Chapter 2 Part 1: Beautiful men are also afraid of choosing the wrong career

Dear Teacher Xu: I'm a guy who had excellent grades in college!But I'm another person who doesn't know what to do now!I have no direction, although I am studying for a master's degree in Beijing.I guarantee that there are overwhelming numbers of people in every school in the same miserable state as me!I am an "outstanding" representative of them!We are all crossing the river with our eyes closed - I hope to get your guidance! In 1997, I entered an electronic engineering university to study microelectronics. During the university, I served as the class monitor, secretary of the Youth League Committee, and chairman of the student union.I am very handsome, 181cm, and my appearance is not worse than F4 (if you find something wrong after meeting, I will replace it!).During the four years of university, I was the host of the school's cultural performances. I represented the school in many radio and television activities.I love sports. I have practiced boxing and karate in high school, and I have good physical fitness.I think I have a strong ability and desire to organize activities, and I never get tired of it.

Studying may not be too much of a problem for me. I am very smart, with an IQ of 130. I don’t need to put too much effort in each subject to get a good grade. I signed an agreement with the school in my senior year, and I was sent to Beijing without the test. Graduate school.Because of my achievements in literature and art, academic performance, social work, and appearance, I represented the Graduate School in May 2001 to participate in the "Asian Outstanding University Student Roundtable Conference" and visited several universities in Asia for half a month. . My dilemma is: it has been almost two years since I was recommended to graduate school in Beijing, and I found that this major is not what I like at all.I am a sociable person, and I can't sit still in the laboratory. At first, I accepted the postgraduate guarantee to come to Beijing to get a diploma. Only when I came here did I realize that the postgraduate guarantee is actually not very valuable.Among my postgraduate classmates, there are many people with low comprehensive quality, and they all think of themselves as noble.

My mentor is a strict person, saying that I am simply arrogant, ignorant, and a parasite who relies on money from my family (because I am too lazy to go to the laboratory, and I don’t know what to do when I go, so I go online and leave ).My girlfriend who has been dating for 5 years has also been coaxed into numbness by an ugly man in their unit who "gets the moon first".This also let me, a "childish boy" who has not yet left school, know the power of society, and I was depressed for half a year. I entered the school following the trend of the postgraduate entrance examination in society, and now I plan to leave China with the limelight of going abroad.However, just like what you wrote in your book: I don’t have my own life plan now, I don’t know what to study for a master’s degree, and I go abroad just to go abroad.Waste of time every day.

Many people said that my talent and aptitude are very good, and I can do something. After I came back from abroad, the leaders of the graduate school said that I "do not fly, but I will fly to the sky!" At that time, I just graduated from university and I was full of ambition.But now I am less motivated to fly, and I don't know where to fly.In the eyes of the instructor, I am a lazy duck who only eats and sleeps. Teacher Xu, in fact, what I need is not only consultation on going abroad, but also guidance on life planning.Now going abroad is a trend, and postgraduate entrance examinations are also a trend. As long as it is a trend, it may not be suitable for everyone.You care about people who go abroad, and when your broad mind still has capacity, please give us a group of embarrassing graduate students a little attention!

I eagerly hope to get your advice! Your student, Hao Yingjun Dear Hao Yingjun: We met in the office not long ago, and now I want to write down the point of view I told you last time, not only to affirm the results of our conversation, but also to help other friends who share your "miserable" situation.Speaking of the common situation, to be honest, your situation is actually quite special. Among the students I met, there are not many smart and handsome guys like you.This is my happy hour for consulting! If a man is handsome, like a woman is beautiful, he should be proud and boastful, and it is a kind of wealth.If this wealth is used properly, it will bring great success and happiness to our lives - such as Monroe, Hepburn, Shu Qi, Tom Cruise, Michael Jackson between plastic surgery and disfigurement, Kevin Koss Kevin Costner and others, what they have in common is that in addition to possessing professional skills that everyone can obtain, they also possess a beautiful appearance that others do not have—I would like to list a Chinese actor who represents handsome and masculine beauty , I can't find anyone, this is not a good thing, this is the tragedy of the male Chinese nation...

Well, let's not talk about this-no, I should say it!Because in fact, I am writing this letter to talk about this problem. Simply put, your image is so good, and your IQ is so high, this is a rare combination, which belongs to the composition of stars.I have read countless people, and there are so many people with high IQs, so many that I want to become a little more mentally retarded, and a little more mentally retarded the next day-because, what makes me depressed is that so many smart people with high IQs always live. People are neither human nor dog, desperate, desperate, including the miserable look when you came to see me!

