Chapter 4 Know the work, but also know why work

When LG Company wanted to promote their plasma color TV, they chose Chen Yifei and me as their spokespersons in China. After three days of filming, LG invited me and Chen Yifei to Jeju Island in South Korea for vacation.Chen Yifei may have been too busy with work to make it. I stayed in the Lotte Hotel in Jeju Island with my friends from LG.On the day I arrived in Jeju Island, I attended the launch event of LG's new products. Unlike us, most of the attendees were employees of the company, and no media reporters attended.The chairman's speech at the top was often interrupted by bursts of shouted slogans from below. I didn't know what he was shouting.I asked LG's Korean friends, and they said that the employees were repeating the last few words of the chairman's speech, just shouting "plasma, plasma", or "big color TV, big color TV".I was not prepared to feel overwhelmed by the chanting of thousands of people.This reminds me of the time when my wife Zhang Xin and I were vacationing in the south of France.We lived in a high-end hotel, and the hotel’s beach was private, and men and women all stripped off on the beach, and I was the only one reading a book with my clothes on.Zhang Xin took a photo of me. In this photo, everyone was relaxing in the sun on the beach, but I was as stiff as a crooked bean sprouts, which was out of harmony with the surrounding environment.When the press conference drew to a close, I deeply realized that the shouting of slogans aroused everyone's emotions.I also often see Koreans shouting slogans on the street on TV, but I only realized the power of such slogans when I experienced the scene.The Chinese shouted slogans during the "Cultural Revolution", and now no one shouts slogans anymore. This may be the difference between China and South Korea today.

The boss of LG told me during dinner that the development of South Korea is inseparable from the development of China.China is a big country, and South Korea's development depends mainly on China to develop.He gave an example, saying that China has a population of 1.3 billion. If the Chinese each eat an egg for breakfast, the Koreans only need to raise chickens for the Chinese.I don't know if this calculation is accurate, but it can reflect their dependence on China's economic development and market. Among the designers hired by our company, there is a Korean designer named Seung Hyo-sang.He is a very thoughtful designer. An article written by him was published in an issue of "SOHO Tabloid", called "Do you know why you write poetry?" "Among them, he wrote a dialogue between two poets, one poet said: "I know how to make poetry." And the other said: "You can make poetry, but I know why to make poetry." This article triggered me a lot Thinking.From this, we can think about it in a series: you can build a house, I know why I build a house; you can write articles, I know why I write articles; you can eat, I know why I eat; you know how to live, I know why I live; "You know" are more problems that can be solved in technology, science, and craftsmanship, while "I know" are questions that can only be answered at the level of philosophy and religion. It boils down to the pursuit of "meaning".

We need to look up from time to time in life and ask why, so that life doesn't lose its way, and doesn't drift further and further from the great spiritual realm.After asking and getting the answer?I think I still have to keep working hard and get into the fun of work.simple formula for success For success, I don't have any skills to talk about. It's useless to practice hard skills, just like those who practice martial arts hard, gestures one by one, but suddenly a person comes from behind, and knocks him down with a brick.Many things, the more specific and skillful they are, the easier it is to become dogmatic. I think it is better to do nothing.Governance by doing nothing, is talking about doing nothing, but it is very effective. There is a problem of creating an aura.The term "aura" is used to describe this invisible force.A person with self-cultivation, even in a static state, can affect others. The effect of this influence is actually to rule by doing nothing.All things must be based on self-cultivation. I think the following points are especially necessary to cultivate.

The first is to have the quality of trusting others.To live a calm and comfortable life, people need to believe in many things, believe that the basic driving force of life is good, believe that happiness needs to be shared, and most importantly, you should trust others.In today's society, no single person can accomplish anything, and everyone needs help, cooperation, and unity.You need others, not because you are worse than others, or controlled by others.You need others, and others need you, and the fact is that the situation is fair. Trust is based on logic, not forced and fanciful.You have to trust the other party, and you also have to trust the basis, the various basis in the reputation system.Whether it is a contract, the "Contract Law", or a certificate of credit, they are all truly intelligent inventions of human beings.These great inventions have established and improved the social reputation system, with the purpose of enabling people to trust others, and trusting others is safe.

