Chapter 23 Do what the child likes, not let the child do what you like

My father led me to walk on that street, walked over and back again, kept searching and searching, just to satisfy a wish in my heart. —— Zhou Ming Parents do countless things for their children in their lives, but those that can leave an imprint on their children's hearts that will never be erased, usually Only a few pieces.If we study it carefully, we will find that all those moments that have eternal significance in the child's heart are those that the child really likes, not the parents themselves. As we mentioned earlier, Zhou Ming's parents had unlimited expectations for their son, but Zhou Ming didn't feel that he grew up with such expectations.The father never speaks out his request to his son, on the contrary, he hopes that he can meet his son's request.

Although living in the city, the situation of the Zhou family has always been difficult.The father's salary of more than 70 yuan per month has to pay for the whole family's life, support the grandfather and grandmother who live in the countryside, and support the education of the three sons.Therefore, when Zhou Ming said one day "I want to buy an English textbook", my father's first reaction was: "How much does that book cost?" "I don't know how much it will cost." The son said cautiously. It is incomprehensible to look at the father's "first reaction" and the son's "cautiousness" from the current perspective.But more than 20 years ago, almost every family was like this.

Chinese children's interest in learning English began after the US President's visit to China in 1972, but developed quite slowly in the following years.When the "Cultural Revolution" ended in the mid-1970s, "Broadcast English" was launched in radio stations, and the first round of "English craze" since the founding of New China finally appeared in big cities.At that time, Zhou Ming had just entered junior high school and lived in Chengde, a remote town. Learning English was not popular, but this child had an innate talent and enthusiasm for languages. A father is not a prophet, and he will not predict the future of his son. At that time, he would not be like today's parents, knowing that a good English is a necessary skill for children.He is just a father. He felt that his son's wish was in that English textbook, so he made up his mind to buy it for his son.

The father recalculated the family income and expenditure, set aside a sum of money, and then asked his son what the name of the book was, but the son could not tell. "It doesn't matter," said the father with a smile, "we'll go from house to house." The father and son walked out of the house and onto the street.The city is not big. At that time, the citizens said that it was "one street, one building, one policeman and one monkey." The two were reluctant to spend money on a car and walked into the city. It took half an hour to reach the busiest street. From one end to the other, every time he saw a bookstore and walked in, Zhou Ming would hear his father pulling the salesman and saying:

"My son wants a book for learning English." The father and son walked over and came back again.His father repeated the same words three times. Zhou Ming was full of hope each time, but disappointed each time. Then, they saw the fourth bookstore, which was also the last bookstore in the city. The father stopped the salesperson and said for the fourth time: "My son wants a book for learning English." At this moment, Zhou Ming cheered.He saw the book looming on the shelf. Father also cheered. "Our family doesn't have an English-Chinese Dictionary." Zhou Ming was still not satisfied.

But Dad has no money. There was still anticipation in his eyes when he saw his son.The father said again: "This is just a small dictionary. I will show you the big one." The father led his son to the expedition team, took out a public dictionary and spread it in front of his son. "If you want to read it, just sit here and look through it." Father said, "Next month... I will definitely buy it for you next month." The son laughed. Many years later, Zhou Ming became a Ph.D. student of Harbin Institute of Technology, pushing our country's computer English-Chinese translation technology to a new stage. This is not due to his talent in the computer field, but his language skills. enthusiasm.By the beginning of the 21st century, his colleagues knew him as the most outstanding natural language processing expert in our country, but on this street in the winter of 1977, only the father seemed to know that the child's desire for language should be granted .

"That day was the first time I saw the "English-Chinese Dictionary." Zhou Ming said. That night, my mother gave me the best gift, which will last me forever. ——Tong Xin One night when Tong Xin was 9 years old, everything was so unexpected.For a full 24 hours before this, the boy was immersed in a kind of inexplicable fear and anxiety, unable to extricate himself, always distracted in get out of class, never talking or laughing after class, and not eating at home. He wanted to eat, but at that moment, his mood turned cloudy and he felt a real joy. Tong Xin is now 32 years old, and she still can't forget that moment: "Maybe my mother has forgotten about this incident. But it left a deep impression on me."