Don't exaggerate my words!In fact, in the eyes of your mentor, you are no longer human: you are a "parasite" for a while, and you become a "lazy duck" for a while. You are all animals, but you are not a human being-ah, such a mentor!I think he is everything, but not a mentor!Mentors should be... like me.Your problem, or the so-called "miserable situation", is actually very easy to turn worry into joy and danger into safety.It was actually a mistake to enroll in microelectronics, a major that is extremely professional and theoretical, but you don't really like it.But this mistake was covered up in the past and continues to the present, for two reasons.One is that in Chinese universities, it is unthinkable to change careers after entering the industry.So, although microelectronics are not in your nature, you are still alive.The second reason is to blame your IQ - I have seen many students who, because they don't love their majors, study very hard, their lives are miserable, and they are eager to escape from the sea of ​​suffering - and because your IQ is really Not low, actually graduated with honors, and was recommended to the top ivory tower in this field - the Chinese Academy of Sciences, to continue to have intimate contact with this major that you hate so much, and continue to be a dewy couple.

With anger and disgust, come to do your master's homework, how can your supervisor - the old guy who has gained everything in life in this field and is proud of it, how can you not feel your class hatred, professional hatred , how can I not see it in my eyes, how can I not grit my teeth at you with anger in my heart!Poor your teacher, who, like you, is a tragic victim of this rigid education policy! Men are afraid of entering the wrong line of work, and women are afraid of marrying the wrong man.Studying microelectronics undergraduate and graduate students are all traps in your life.You have lived in the trap to this day, but you still have the courage, impulse and vitality to jump out of the trap. It is really not easy!Poor handsome man in the world, who doesn't like majors and loves self-mutilation...

what to do?I encourage you to listen to the call of your soul and boldly jump out of your professional directional thinking—it seems that if you learn electronics, you must learn it well and rely on it for food—this directional thinking is the real trap of your mind.And this spiritual trap is actually just a projection of the soul. As long as you turn on the light of the wisdom of free choice, you will see that this unfathomable trap turns out to be an endless flat plain, and your future will immediately become extremely broad and brilliant. . Your life is boundless as far as the eye can see, in the fields you like, love, yearn for, yearn for, invest in, prove, excited, brilliant and you continue to dream of: TV, media, cultural work, management Job... In short, the kind of job you should do is dealing with people, not electricity (but make the people you deal with feel electrified...).

In a speech at Tsinghua University, Professor Yang Zhenning quoted Einstein's story about why he chose physics instead of mathematics as an example, and told the students of Tsinghua University that what major to choose depends on which field you are interested in. Have higher judgment ability and greater love", "Young people should have a correct self-evaluation of their own preferences and judgment ability when facing choices." I am very disappointed - I thought my suggestion to you was my own unique consulting thought, but it was already explained as truth by the pillars of civilization like Einstein and Yang Zhenning!I thought my statement was unprecedented!sigh.

However, at the same time, I feel hopeful—since the ideas advocated by Einstein and Yang Zhenning have not been widely recognized and consciously applied in front of your professors of the Chinese Academy of Sciences and in front of China’s education system, Mr. Xu and I The historical mission is actually a long way to go!In order for an excellent student like you to find his own blue sky to fly, I am just a cold meal for the predecessors and sages, and I am also the most glorious ideological chef... As for this master's program in microelectronics, since you have a few months left to graduate, I advise you to get through this degree even if you are frowning.You have been suffering in this field for six years, and you will suffer for another seven or eight months, just enjoy it as the ordeal that a man must complete!If you have just graduated from a bachelor’s degree, I would beg you not to study this master’s degree, but to study a double bachelor’s degree or a master’s degree in liberal arts, or simply do nothing and find a related job directly, and you will be able to do so. There will be no more pain and despair like today! I strongly recommend and firmly support you to immediately get rid of the torture of electronics, and start to find an industry you like, start from scratch, start from odd jobs (in fact, it is not so miserable), start from part-time jobs, and pursue your hobbies and director.Didn't your instructor say you are a "lazy duck"?When you fly into the field you like and "fly into the sky", oh, he will say, this guy, I said he is a duck, ugly duckling - look, he really turned into a swan! The Chinese male version of the ugly duckling is about to be born! As for your dream of being a host, I have met you and evaluated you in person. I think you are fully qualified and capable to engage in such a career. I am willing to support you and even recommend a producer of a program to meet you !Many TV producers, because they don't like TV but like microelectronics, often ask me for help, so I know them. Your condition is really good.Chinese hosts, beautiful ones, are often not thoughtful, and those who are thoughtful are often not beautiful.You can not have it both ways.And there are really not many beautiful and smart combinations like yours. You, an outstanding representative of youth and a symbol of vitality, actually feel helpless when life is most brilliant and budding. This is really a problem with Chinese education.Look at Yang Lan, Xu Gehui, Shen Bing, Zeng Zimo...these people are not from the Broadcasting Institute, but graduated from ordinary universities, and they have all become excellent hosts on CCTV or other TV stations. Kings and generals, would you rather be kind?Liberal arts and science, all can host!You will become an excellent, outstanding, sexy, charming, F16 (4 times worse than F4!), B52, super strategic bomber level host! How many girls will be intoxicated for you; how many teachers Xu will make you feel inferior (including the mentor who said you are an animal)! I'd rather be a host than engage in microelectronics! Xu Xiaoping