There is power in trust even when reputation systems are weak. There is a line in "Star Wars": If you believe in democracy, democracy will come.To apply this sentence, it can be said: as long as you believe in credibility, you will have credibility.In our society, there are some bad things left.For example, looking at people and seeing evil, and taking self-protection as the dominant thought, this is all the result of a poor and sinister past.Because of the many disasters in the past, everyone was on the bottom line of survival, desperately protecting themselves, our sense of social responsibility disappeared, our sense of morality disappeared, and everyone had no principles and chaos. These negative experiences in history are still affecting us today. with us.Many older people are still transferring past experiences to current children and students.They will always remind themselves not to be fooled.But often using this point of view to look at others and do things is particularly easy to suffer and be fooled. This is actually the most terrifying point in doing things.If you fall into such a vicious circle, where you don't see the power of trust, but only see the incidents of being cheated, you will lose the power that trust and unity bring to you.If you guard against others, they will guard against you, and thus expend energy and ingenuity in mutual suspicion.Therefore, if you want to accomplish things in today's society, you must trust others, which will bring you incomparable power.Believe in others, including those who have deceived you, that your mind is open and your ears are listening, so that you can move towards success step by step.

The second is simplicity.Strive to be simple in doing things, and complexity will make us fall into a situation where we cannot extricate ourselves.On the one hand, the complexity comes from our old habits, old rules, and old etiquette, and some come from our showing off of knowledge and skills.It's easy to complicate a simple thing. Extra decorations, extra construction, extra ideas, and extra language can complicate a simple thing.But from a historical point of view, when a nation rises, it always takes simplicity and grandeur as its main style; when the nation declines, everything from architecture, home furnishing, clothing, decoration to language is complicated and complex. superfluous.Being able to regard simplicity as one's world view and the guiding ideology of doing things is an element of success.You will succeed in simplicity.

The third is transparency.People have to be honest and don't lie.When you need to hide a secret, it takes a greater power to cover it up than the one that created it.But bad things will be exposed sooner or later, and paper can never contain fire.The opposite of success is failure and insecurity, and the greatest guarantee of safety is transparency and law-abiding. I once came into contact with a real estate developer who went to a certain city to invest and develop. Only when he got to know the local leaders and had a meal with the local leaders would he feel at ease and safe in his heart.Otherwise, the heart is always in suspense, and I dare not invest lightly, and I am not at ease after investing.He maintains his safety in this relationship with the leader, but he does not know that the greatest safety is in the sun, not in the dark.If you give up the opportunity to do things under the sun and the power brought to you by the sun and transparency, you will not be able to have enough strength to do things and do things successfully.Even if you achieve some small success, it is temporary, because the greatest success is the success under the premise of safety.Without security, all the so-called achievements cannot be called success.The last thing I want to say is that if a person thinks that success means being a big official, this may be a poison, because when you can't sit in a certain position, you may feel unsuccessful; How much money you spend, it can also be a poison, because you will find that there are always people with more money than you around you.

It can be said that success is a state, which is positive, upward, optimistic, friendly, and beneficial to others; if you are happy, you can also bring happiness and a positive state to others-if you understand success in this way, That's what I call success. Chapter 14: Happiness before success happiness before success It should be a universal truth that people are born to pursue happiness.But people often only start from their own feelings, and that happiness was wrongly defined as "my happiness and my happiness" at the beginning.But unfortunately, human beings are social animals and do not have exclusive joy and happiness.Happiness and happiness are by no means something that only one person can accomplish alone.Without the happiness shared by friends, without the happiness shared by family members, even if you have achieved success, the loneliness will be unbearable for you.

