Chapter 36 Part Five: I would rather be a president than study accounting

Dear Teacher Xu: Hello! I am 23 years old and just graduated this year. I am majoring in English. Because I have no work experience, I have encountered obstacles everywhere in finding a job.In addition, I am not very good at learning, and now there are a lot of people who can speak English.I don't have any other great skills either. In desperation, I thought of going abroad for gold plating, but what major should I study?Going out in English can only be a tool for communicating with others.To tell you the truth, my father and I have been inquiring hard for nearly two months. It is too difficult to learn English and want to cross majors. My father wants me to go to Singapore to study accounting, ACCA - Chartered Accountant of the United Kingdom.However, I just didn't like this thing and had a big fight with my dad.He felt that learning English was wrong because it was not a major.Is this really the case?

Looking at his old man's gray hair and his increasingly thin face, I really can't bear to let him worry about it anymore. Whether you like it or not, you should learn it first. People should first survive and make a living, and then consider personal interests.But as soon as I picked up those accounting books, I felt dizzy.My father saw that I was really uncomfortable, and he was frantically looking for ways for me to study abroad in other countries. He believed that as long as I went abroad to be gilded, it would not be difficult to find a job when I came back. Is it so useless to learn English?What should I study again?In my father's eyes, there is no better future for learning English than being a secretary, so he urgently asked me to study a major, and then work hard in this field.Little girl, what can I do?He said: Now that the family still has some money and can afford you, study a major well, no matter at home or abroad, it is too difficult to go to graduate school in China, and the only way is to go abroad, so now look for one way-go abroad.

But when I go abroad, I don’t know what major to study, and I don’t know what I like?We grope blindly like blind men. Please show us a bright way!I'm almost desperate... Please help this little bird that has lost its course and find her own piece of sky!I know you must be very busy at work, but please help me anyway, give me a glimmer of hope... helpless bird Dear Helpless Bird: This is the last weekend of 2002, the morning of December 28th.It was a wonderfully crisp winter air outside.But your letter gives me the feeling of suffocation.Below is my answer to your letter. 1. Criticize the "English tool is useless theory" The "English tool is useless theory" you said in your letter is wrong and absurd.I sue!You and your father think that English is a tool. However, "a worker must first sharpen his tool if he wants to do a good job." If the Chinese nation wants to continue to open up to the advanced nations of the world, communicate in depth, and prosper together, English is the most important image. Air is an indispensable "tool" like water.Those who have mastered this tool, that is, English talents are the hottest and most valuable talents now and in the future!

A car is a tool, a means of transportation.But cars include Mercedes-Benz, BMW and Xiali Geely.What level of tool is your tool?I think this is where your real troubles lie.As a student who graduated from the English Department, how well you learn English and how to improve it are your core issues.If your tool is only "auspicious", I think your employment prospects will not be auspicious. Improving the sharpness of the tool is the most important thing you should do. What you do is not the purpose of my letter.My main purpose of this letter is to talk about your father's interference with you and the shadow it will bring to your future development.But before talking about this topic, I think it is better to give you a little career counseling:

Since you are studying English at university, you should start thinking about your employment prospects from English, after all, this is your most competitive industry.Where is the way out for English?For example, English teaching is a huge market.From children's English, to elementary school, middle school, university, and working English...English test training (domestic and foreign exams), oral English training, English writing training and services, all walks of life, all ages, there are endless and huge knowledge about English. demand. Don't tell me you can't teach English.You have been studying here for four full years, as long as you persist in struggling for a few more months, concentrate all your energy on a certain teaching field, to observe, imitate, and copy - this is to borrow an art term, that is, to imitate a Follow the teaching of an excellent English teacher - you will definitely be able to become a qualified English teacher.Many teachers at New Oriental entered the teaching field in this way and then gradually developed their own teaching style.

There are many teachers in the world, but few actors.There are very few actors, because actors need to perform with personality, without personality, they are not actors.And there are many teachers because teachers basically pass on the torch and pass on knowledge to the next generation.The main function of the teacher is to teach personified on the basis of imitation.You are human, you have qualifications, and you can definitely be a good and qualified teacher. Here I simply point out to you the potential opportunities for you in the English teaching industry I am most familiar with.Three hundred and sixty lines, there are opportunities in every line, the key lies in how you correctly view your own abilities and how to tap your own value.That's all I have to say about employment issues.