At that time, he was in the third grade of elementary school. He was a child with a docile personality and excellent academic performance.The teacher singled him out as a class leader, thinking that he could be a role model for the whole class, but he never thought that he was also a child, and would occasionally be mischievous. On this day, the teacher was giving a lecture, and Tong Xin and the classmates at the same table got into an argument over a trivial matter, which intensified and finally got into a fight in class. It is conceivable that the teacher was disappointed with him. "As a class leader, to make such a mistake," the teacher yelled, pointing at him, "very serious. Very serious."

The word "serious" suddenly became a huge black hole, opening in front of the child's eyes.Worst of all, the teacher ordered him to go home and ask his mother to come to school. At that time, the 1980s had just begun, and the trend of reform and opening up had already taken root in the hearts of the people in China. However, the entire social environment still did not like naughty children.The teacher always asks the students to observe discipline, obey the collective, respect the teacher, and not express their opinions. The cloud of the "Cultural Revolution" has dissipated, and Tong Xin does not need to participate in the "Great Criticism" or "read every day", but every March, she and her classmates go to learn from Lei Feng to do good deeds. moon".

If you do not do well in the test, the teacher will say, "Why are you so unsatisfactory as a student"; if you get 100 points in the test, the teacher will say: "Why are you, a student, so easily proud".So, like all children, the lesson Tong Xin learned at that time was that, no matter what, he had to keep his emotions and anger undisclosed. "Education is to turn you into a screw. Wherever you screw it, you will shine and glow. That's the feeling. It's best for you to be a human being with your tail between your legs." The school keeps awarding "little red flowers" and promoting "little captains", so that those obedient children are encouraged and other children have a role model to learn from.For those children who are too naughty and disobedient to discipline, the teacher summons the parents to punish them. This is an eternal educational method. Almost all slightly naughty children have encountered such a thing.

But the teachers would never have imagined how much psychological damage would be done to the children by summoning the parents to severely punish them.It leaves a psychological shadow on the child, creates hostility between the child and the teacher, and creates distrust between the child and the parent.Because parents in this situation usually think that their children are dishonest, at least concealing shortcomings, and embarrassing themselves in front of the teacher.The children will hate the teacher, and complain that the parents only believe the teacher's side of the story. When Tong Xin walked into the house that day, she felt that her whole body and mind were under such a heavy pressure.This is the second crisis he has encountered since he became sensible.The first time it happened when he was 5 years old. That day, the kindergarten teacher took out a piece of soap and put it in the cabinet. There was a beautiful layer of wrapping paper on the surface of the soap.An hour later, the wrapping paper was gone.The teacher decided that Tong Xin took it away, but Tong Xin said he didn't take it, but the teacher didn't believe it and forbade him to eat.The young Tong Xin felt extremely wronged, but she didn't dare to confide in her mother when she returned home.Many days later, my mother suddenly talked about this incident to him, as if she was narrating a past event that had nothing to do with her: "Your teacher told me to go to the kindergarten, saying that you took other people's things and lied. I told the teacher Said, the kid may make other mistakes, but he will never lie, if he says he didn't take it, then he definitely didn't take it." That was the first time he felt that his mother had a special trust in him, and he couldn't help but feel relieved.But that time he was wronged after all.This time is different, he did make a mistake, will mom still trust him? He told his mother about it in anxiety, saying that the teacher wanted her to go to school.Watching my mother walk out the door with a face full of surprise.He was very scared, afraid that the teacher would exaggerate his mistakes, and that his classmates would no longer trust him as a "cadre", but what he was most afraid of was his mother's scolding.So far, he has spent most of his time with his mother, and he has always been a good boy in her eyes. He either pleases or contradicts her, makes her happy or makes her angry, but he feels that there has never been a single incident like this. times so serious.He knew that his mother had extremely strict requirements on the character of the child, and worried that his mother would no longer regard him as a good child. But what he was worried about didn't happen, and that night, his mother pulled him over and