Chapter 18 Section 17 Standard Answers for Alcoholics

Outside the door, stood a beautiful girl.I recognized that it was one of my students, she was holding a pair of shoes, and I realized why I didn't hear the footsteps just now. "It's so late, what do you need from me?" I asked knowingly. "May I come in?" "Of course." I smelled a strong smell of alcohol in her reply. She wandered in, and I could tell she was pretty drunk. "you're drunk." "I'm not drunk." The alcoholic's standard answer. "It's not good for a girl to get drunk in the middle of the night."

"I don't care." She said drunkenly, "I just want to cry now." "Then you can cry." So the girl burst into tears, and after crying for a while, she said, "I don't have a father, I want my father." "Your dad just left you?" "No, he has been away from me for 10 years, I want a father." The girl cried like a pear and rain, like a young child after being separated from her father. "I understand your pain." Compassion is the only option in that situation. "I want you to hug me." The girl stopped crying suddenly and made her request to me.

"You know as a psychiatrist, I can't do that." "I'm not your patient." "You're drunk tonight, I'll take you back." "No, I'm going to spend the night with you tonight." "what do you want to do?" "I want you to want me." "You are really drunk." "I'm not drunk. If you don't want me, I'll sell myself." The girl used her drunken logic to completely push the responsibility of her life onto me.According to her logic, if I don't want her, I will be responsible for all her future problems.It sounds like I have no choice but to have her.I wanted her, not only did I not make a mistake, but I also made great contributions.

This kind of alcoholic logic is actually a main logic of ordinary people's daydreams.When I read martial arts novels, I often read such plots: A virgin with excellent martial arts skills is accidentally poisoned by a devil.This poison has a strange toxicity, and it can only be cured by intercourse with another virgin boy.As a result, the virgin and the virgin were forced to perform a tragic scene of saving their lives to save each other in a certain glacier.I believe that when many readers read such a plot, they will probably imagine that they are the protagonist in the novel who sacrificed his life to save the beauty.

Now, a living girl is performing the daydream-like plot in the martial arts novel in front of me.Fortunately, I am pure in heart and clearly aware of the absurdity of the alcoholic's logic, so I did not mess myself up.How did it end? I saw that the girl was very drunk, so I could only arrange for her to sleep in another room of mine with her clothes on.Early the next morning, after she sobered up, she also realized the absurdity of her behavior. After saying sorry to me, she left quietly.I don't know what happened to her later, I can only pray in my heart that she can take good care of her life and not let herself be intoxicated by alcohol.

Alcoholic dad who groped daughter's genitals Gabe was given a two-year suspended sentence by the court for groping his daughter's private parts.As part of his probation, he must undergo weekly psychotherapy.He was referred to the Fifth Avenue Psychotherapy Center after a year of psychotherapy, and I became Gabby's psychiatrist. "Gabe, can you briefly describe to me what happened at that time?" I wanted to know what happened to Gabe. "Oh, I made a mistake after drinking. That day, when I got home drunk, I suddenly had an urge to touch my daughter's lower body. So, I dragged her over."

"and then?" "My daughter broke free from my hand and ran to tell her mother, who immediately called the police and I was arrested a few minutes later." Gabe shook his head with a wry smile. "Did your wife call the police?" "My daughter's mother." "You are not married?" "Yes, she resented me just because we were not married, and she finally seized the opportunity this time. In court, she talked nonsense and wanted to kill me. Fortunately, I did not do anything bad. I just touched my daughter when I was drunk." "She resents you just because you weren't married to her?" I always like to get the facts straight.

"Because I have another woman." "Another woman?" "Yes, I also had a baby with that woman." "Because you didn't marry them, you avoided committing bigamy." "Yes, I have three children with that woman and two with the mother of this daughter I am now speaking of." "Okay, I know your current situation. My task is not to make a moral judgment on you, I just want you to understand yourself through these things that happened, and understand why you put yourself in such a predicament." "I now understand what is wrong with me and I treat my children very well. After being banned from seeing my daughter for a year, I can now see her once a week and we are very happy every time we see each other."

American society is a very rigid society in terms of law. If you are sentenced to not seeing your daughter within one year, then any attempt to see your daughter will be considered illegal.The method of punishment is to suspend the probation period and send him to prison immediately.Gabe honestly didn't dare to see his daughter in the past year, and in the second year, once a week, he didn't dare to cross the threshold.Gabby now has two unmarried wives and five children, but he didn't want to marry them, so he found another girlfriend.He promised to treat his girlfriend well this time.

In the second session of psychotherapy, I wanted Gabby to explore the reasons for his drunken mistakes, and he pointed the finger at his father without hesitation. "You know what? My dad raped me when I was 10 years old."