Chapter 34 6.f The most time-wasting sentence pattern: "It would be great if only...!"

The language we use often limits our thinking.And as a result of our thinking being swayed by the language we use, our behavior is also influenced by it.There are so many examples like this. What I want to talk about today is such a bad sentence pattern that restricts our thinking and affects our behavior--"It would be great if..." This sentence pattern is used to express regret, and "regret ” is the biggest waste of time—because the emotion won't help anyway. When people encounter embarrassment in life, the idea expressed in this sentence pattern will involuntarily pop up in their minds:

* "If only I were Monkey King!" * "If only I had money!" * "If only I hadn't gotten married!" * "I wish I had read more books!" * "If only I were in America!" The reason why such thoughts come up in times of embarrassment is that most of us have long understood a simple truth: the present we face depends largely on our past.However, the nature of time determines that everything penetrated by it will be frozen into history and cannot be changed.It doesn't matter how intense the regret is. Another reason is the inability to accept the limitations of one's own reality.Everyone is not perfect when they come to this world, and no matter how hard they try, they are destined not to have a perfect life. (Of course, we still need to work hard, because hard work can make us relatively perfect or more perfect or close to perfect.) Therefore, short people hope that they can be taller, ugly men hope that they can be more handsome, and ugly women hope that they can be taller. I can become more beautiful, old people hope that they can at least look younger, obese people hope that they can become thinner, and skinny people hope that they can become stronger...

The past cannot be changed.Worrying now is useless.So, as long as you are a bystander, it is extremely easy to see how unrealistic these ideas are.Converting these unrealistic sentences into realistic versions, it goes like this: * "It would be great if I were Monkey King!"--But you are not Monkey King.So, you don't have 72 vellus hairs to turn 72 for you to do your homework; you don't have a golden hoop, so you can't provoke this big guy in front of you. * "If only I had money!" -- but you don't have money.So, problems that can be solved with money are not problems that you can solve.

* "If only I hadn't been married!"--But you're married.So, no matter how much you like this woman in front of you, as soon as you start to make a move, trouble will follow. * "I wish I had read more books!" -- but you didn't.So, there is nothing you can do now that you regret it. * "If only I were in America!" - but you are still in China.Therefore, most of the good things in the United States have nothing to do with you. The past cannot be changed.Worrying now is useless.But future embarrassment may be avoidable -- if actions now don't go wrong.In other words, the right action must be taken today to avoid embarrassment in the future.so:

* Get rid of the lazy habit of not doing homework until the night before the homework is due, and finish the homework first before going to play hard.If you are sure that the other person is not a good person, then stay away from him as soon as possible, and it is best not to let him know of your existence. * Don't worry about having no money now.Cheer up and start thinking of ways to make more money today; if making more money is difficult, finding ways to spend less and save more is also a good way. * Think about whether divorce is feasible and easy.If not, even if you successfully divorced, if you want to divorce the woman opposite in the future, it may still be very difficult and unfeasible.

* Then start reading more books and learn more from today.Anyway, it is not easy for anyone to learn anything, but as long as you persist, most skills may be learned to a relatively proficient level. * Solve the current trouble first.And if you really feel that the United States is better, start preparing for immigration today, and you will find that you need to do a lot.Try Harder. Most of the time, a person is unrealistic because his ideas are unrealistic, and his ideas are unrealistic, often because the sentence pattern he uses determines that no matter how it is replaced, it can only create unrealistic sentences.

Plus, "If only...!" is not only unhelpful, it can even be harmful.Because, this sentence pattern will lead to a very scary sentence pattern - "It would be great if... But,...!" * "It would be great if I were Monkey King!"--but it's not Monkey King.But I can let go and not hand in my homework!I don't have a golden cudgel either, but I can buy a knife and kill you bastard. * "If only I had money!"--But I don't have money.But, I can borrow it, if I can’t borrow it, I can cheat, if I can’t, I can steal it, rob it... * "If only I hadn't been married!"--But I'm married.But, never mind, the woman opposite doesn't know anyway...

* "I wish I had read more books!"--but I didn't.But, I'm going to get a fake graduation certificate. Anyway, there are a lot of people using fake certificates now. Otherwise, how can those who sell fake certificates make so much money? ! * "If only I were in America!" - But I'm still in China.Come on, I'll just find a way to sneak in; or do something, and then go to the US embassy to seek asylum, maybe I can get a green card. Therefore, when thoughts like "It would be great if...!" flashed in your mind, you should immediately remind yourself, "Stop! This thought is the most delaying thing!", "Stop! This thought is the most useless! ’” If you’re wondering how ludicrous an idea like “If only . . .

* "If only I didn't waste so much time!" --But you've wasted so much time.Still wasting time now!