Chapter 50 Agu Aweng's Confused Sutra

The ancients said: Don't be stupid or deaf, don't be an aunt.It means that as the parents or parents-in-law in the family, you should ask less about the private affairs of your son-in-law and daughter-in-law, and turn a blind eye to them. How to get along harmoniously in family life is a kind of knowledge, and the relationship between elders and younger generations is also the top priority in family life.If the elders know how to turn a blind eye and close one eye when getting along with the younger generation, there will be fewer conflicts in the family, and a lot of troubles will be reduced for the elders.Think about it in another way, as a junior, you should also understand the truth, and you can’t take everything seriously, so that the seniors and young can be orderly, each can enjoy himself, and the relationship is harmonious.

During the reign of Emperor Tang Dynasty, Guo Ziyi made great achievements in sweeping up the chaos of Ping'an history, and became a hero in the revival of the Tang Dynasty.Therefore, Tang Daizong respected him very much, and married his daughter Princess Shengping to Guo Ziyi's son Guo Yan as his wife.Both of these young couples rely on Lao Tzu as the backer, and they are not convinced by each other, so quarrels are inevitable. One day, the couple quarreled over a trivial matter. Guo Yan saw his wife putting on airs and not paying attention to her husband at all, and said angrily:

"What's so great about you is that your father is the emperor! To tell you the truth, your father's country was saved by my father's defeat of Anlu Mountain. My father didn't become the emperor because he looked down on the throne of the emperor. .” In a feudal society, the emperor was the only one who respected himself, and anyone who wanted to be the emperor would be punished by being ransacked and beheaded.When Princess Shengping heard that Guo Yan dared to make such wild words, she felt that she had found an opportunity and a reason to vent her anger. She immediately ran back to the palace and reported her husband's rebellion just now to Tang Daizong.She fully thought that the imperial father would punish Guo Yan severely for this, and vent her anger on her behalf.

Tang Daizong listened to his daughter's report and said calmly: "You are a child, and there are many things you don't understand. Let me tell you, what your husband said is the truth. The world was preserved by your father-in-law, Guo Ziyi. If your father-in-law wanted to be emperor, he would have been the emperor long ago, and the world would be the same." It’s not our Li family’s property for a long time.” He also comforted his daughter, telling her not to catch her husband’s words and label her as “rebellious” indiscriminately, and the young couple should live in harmony.Under the patient persuasion of the emperor's father, the princess calmed down and returned to Guo's house automatically.

This matter was soon heard by Guo Ziyi, but he was frightened.He felt that it was okay for the young couple to fight, but his son uttered wild words and was close to treason, which really annoyed him extremely.Guo Ziyi immediately ordered Guo Ai to be tied up, and quickly went to the palace to meet the emperor, demanding that the emperor punish him severely. However, Emperor Tang Daizong had a pleasant face, and he didn't mean to blame at all. He also comforted and said: "You two quarreled, and your words were too much. Let's not be serious when we are old people. Isn't there a saying that's not stupid, not deaf, not for the family. Weng', how can we take what the sons and daughters say in the boudoir as the truth? When we old people hear it, we will treat ourselves as deaf and fools, and just pretend that we didn't hear it."

Hearing the reasonable words of the old in-laws, Guo Ziyi's heart felt like a stone fell to the ground, and she immediately felt relieved, seeing a catastrophe turned into a trivial matter. The young couple closed the door and quarreled, and when they were angry, any violent words might come out.If the sentence is true, there will be no peace in the family.What benefits can you get if you kill someone without nodding your head? Tang Dynasty Emperor used "the old man should pretend to be deaf and dumb" to deal with the young couple's quarrel. Turn disaster into joy and bring the young couple back together.His account of the pros and cons of the gains and losses is very clear.

The relationship between families is a difficult issue to grasp.It is an important and sensitive issue for the elderly to deal with their family relationships, specifically their relationship with younger generations.It is not only related to family harmony and the relationship between younger generations, but also affects the physical and mental health of the elderly.Of course, children should be filial and respectful, and try their best to satisfy the elderly.However, as an elderly person, it is also very important to have a correct understanding and attitude, and to pay attention to the methods and art of getting along.Don't take things too seriously, this should be the "truth" summed up by the old people from their personal experience.As an elder, you must understand this truth in order to make the family relationship more harmonious.