I once wrote a letter to Ding Nan, a student from the English Department of Beijing Foreign Studies University (with her permission, I use my real name), about what English students study abroad and what they will do in the future.Your question is universal, and I have already given a comprehensive answer in the two replies to Ding Nan with nearly 10,000 words.Please read my letter to Ding Nan carefully.I believe it will answer 95% of your questions. 2. On family autocracy will destroy children's happiness. Talents—English talents, as well as computer talents, financial talents, management talents, marketing talents, media talents, engineering talents, and the "accounting talents" that your father loves, They are all talents that our society urgently needs and is eager to give high remuneration to hire and then quickly!Your father has a daughter who is as precious as a giant panda, but wants her to suffer as another animal.Really weird logic, blind guidance.

I am really indignant about this, and I even want to raise my arms and shout: A layman cannot lead an expert!A father must understand his daughter!Otherwise, he is not qualified to guide you!Resist, struggle, and force him to turn paternal love into knowledge, intervention into consideration, and coercion into loosening, so that he can gain the legitimacy to guide you. The poem said: Poor parents all over the world, who don't know that their daughter has become a talent! He also said: Who said that three springs can relieve the heart of an inch of grass? Your father's disturbing interference with your career is your unique predicament, the root cause of your annoyance and despair.Generally speaking, there are many ways for parents to destroy the happiness of their children, but for daughters, it is often to make her lose the ability to pursue love and happiness and complete her mission.And your father, tormenting you in this way, seems to me foolish and inexcusable.

After reading my letter, you may be able to make a reasonable choice about your major.But in this pattern of fatherly pressure and tutoring, your greatest tragedy may yet be yet to come.That is: if your father can drive you so desperately on a subject of which he has no knowledge, his meddling with you in any other matter of your future will surely destroy your happiness. Because happiness is a feeling.Foreign languages ​​and accounting are both professions. Your father's feelings can actually destroy your feelings.Well, if you encounter other things in the future-such things will happen, such as love, marriage, money, consumption methods and concepts, workplaces, places of residence, etc., your father will still interfere with you .

Parents' concern and guidance for their children is of course a good thing.But good things often turn into bad things.Did Mao Zedong want to make the Chinese people suffer when he launched the Great Leap Forward and anti-revisionism and anti-revisionism? NO!He must think that only in this way can the happiness of the Chinese people be ensured.But the result was a total collapse of the national economy, and the entire Chinese nation was miserable.Teacher Xu, who was born on the eve of the Great Leap Forward, was still not as tall as a girl can look up to because of malnutrition when I was a child.When I think about it, I feel indignant!

Does your father contain Mao Zedong-style authoritarian elements in such a brutal intervention in your profession?You know, among all tyranny, family tyranny is actually the most terrible tyranny.Family autocracy is the social foundation that has led to the imperial autocracy in China for thousands of years.The autocracy of imperial power was first bred and matured in Chinese families and received the warm support and sincere support of fathers and mothers.During the May 4th period, Ba Jin accused the feudal system of crimes, starting with the crimes of "family"!Cao Yu's "Thunderstorm" is also a merciless exposure of the cruelty of "patriarchy".A little earlier, it revolves around the life of a patriarchal big family, showing a feudal autocratic family concentration camp that destroys youth, love and life. Have the daughters of China been liberated today?I don't think so.From you, it is a simple and profound illustration.I believe that your father's intervention in your profession is actually just a small ice tip, and there may be more to the coldness and desolation below the iceberg!Therefore, I oppose feudalism and advocate the happiness of youth. First of all, I must start by opposing your father's education method!The moral basis of his doing so is to trample on the democratic spirit of the family; and the result of his doing so is actually disrespect for your inner happiness and therefore indifference to your own happiness in life.How terrible it is! trembling. Because of this letter, I will not meet you.Lest your father think that I am sowing discord between you and your father.I love your father (in fact, not necessarily. There is no love for no reason in the world, why should I love him?), but I love your pursuit of happiness more (I do love you. Loving you is my career)!Whoever destroys your happiness, I will fight to the end! --Although I know that if your father comes to me to argue and fight, you will definitely pick up a chair and hit me! sigh. Finally, let me give you some technical guidance: there are many, many things you can do, just don't learn "accounting that makes you dizzy as soon as you learn it"!And, why go to Singapore to study accounting?All kinds of international accounting certifications in China can also be learned.What to do specifically is a question of career design. I suggest you read my letter to Ding Nan again to find the answer to your future career.congratulations! wish all the best. I would rather be president than learn accounting! Listen to yourself! Xu Xiaoping PS: You can show your father the letter I wrote to Ding Nan, but don't disclose the above letter to him.If he sees this letter criticizing the feudal patriarchal system, which uses him as an excuse, I will worry about my safety.I don't want to hire a lot of bodyguards just yet, like bin Laden did.