said, "I've talked to the teacher and I know what happened." Mom didn't even have a word of reproach. "This matter has passed." She looked into her son's terrified eyes, and said softly, "You were a good boy in the past, and you will be a good boy in the future." At this moment, Tong Xin saw what he was looking forward to in his mother's eyes. Eighteen years after this night, Tong Xin received a Ph.D. from Tsinghua University and joined Microsoft Research Asia.For the next four years, he occupied a small corner in a large cubicle on the fifth floor of the Sigma Building. In the fifth year, he moved to the third floor and also had a one-room office, which shows that he has performed well. , has been promoted.He represents both excellence and responsibility among the younger generation of fellows at Microsoft.When his father came to visit him in Beijing, he brought him a toy, which was made up of thousands of pins and could change into various shapes according to your imagination.Tong Xin put it on the bookshelf in the office and looked at it every day.It appears that, even during his exceptionally successful years, he has remained spiritually connected to his family. "After working for a few years, I think back on my childhood, and I have a lot of thoughts." He said, "I think family education and school education have an equal share of influence on me. School has a great impact on my intellectual development. Parents are more important. The most important thing is to cultivate my character and quality, such as how to behave. Whether it is words or deeds, parents are always influencing you." My mother has retired and is getting old, so she moved from Zhangjiakou to Beijing to live with him.Now it's his turn to take care of his mother, but he still feels strength from her. "That night, my mother gave me the best gift, that is tolerance and trust." He said, "I will never use it for the rest of my life." He's still my dad anyway.When he doesn't impose his will on me, I still... like... love him very much. ——Wang Yijin In the summer of 1984, Wang Yijin fell in love with his father's truck as a 5-year-old boy. Dad is a driver, and he always puts him on the co-pilot's seat, shouts "Son, sit still", and screams away as soon as he steps on the accelerator.At this time, Yijin felt really great, and thought that his father was the most amazing person in the world. One day my father stopped the car and went to the roadside store to buy something.Yijin climbed to his father's seat, fiddled with him a few times, felt that he was also a driver, and couldn't help but feel complacent.But at this moment, the truck suddenly moved and drove forward, faster and faster. The boy was terrified and yelled, "Daddy, come and save me." Dad rushed out, yelled "brake, brake", and desperately grabbed the car door and jumped up.But right here, the truck was stopped by the kid. The son was terrified, not so much because he was afraid of cars, but because he was afraid of his father scolding him.Dad turned pale with fright, but he didn't get angry, and smiled: "My son is really amazing, he can drive the car away at a young age, he will do it if he doesn't teach him." At that moment, he felt that his father was really the best father in the world.It's not because Dad saved him, but because Dad didn't scold him, but praised him.He wanted to say "I love you" to his father, but he moved his mouth and didn't say it. "Let's wait later," the son thought, "I must let my father know that I love him." But he couldn't tell when it started, Yijin felt that there seemed to be a gap between him and his father.The distance between father and son is getting bigger and bigger, and they always quarrel. Dad was born in the early 50's.People of that age have almost the same experience. They went to the countryside after graduating from junior high school. They have no higher education, no cultural literacy, speak emotionally, are disorganized, wear outdated clothes, wrinkled, and their hands are always dirty. To make money is to eat, and do not read any books except newspapers. Yijin's family lives in Shenyang, the most important industrial city in northern China.When he was a child, Yijin always heard that the "working class" were the most amazing people, knowing that his father belonged to one of them, he was full of pride for this.But later, he knew that the outside world had changed. He knew the so-called "blue-collar class" and "laid-off workers", and knew that "working class" had become a derogatory concept.Dad is also old, with premature gray hair and wrinkles at the corners of his eyes.Dad has experienced inflation, experienced factory depression, experienced layoffs, and suffered from severe diabetes. Later, because the factory could not pay his medical expenses, he spent most of his life saving food and money. All the money was spent on medical treatment. Dad is irritable by nature, his temper was already bad, and now he is even worse.Clothes are always messy and unclean.He never asked about his son's academic performance, never forced his son to go to college, never told his son any great principles of life, and