Chapter 6 Chapter 6 Variety of "Hands" and "Fingers"

Jacques-Louis David's portrait of Napoleon in his study, 1812.In the painting, Napoleon poses in his iconic, world-famous hand-in-pocket pose.Is his action caused by the pain of gastric ulcer, or is he trying to tell others that he has a good time with the painter? There are 27 small bones in the human hand, including 8 pebble-shaped bones in the wrist.The bones of our hands are connected to each other through a network of ligaments, which rely on the stretching of muscles to complete various activities of the joints.Scientists have long discovered that there are far more neural connections between the human hands and the brain than other parts of the human body. Therefore, the movements or gestures of the hands can often accurately and meticulously reflect our inner emotional state.At the same time, since we usually hold our hands in front of our bodies, even the smallest movements of our hands are easy to observe.

In daily life, most people have several characteristic hand movements or gestures that are unique to them.For example, whenever "Napoleon" is mentioned, the image of such a man will emerge in people's minds: his hands are inserted in the pockets of his upper body vest, and only one thumbs up is exposed.Some people even demonstrate this action in person, or ridicule the reason for Napoleon's action, but the content of the story is similar, nothing more than some folklore and anecdotes.For example, Napoleon suffered from a severe stomach ulcer; or, he actually winds his watch with this action; he has an ulterior skin disease.Or some people think that in that era, it was impolite to put your hands in your pockets, and Napoleon used it to show his authority.Some even said he did it because he had breast cancer; or because his hand was disabled, so he had to hide it.In addition, it is also said that he hid a sachet in his underwear, and he would reach in to touch it and smell it from time to time; while others believed that this was a way for Napoleon to entertain himself.In addition, some people simply said that it was because the painter thought it was troublesome to draw hands, so he put them in his pocket.

In fact, the real story should go something like this: In 1738, before Napoleon was born, François Neveron published a book called A Guide to Conduct in High Society.In the book, the author describes the movement like this: "The posture of putting hands in pockets is a common male movement, which is more common among well-educated gentlemen. This posture not only reflects the heroism of men, but also highlights the well-educated men. educated them in a respectful and proper gentlemanly demeanor." Therefore, when Napoleon saw himself in the portrait in this pose, he was very happy to say to the painter, "Dear David, you know me so well." identity pose.

Through various history books, we found that this gesture is not quite the signature action of Napoleon.In fact, the pose in the famous portrait of Napoleon was not based on his actual movements, but the painter completed the portrait from his memory, and the pose was added by the painter himself.However, what he didn't expect was that the hand in the pocket would become famous far and wide.However, this shows that the painter Jacques-Louis David understood the close relationship between this gesture and the status of authority. Napoleon was very short, only 5 feet 4 inches tall (about 1.64 meters), but in this painting he looks over 6 feet (1.85 meters).

For thousands of years, time and space have changed, society has changed, but there is only one rule of communication that has not changed. The status of a person in society determines the order in which he has the right to speak in a conversation. The higher your status and authority, the more likely it is that others will remain silent when you speak.The higher your status and authority, the more likely it is that others will remain silent when you speak.For example, there was such a record in Roman history: a humble man was sentenced to death for interrupting the words of Julius Caesar. Today, we live in a society that promotes freedom of speech, where anyone who wants to express their opinion can do so.In Britain, Australia, and the United States, some people even openly interrupt the speech of the president or prime minister to express their views, or boo the speeches of the president or prime minister because of their objection.In the eyes of others, their behavior seems to be very ordinary, nothing special. In 2003, British Prime Minister Tony Blair received such "courtesy" when he gave a speech on the Iraqi conflict on television.