Advocating the principle of sharing happiness, you will get a lot of kind support, which is the prerequisite for success.It's hard to say what happiness refers to specifically, just like love, it is by no means an appearance, but a personal experience.Its degree of secrecy is just like what Zen said: like a person drinking water, he knows whether he is warm or not.But happy people have a happy appearance, and this happiness can be seen by others, and it is very easy to infect others.Through being happy, people may share your happiness, and being happy is the only way happiness spreads. One day my little one made himself a wooden toy in our "Father and Son Workshop".With my company, he grew up a little bit and became more capable, which gave me a sense of happiness, so I was happy.Later, when I was with my friends, I laughed when I thought about children, and my words became funny, and the friends who were with me also gained happiness.I can't give my friends the wooden toys my kids made themselves, but the joy spreads, that's how happiness is shared.

I found this to be a general rule: a person who gets happiness from time to time can easily spread happiness, so he who can get friends and get friends can be successful. Chapter 15: When you are young, you must give up yourself, and when you are old, you must know how to detach yourself life begins with consultation When you are young, you have to give up yourself; when you are old, you have to know how to be detached When my child was 6 years old, his mantra was: "You must!" When talking to us, he always said "You must be so".I found this problem and corrected him immediately, telling him that "you must" is not a good word.If a person often says "you must", then people will get farther and farther away from him, and he will not get help from others, nor will he be able to receive the strength from around him.The child didn't quite understand, and asked, "Why is this word bad? Why can't you get help when you speak like this?" I said, because there is no spirit of negotiation behind it.When encountering problems, everyone must have the spirit of negotiation. If you use an imperative tone and use words like "must", it will inevitably arouse hostility from others, and you will definitely not gather strength and achieve unity to complete one thing.Without the spirit of negotiation, nothing can be accomplished.

Children may not understand what I said, but it aroused my thinking.The first thing that comes to my mind is the "self" I see in the child.At his age, the ego is the core of the consciousness of life.The earliest self-signals of children are actually requesting signals to express needs. This is how nature arranges. Weak beings must always pay attention to their own needs.If you are hungry or scared, you must send out a distress signal in time.This distress signal is an absolute order for parents.When he slowly discovers that adults are always responsive to him and learns to use language, he will learn to say "you must".And if this "you have to" way of speaking is not corrected in time, it is likely to become more and more inflated in the hearts of children, and eventually stay away from consultation and unity. I also see that children always like to say "no" when they are 13 or 14 years old, especially like to say "no" to their parents.This may seem like childish rebellion, a general ingratitude.I don't think so.In this "say no", there is an immature outlook on life, a strong desire to be independent.That too is the ego, the ego that longs for independence.Why does the human ego quickly transform from a weak dependent to a rebel with such a strong sense of independence?I've been thinking about this for a long time and haven't figured it out. These thirteen or fourteen-year-old children have an independent sense of self and are eager to show it.His performance is also very "paradoxical": on the one hand, he wants to show himself "like an adult" among children, imitating the actions and words of adults; Mama's good boy".In fact, they are still eager to grow up, imitating adults is of course "eager to grow up".The reason why they don't listen to their parents is because most parents treat them like children, they haven't kept up with the child's mental development, and they still call him by his baby name when he should be called by his scientific name. In adolescence, especially boys, there seems to be a collective "rebellion against the elders".The core of this adolescent rebellion is self-expression, which requires social recognition.This young self signal is still mainly about seeking.They have a lot of ideas, but very few real-world resources to realize them.The middle-aged and elderly people who occupy social resources are mainly successful and famous. If they are indifferent to the needs of young people, dissatisfaction can easily become the emotional theme of young people. The contradiction between young people and middle-aged and old people is the most common contradiction in any kind of society.If the demands of the young are too strong, and the middle-aged and the elderly possess too much, this contradiction will become terrible.I think the way to balance is to hit 300 each. Young people should give up their ego appropriately, middle-aged and old people should know how to detach themselves, and everyone should learn to negotiate-this is what I thought of when I was a child when I said "you must".I like to think about questions, but I'm a busy businessman, and I often feel that I don't have time to think deeply about many problems. I have too many questions that I think about but don't think of answers.This book should be a collection of these many questions. I hope that readers and friends will think with me when they read it.If you think the question is interesting, you can also discuss it with me, and we will find the answer together.