never talked to his son about the future.The scene of father and son walking home hand in hand after school has never happened to Yijin.When the son has the upper hand when fighting with other children, he will hold his son, but he is very happy in his heart.If his son was bullied outside, he would be furious and scold him for his incompetence.The son is thin and weak, but he has a stubborn temper. He is always beaten and doesn't know how to avoid it.At times like this, the father would yell at his son, "You idiot." Since his son drove the car away when he was 5 years old, he has never told his son that he is proud of his son.In his heart, he knew that his life was full of disasters, but he never admitted it, and he would not even say to his son: "Only those who want to change their own destiny will study hard. Reading is an opportunity to make you stand out." Yijin realized this by himself when he grew up.The life outside is colorful and ever-changing. He especially hopes to find his own world, but he knows that his father is definitely not the person who can lead him into that world.When he was in middle school, he heard many classmates say that his father started a company, or else he was a cadre, while his father was just a truck driver. The older and taller the son, the more he annoyed his father.The father was stubborn, and the son inherited his father's stubbornness. The father and son would quarrel if they didn't agree with each other.At this time, the son will think of leaving his father and leaving this house.It's clear that Dad has little wit and no vision because he can't escape his ordinary life. In 1998, when his son entered Tsinghua University, he really left his father and the ordinary life in Shenyang.He had imagined countless times how he would feel when this day came: "I thought it would feel good, but it was strange. I began to miss my father, and I missed my father more and more." Turn in his head.It took him a lot of time to understand the value of that man, the longer the time passed, the clearer everything that man gave him. Dad has a smart brain, but also full of enthusiasm.When he was young, he worked so hard that he had the title of "technical expert" in the factory.At that time he couldn't afford a TV, but he had a pair of dexterous hands.The son still remembers that his father stayed up for several nights, playing with a lot of parts under the lamp.Then he and his mother had a small TV, black and white, and always broken, but it filled the family with laughter. Dad hates those who don't count.He keeps his promises, and he will do well for others when he promises to others, and never breaks his promises.He did things for others and never cared about the rewards.His self-esteem is very strong, no matter how difficult he is, he will not bow his head to beg others. Dad is very lenient with his son, and even indulges his son's hobbies.Yijin had a lot of interests when he was a child. In addition to being obsessed with computers, he also loved playing chess, driving, riding horses, and singing karaoke.Do whatever you want, it's up to you.When he spends all his enthusiasm and time on the computer and doesn't even care about schoolwork, Dad doesn't interfere.The son still remembers that his father said something that shocked him: "What's the use of learning those textbooks!" He believes that only his father in the world can say such words. After so many years, Yijin looked back at the computer he was so enthusiastically playing with at the beginning, and felt that "it is quite right to choose this path".Thinking of how different his path was from other kids', he would say "I'm lucky" because he has a dad who doesn't interfere and gives him plenty of opportunities to do the things he loves.Now he gradually understands that if a child wants to go his own way, he has to bear a lot of pressure, and his parents have to bear even greater pressure.Many children envy him and hope to be like him, but they can't do it because their father doesn't allow it. Of course, there is something more important in Dad's life, and that is his love for his son.He is the kind of man who is not good at expressing love. He has never said "I love you" to his son, but now his son understands that father's love is unconditional, the most thorough and purest love in the world.Although his own fate is difficult, he will not force his son to change his destiny; although he himself is an ordinary person, he will not force his son to get rid of ordinary.He's not the kind of dad who attaches "expectations" to "love".True fatherly love is unconditional. It will not change because of whether the son is promising or not, and will not change because the son meets his wishes.The son has good academic performance, and he loves him; the son has poor academic performance, and he loves him; the son is an outstanding child, and he loves him; the son is an ordinary child, and he also loves him.He loves his son just because it is his son. Dad taught his son all this silently, but the son didn't realize it during those years by his side.Now the son sees his father less and less, but more and more