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Chapter 8 3.a Accurate perception of time

treat time as a friend 李笑来 4113Words 2018-03-18
Only when we become friends with time, can we truly know its preciousness and its miraculousness.Before I knew it, I didn't even know that I had made him my enemy.After struggling for many years, I thought I was fighting the world.Suddenly one day, I found myself like the knight Don Quixote described by Cervantes.Don Quixote has a labeled identity - "knight", so he has and adheres to the "chivalry" that should be in line with his identity.The windmill is the object of his struggle, but he doesn't know that his enemy is actually the invisible "wind", and the thing that should belong to him is completely out of his control, but has become his own. The owner of "his brain".

Like everyone else, I have been pretentious since I was a child, and of course I have attached various labels to myself. I advocate fairness, yearn for freedom, yearn for equality, and yearn for hope.For a long time, I was like most people, but what I saw was injustice, what I felt was shackles, what I experienced was inequality, and what I slowly disappeared was hope.Now I would guess that all people must go through such a stage, but only a few people can get through it.Once I said in a class of hundreds of people, "Many people have involuntarily thought of suicide. Students who have had suicidal thoughts, even for a moment, please raise your hands honestly." --Almost none People don't raise their hands.Then I said, "Trust me, you are not alone".

The moment I realized that I was just another Don Quixote that day, I felt really weird: I was able to experience rebirth in the fire while fearing ashes.The perception directly from the senses is easy to share with others, but the ideological experience is often difficult to express in the inherently flawed language.However, I think there should be many people who have had the same experience as me. Rebirth does not mean being reborn in the blink of an eye.It turns out that infants with adult consciousness have more joy and relatively greater and more pain.At that time, I didn't know that I had the opportunity to be friends with time, but I only vaguely understood that I couldn't waste time anymore.Now, of course, I don't think I'm capable of wasting time any more than I am capable of managing time as a human being.At most, I can betray time by evading some responsibilities—but how sinful is that?After reading Milan Kundera's novel "The Unbearable Lightness of Being", a friend summarized that avoiding responsibility will bring ease, but that is exactly "The Unbearable Lightness of Being"!

No one doesn't know their friends.The so-called "true friends" must be, and can only be, the few people who are finally proved to be the ones we really know.In the same way, if there is an opportunity to be friends with time, and there is a desire to be friends with time, why not patiently understand all aspects of time? Everyone has their own luck.me too.One of my good fortunes was that one day, almost five years ago, while wandering the Internet, I came across a book called "A Strange Life" by Granin, first published in 1974.This is defined as a documentary novel based on real events, which tells how a former Soviet entomologist, Aleksandr Alexandrovich Lyubishev5, through his original so-called " Chronostatistics" achieved astonishing success in a lifetime.

No one, not even those close to Alexander Alexandrovitch Lyubishev, had any idea of ​​the size of his legacy. He published more than seventy academic works during his lifetime.Among them are classic works on dispersion analysis, biological taxonomy, and entomology; these works have been widely translated and published abroad.He wrote a total of more than 500 printed sheets of various papers and monographs.Five hundred printed sheets equals 12,500 typescripts.That's a huge number, even among professional writers. In the history of science, Ayler, Gauss, Helmgortz, and Mendeleyev all left huge legacy.I have always been puzzled by this prolificacy.This is difficult to explain, but it is also quite natural - in ancient times, people wrote more.As for scholars today, the multi-volume complete works are a rare, even strange, phenomenon.Even writers seem to be writing less than they used to.

Lyubishev's legacy consisted of several parts: writings on the taxonomy of ground fleas, history of science, agriculture, genetics, plant protection, philosophy, entomology, zoology, evolution, atheism.In addition, he wrote memoirs, reminiscing about many scientists, talking about various stages of his life and Perm University... He gave lectures, served as the director of the teaching and research section of the university and the head of a department of the research institute, and often visited various places; in the 1930s, he traveled all over the European part of Russia, went to many collective farms, and conducted field research on fruit tree pests, corn pests, and chinchillas. ... In his so-called spare time, as a "break", he studies the taxonomy of ground fleas.For this alone, the workload was considerable: by 1955, Lyubishev had collected thirty-five ground flea specimens.A total of thirteen thousand.5,000 commons fleas had their organs sliced.A total of three hundred kinds.These ground fleas were identified, measured, sectioned, and specimend.He collected five times more material than the Institute of Zoology.He studied the classification of flea beetles all his life.This requires a special talent for deep research, a deep understanding of this kind of work, its value and its inexhaustible novelty.Someone asked the famous histologist Nefermevaki how he could spend his whole life studying the structure of worms. He was surprised: "Worms are so long, but human life is so short!"

