethnic groups need to be negotiated, and the conflicts and differences between different genders also need to be negotiated.The harmony between men and women directly affects the growth of the next generation.The two parties sincerely love each other, understand each other, see more of each other's strengths, give each other more words of encouragement and affirmation, and ignore and tolerate some shortcomings and shortcomings of each other. This kind of atmosphere is the atmosphere of love.In such an atmosphere, life will be actively promoted, because when a person is inspired spiritually, the power he (she) gets is an upward force.On the contrary, if there is no real love, or unrequited love on the one hand, it will get the opposite force.It's a downward force that can make people feel inferior.Such as short stature, appearance, accent, family status, study background, etc. will all become reasons for the other party to be picky, dissatisfied and accused.In this atmosphere of lack of love and appreciation, oneself will become smaller and smaller, more and more inferior.In such a state, there will be no strength to do anything, and naturally nothing will be achieved, and sometimes it will even bring a burden to the other party and others.If you have no strength yourself, how can you give strength to those around you?Falling in love is more than just an instinctive need, it is a science in which negotiation is heavily used to build the best and closest human relationships.In the process of falling in love, young people must learn to love, learn to express their love, and understand each other's expressions, so as to learn the most important lesson of "love" in life, and turn love into a solid and firm marriage, establish A happy family enables the continuation of human society.In this lesson, learn to understand, love, be loyal, forgive these virtues, and make them part of your character.This will have a significant and profound impact on everyone's life, and many aspects of life will benefit from these virtues.But in real life, there are still many vulgar traditions that are incompatible with true love, such as buying and selling marriages, arranged marriages, changing relatives, and even the old customs of child brides in some places.

I think the best state of relationship between men and women should be a state of intimacy and tenderness. It is not passionate enough, but it is extremely long-lasting.From passion to warmth, only after the conversion can we be together forever.Always quarreling in passion, breaking up is a matter of time.I feel like this is arranged by nature, you have to switch to warmth, otherwise the baby who is about to be born will not be able to bear it.I feel that there is a force somewhere in the world that is arranging the relationship between men and women and preparing for future generations. After a child is born, he needs a warm, caring, and peaceful environment.For young couples, a new baby is a new problem.His care, his education, need to be negotiated.Earlier I talked about the principles of consultation, equality, reciprocity, and democracy, all of which make the family a gentle place rather than an environment full of ups and downs of passion.

Love is a spiritual thing, and I think such a state of love is sacred.Just like we have ideals in business, for love, we pursue an idealistic love.