thinks back to the time when he was with his father when he was young. He remembered that once he ate too much corn and couldn't breathe, his father picked him up and took him to the hospital run.I also remembered that once my father gave him an ax as a toy to play with, but he swung the ax and chopped it on his father's hand, causing blood everywhere, maybe the scar on his father's hand is still there.These reminiscences would cause strong emotions to surge in him, leaving him speechless with excitement and his nose sore. "He's still my dad anyway." Yijin said once, "When he doesn't impose his will on me, I still... like... love my dad very much. He is really special it is good." In the year of entering university, Yijin suddenly had a strong desire to communicate with his father.He especially hoped that Dad could come and visit his school.The parents of Tsinghua students are all full of pride, but to Yijin's father, Tsinghua doesn't mean anything.He has never been to Beijing to see his son. I wonder if he refuses to leave his dilapidated home?Don't you like this bustling city?Still can't get along with this son who is as bad-tempered as he is? Yijin came to Tsinghua University to study with his gold medal in computer competition and all his family savings.But the money was all gone in the first year of college.He knew that his father had no money, so he told his father that he didn't need any money from the family.He began to go out to work to earn tuition and living expenses for himself, and saved money on food and expenses, and sent the extra money to his father.He knew that his father was still sick and waiting for money to see a doctor. Exigen graduated from Tsinghua University in 2002 and became an engineer at Microsoft Research Asia.The son was old enough to start a family, but the father was too old to do anything.However, his health is much better, "Maybe it's because I'm not around him, no one quarrels with him, and I don't like him anymore." Yijin sometimes thinks this way.He also thought, if time was reversed and he and his father were allowed to live again, how would he get along with his father? This summer, he went home to see his father.My father was so thin that he was 1.78 meters tall and only weighed 90 catties.The son felt sour and wanted to do one thing for his father.He gave his father all the first six months of salary that Microsoft sent him, and kept nothing for himself.This is the largest income he has ever received in his life, and he knows that no matter how much money he has, it cannot represent his love for his father.But to this day, he still hasn't said "I love you" to his dad just like his dad never said "I love you" to him. The son still thinks that his father is an ordinary person, and it is this that makes him realize a truth: "Just being an ordinary person is fine." old parent new parent make the child feel cared for make the child feel respected I hope my children will be better, I hope my children will be happier Caring about children's scores Caring about children's abilities Let the children do what their parents like Let the children do what they like Strict and loose serious humor do not trust Anxiety at will Make decisions for children Let children make their own decisions Do everything for the child and let the child do it himself Pay attention to the child's every move and let the child take care of himself Looking back now, my junior high school was really a cramming education, not a heuristic one.The standard by which schools measure themselves is to see how many students can get into the best high schools every year. ——Liu Ce In the summer of 2003, Liu Ce received four admission letters and four full scholarships for Ph.D.they are from america Three famous universities, MIT Department of Computer Science, Carnegie Mellon University Automated Learning Center, Carnegie Mellon University Robotics Institute, University of California, Berkeley Department of Computer Science.Liu Ce chose the Department of Computer Science at MIT. At this time, he had been working at Microsoft Research Asia for 19 months. "He is the best student I have seen so far." Shen Xiangyang introduced Liu Ce in this way in his recommendation letters to several famous professors in the United States. A Chinese reporter heard about this and asked Shen Xiangyang if he was exaggerating. "No, not at all. With his current achievements, not to mention going to study for a doctoral degree, it is no problem to apply for a professor at an American university." Shen Xiangyang said: "This person will definitely be a master in the future." Shen Xiangyang said this, whether it is due to the teacher's preference for the students, or the boss's approval of the employees, it is not accidental.In fact, Liu Ce was the pride of his teachers and the idol of many students in middle school and college. However, Liu Ce has a different view on his education so far. "From childhood to adulthood, the thing that has influenced me the most is not the course itself." He said, "Of course the course is also needed, but it lacks one of the most important things—heuristics." As an