It's a thin booklet, so I read it in less than an hour.After covering up, I can only sigh.For an ordinary person like me, this kind of master's realm is just so-called unattainable.Easier said than done. Many years ago, when I was about 20 years old, I forgot that because I read the book by Li Ao, I felt that his method of keeping a diary was quite reasonable, so I started to learn to keep a daily "event log" (even log). ).Except for the events that I have experienced, I don’t remember anything, try not to remember my impressions, don’t remember my feelings, and only record the events themselves.for example,

December 20, 1995, Yanji City 1. Host dealer meeting 2. Received a total of ××××× yuan in bonuses for the previous month. 3. Li Kun invited me to dinner, and I haven't seen him for four months. ... May 10, 1996, Jilin City 0. For a week, I didn’t do anything serious, but read a few boring novels. So far, I still keep this habit, and I have benefited a lot from it.In fact, it only takes about 10 minutes a day.Later, in order to further save time, I simply put this book on a rope and hung it on the wall facing the toilet in the bathroom at home. Every night before going to bed, I sat on the toilet and finished writing.Such simple logging has huge benefits.Every year I come down, I know what I did last year, and that alone is invaluable.After I turned 30, I felt that I was doing more and more truly meaningful things.For example, here's a put together account of some of the events of my second book:

September 12, 2004, Beijing 1. The final draft of "Toefl 6-point Composition" was handed over to Dou Zhongchuan, the editor in charge. ... November 9, 2005, Chengdu 1. Received express from Dou Zhongchuan, and assisted in revising the third-inspection opinion of "Toefl 6-point composition" ... January 27, 2006, Beijing 1. Received a courier from Xu Yanqing, "Toefl 6-point composition", 20 copies. ... May 29, 2006, Beijing 1. Submit the revised draft of the second edition of the TOEFL composition essay, which is renamed "ToEFL iBT High Score Composition"

... August 3, 2006, Beijing 1. Received the express delivery from Xu Yanqing, "ToEFL iBT High Score Composition" second edition, ten volumes. ... October 16, 2007, Beijing 1. Received Ma Ning Express, "ToEFL iBT High Score Composition" third edition, seventh printing, ten copies. ... However, I have such a habit, after reading "A Strange Life", I was just taken aback by Lyubishev's master realm.After almost two years, when I read it again, I was surprised to find, "Huh? I'm so stupid, I should have understood it earlier!" Lyubishev's log is an "event-time log".His method is more advanced than Li Ao's.Li Ao's event records often only record the name of the event, which is a result-based record; while Lyubishev's "event-time log" is a process-based record.The nuance here is that process-based documentation can only be more detailed than outcome-based documentation.

The following is an excerpt from Lyubishev's journal entry in "A Strange Life": Ulyanovsk.April 7, 1964. Taxonomic entomology (drawing two pictures of a nameless bag moth) - three hours and fifteen minutes. Identification bag moth - 20 points. Additional work: writing to Slava - two hours and forty-five minutes. Social Work: Plant Protection Team Meeting - Two hours and twenty-five minutes. Rest: write to Igor - ten minutes; Ulyanovsk Pravda - ten; Leo Tolstoy's "Sevastopol Chronicle" - One hour and twenty-five minutes. Ulyanovsk.April 8, 1964. Taxonomic entomology: identification of bag moths, end - two hours and twenty minutes. Commencement of the report on bag moths - one hour and five minutes. Additional work: Letters to Davytova and Briahel, six pages - three hours and twenty minutes. The round trip - thirty minutes. Rest - shave. Ulyanovsk Pravda - fifteen points. "Izvestia" - ten. "Literary News" - twenty points. The Vampire by A. Tolstoy, sixty-six pages--one hour and thirty minutes. Process-based records are not only more detailed, but also have another huge benefit - when encountering bad results, it is easier to find the reason.After figuring out the difference between "process-based" and "result-based" records, I started trying to add time to each event I recorded. In less than two weeks, I immediately realized another huge benefit of this new method of recording: it will make your sense of time more and more accurate.Earlier we talked about the feeling that everyone has "time is getting faster and faster", and why everyone has this feeling.And feeling like this can cause us a lot of unnecessary anxiety.Anxiety itself does not help, only negative.My experience is that this process-based "event-time log" records can adjust my sense of time, making it easier to determine "real realistic goals" when estimating any workload.It is precisely because of this that the goal can always be basically achieved, so it can basically be regarded as "overcoming anxiety". When I read "A Strange Life" for the third time, I really noticed this passage: Lyubishev must have developed a peculiar sense of time.The biological watch that ticks in the depths of our organism has become a sensory and perceptual organ in him.The basis for my inference is this: I met him twice, both of which are recorded in his diary, and the time is very accurate - "one hour and thirty-five minutes", "one hour and fifty minutes"; Of course he didn't look at his watch at the time.I walked with him, unhurriedly, I accompanied him; he felt the hour hand move on the surface by means of an inner attention--for him, the rapid flow of time was visible and tangible. Yes, he seemed to be in this torrent, feeling the light passing coldly. People like Lyubishev are friends of time.They understand time, through long-term deliberate training, they can feel all the actions of time without even needing a watch-of course, there is only one action of time, and they pass by themselves. This is why I wrote such a paragraph in the "Preface": I have a friend called Time.She and I are really childhood sweethearts, and I have been with her for more than 20 years in silence before I really get to know her.She originally had no face, but because I always take pictures of her with text, she can always be by my side.She is ruthless in time, but I can regard her as a friend, because she once let me understand, and she always proved that no matter what I do, as long as I pay patience, she will accompany me and even help me wait until the result It has always been delivered to me as it is and has never disappointed me.It was because of having time as a friend that I could have had a chance at liberation just by using my mind. Since it is impossible to "manage time", the solution can only be to do everything possible to truly understand yourself, to truly understand time, and to perceive time accurately; In time", is what I say - "Be friends with time".
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