assistant researcher at Microsoft Research Asia, Liu Ce's research field is "image cognition".Immersed in the digital world every day, when he is free from work, he likes to quietly appreciate his paintings, which are all traditional Chinese paintings, and they are very large.There is a four-foot-long picture of the vast Cangshan Mountain, which is majestic; the other is six feet long, with the gurgling river on the picture, desolate and quiet.These paintings were drawn by him when he was in middle school, and now they are all installed in the computer and become part of his spiritual world.He said he would take them across the ocean and see them often.He likes painting and has a deep knowledge of Chinese painting techniques.When you look at his paintings, it's hard to imagine that they were created by a child and an amateur painter.But for Liu Ce, painting not only satisfies his interest, is not only a skill, but also not only an art, it has more things. That is what he drew from elementary school and gradually realized. When Liu Ce entered the middle school age, our country had resumed the college entrance examination system for 12 years.Those things that were completely destroyed before he was born - the long school system, indoctrination, reciting, repetition, examinations, competitions, scores, rankings, admission rates, have all been restored with his growth now, and they have become even worse.Regardless of the strengths and weaknesses of this education system, both fathers and mothers placed their original "broken dreams" on their sons, and also put their original "shattered shackles" on their sons, and he was their only child. His father is a professor at Sichuan University, and his mother is an accountant in a company.The biggest difference between parents is that they were born in very different times.Father was born in the early 1940s.Children in that era, as long as the family had money, had the opportunity to complete their university studies.The mother's fate was very different. This generation smashed the school and drove away the teachers at the age when they needed education most.For those past events, Ling Xiaoning still has fresh memories: "At that time Mao Zedong said that 'education needs revolution'. Many people have realized that there is a problem with education and hope to change it. In the end it failed because the 'education revolution' was hijacked to another place. We went the same way.” At Microsoft, Ling Xiaoning belongs to the “older generation” and was born in the same year as Liu Ce’s mother.There are certain things in the minds of this generation that will never be erased. "Actually, there are many things that people hate deeply in the current education system," Ling Xiaoning said, "we were against it at that time." Liu Ce was born on a university campus and lived among students, teachers and teachers' children since he was a child.There are almost no children who grow up in such an atmosphere who do not concentrate on reading.Shen Xiangyang's first-hand feeling, "It is difficult for people not to be affected by the environment", was once again verified by Liu Ce. "I keep studying, and I think the living environment is a big reason," Liu Ce said, "If I didn't live on a university campus, I might take another path now, and I wouldn't choose to study." Liu Ce knew what he didn't like since he was a child, and he especially hated some subjects, such as Chinese and politics, which was the same as most children.He also knows what he likes and devotes a lot of energy to the things he likes. This is rare among children, but it is not surprising.The strangest thing about Liu Ce is that he likes two things at the same time: mathematics and painting.He has invested boundless enthusiasm in these two fields, but their skills are irrelevant, and his way of thinking belongs to two completely different worlds. The school is a "world of mathematics" for him, where he participated in various mathematics competitions and achieved excellent results.He feels that many of the mysteries of the world lie in numbers.But outside of school, at home, the situation is completely different, it is a "painting world".His painting training continued throughout his childhood and youth, and it lasted for more than ten years. The degree of strictness and system is no less than that of any talented student in the Academy of Fine Arts today.He has specialized courses, teaching materials, guidance from famous experts, devotes a lot of time every day, and has a fixed place to learn painting.Of course, he also took advantage of the small space in his home to spread paper on the floor for painting. In the early 1990s, it was fashionable for families in cities to train their children in various skills, and painting was one of them.However, whether it is teachers, education experts, or parents of every family, they all tend to regard art as a kind of "extracurricular education", or "quality education".The meaning behind this phrase is: "useful but not necessary." However, Liu Ce's dedication to painting is not based on such a foundation.At that time, what he thought was: "In the future, I will either be a mathematician or a painter." My father does not paint, but he is not a complete layman in painting. His profession sometimes requires drawing, so he often uses techniques such as lines and colors.He especially likes to see his son's focused expression when painting, and feels that it is his own son.The mother also likes her son's painting, but she believes in "learn mathematics, physics and chemistry well, and you will not be afraid to travel all over the world".Comparing the two, or I feel that my son's love for mathematics is more in line with my own ideas.Her method is to give her son 5 math problems every day, and ask her son to finish these exercises before starting to draw. "Do what you have to do first, and then what you want to do," she always said to her son. Although the family is not rich, father and mother are still willing to spend a lot of money for their son to learn painting.Paper, brushes, paints, and various teaching materials are all expensive in the eyes of my son and cost a lot of money.When he grew up and recalled those past events, he also understood that what parents spent was not only money, but also time and energy.When the son was young, they put him on the beam of the bicycle, rode him for a long distance, took him to the Children's Palace, and waited outside until he had completed all the drawing lessons for the day, and then put him in the Take it home on your bike.When my son was a little older, I went to the bus stop to see him off and pick him up every day.At that time, the "weekend" was not implemented, and there was only one day on the weekend. Mom and Dad had a lot of housework to do, but the first thing every weekend was to take their son out to sketch or go to an art exhibition. He started to learn painting at the age of 7.Many children become interested in drawing at that age, or even earlier, but they soon feel that they have more important things to do, so they stop drawing.Fortunately for Liu Ce, he never stopped studying painting. "Most children's interest does not come from the classroom." He said, "I felt this way especially in the years of junior high school, because once in junior high school, both teachers and parents are emphasizing the rate of enrollment." It seems that he is the only one. Except, painting takes up a lot of time and also occupies his spiritual world. Sometimes you find that it is all that is needed to know what they say before school exams to see if the parents are unconditionally supportive of their child's interests.Liu Ce has never heard from his parents that "painting is a good thing, but it is not the most important thing", or "what time is it, and I am still painting". However, his mother once said to him: "If you want to enter a key university, you must first enter a key middle school; if you want to enter a key middle school, you must not be partial." Like all mothers, she also hopes that her son can spend more time at critical moments. A little time in the school curriculum, just refrain from talking.The sensitive son still realizes that his mother also has certain expectations, but his mind is full of his figures and his paintings, so he goes his own way as usual. Even in the year of graduating from junior high school and facing the senior high school entrance examination, he still spends a lot of time draw on. He began to pay the price for his choice.This year, he was not admitted to a key middle school. In fact, the school he went to later was very ordinary, neither a "city key" nor a "district key".This disappointed the whole family: he devoted too much enthusiasm to drawing and mathematics, and did poorly in most other subjects.Worst of all, his mind is filled with only things he likes, and he can't understand that test scores and key high schools are a matter of fate. Most Chinese families believe that several hurdles are the most important on the road of children's growth, and the senior high school entrance examination is the first hurdle.Now, from the mother's point of view, the son's "first pass" has not passed. There was an atmosphere of depression in the house in those days.No matter how refined and unconventional this family is, they cannot but feel the pressure of society.Parents' expectations of their sons are the same as those of other families, there is no essential difference.The mother knew what the generally accepted educational standards were, believed in the fashion of "if you want to go to university, you must choose Tsinghua University", and believed that the talent for painting could not guide her son to the path of a prestigious university. Liu Ce is still wandering in his own world.In the year he graduated from junior high school, he held a solo exhibition in Chengdu, becoming a well-known "young artist" in the city.He himself felt that he had a talent for painting.In the heart of this child, painting is not just a hobby. “这就是我一生要去追求的东西。”他看着自己的画展，在心里想。一想到能做个画家，就无比快乐。只不过，这一切看上去和他的升学毫无关系。 可是无论是在当时，还是在那之后，妈妈和儿子都没有想到，神秘的绘画能力要求一个人用一种完全不同的方式使用大脑。而刘策这种在数学世界和绘画世界之间来回跳跃的学习方式，竟会让他以难以置信的方式成长起来，让他的大脑变得如此与众不同。 在我们继续叙述“刘策学画”的故事之前，先回过头来，看一看人的大脑究竟是怎么回事。