In many countries, one of the main functions of the hand is to act as an "invisible punctuation mark", which plays the role of changing the role of the talker in a conversation.The first to use the "hands up" action is the Italians and the French.People from these two countries are recognized as the "sign language speakers" in the world who use their hands most frequently in conversation.However, such cases are rare in the UK, because the British consider it impolite to move their hands too much when speaking, and only those who are not educated will do it. From the point of view of the Italians, deciding the order of speaking is really a simple matter. Those who want to speak can express their views as long as they raise their hands.When other people see this, they will put their hands down or put their hands behind their backs and listen quietly.So, if you want to express your opinion on Italians, the most direct and effective way is to raise your hand.Of course, you can just stare at the other person and just raise your hand.However, if you find that the other person has a tendency to speak and you don't want to give up the right to speak at this time, then there is a little trick that can help you successfully stop the other person from speaking: gently grab his arm so that he Unable to raise hand to speak.Many people think that the reason why Italians have frequent physical contact with each other when they speak is entirely due to their warm and friendly nature.However, in fact, the Italians have only one purpose in doing this, and that is to restrict the opponent's hand movements so that they can speak freely.

In this chapter, we will introduce the reader to some of the most common and widely used hand and thumb movements. The way to silence an Italian is simple: put his hands behind his back. When a person summarizes previous discussions, a little observation can tell you his personal attitude towards these views: leaning towards this, with reservations, or against it.When making a closing statement, people often open the palm of one hand to state one point, and then switch hands to gesture when another point is discussed. Generally speaking, right-handed people will use their right hand to supplement their gestures when talking about their favorite points, while left-handers do the opposite.Generally speaking, right-handed people will use their right hand to supplement their gestures when talking about their favorite points, while left-handers do the opposite.

Using various gestures to assist in the conversation can not only attract the attention of the other party, strengthen the effect of the conversation, but also deepen the memory of the conversation content of the individuals participating in the conversation. Geoffrey Barty and Nina McLoughlin at the University of Manchester in the United Kingdom conducted an experimental study on this.In the experiment, the volunteers will hear the stories of some familiar cartoon stars, such as Roger Rabbit, Tweedy the bird and Sylvester the big cat.Although the content of these stories is the same, the methods of telling them are slightly different. Some narrators will show the scene of the story with simple and vivid actions while telling the story.For example, a quick movement of the hand is used to demonstrate the motion of running, a hand to move the hair to represent a hair dryer, and an outstretched arm to imitate a fat opera singer, while some narrators do not move at all.Ten minutes later, through the test, the experimenters found that if the narrator cooperates with hand movements in the process of telling the story, the audience's grasp of the details of the story is three times that of the volunteers who just listened to the story.This confirms that hand movements can significantly enhance our memory for something.

Next, I will analyze and discuss the 15 most common gestures or hand movements in daily life and work, their meanings and usage methods. The action of "gripping hands" expresses the person's great anticipation. Two days ago, a friend came to my house to discuss with us the upcoming holiday skiing plan.During the conversation, she kept leaning on the back of the chair, looked at the couple with a smile on her face, rubbed her palms together quickly, and said loudly excitedly, "You know, I can't wait to go tomorrow!" In fact, She didn't need to say anything, we had already read her mind, because her "gripping" action had already told us clearly how impatient she was and how much she looked forward to the holiday.People often use the action of rubbing their palms to express their expectation for something.Before throwing the dice, people will place the dice in their palms and rub them repeatedly in the hope that they can roll a number that is favorable to them.

People often use the action of rubbing their palms to express their expectation for something.Before throwing the dice, people will place the dice in their palms and rub them repeatedly in the hope that they can roll a number that is favorable to them.The host of the party will rub the microphone in his hand and say, "Now, let's call out the next speaker and listen to his ideas!" After the office, the hands that were originally clenched suddenly loosened, and they started rubbing non-stop, and then excitedly announced loudly, "We just received a big order!" However, when a waiter walks up to you just before closing Don't think that he really wants to serve you so badly when he rubs his palms and says "do you want anything else, sir".In fact, his questioning at this time is actually a drunkard's intention, and his real purpose is to hope that you can give him a considerable tip.

Also, the speed at which people rubbed their palms together hinted at who they thought would be the beneficiaries of the talks.For example, you want to buy a house, so you come to a real estate agency.After you state your requirements, the real estate agent rubs your palms together quickly and says, "Great, I have the house you want!" Here, the real estate agent hopes to let you Know that you will be the beneficiary of this sale.Just imagine, if the other way around, when he said this sentence, he rubbed his palms very slowly, how would you feel? You may well feel that he is hiding something, that he is evasive, or that you may even feel that he wants the deal to benefit him, not you. The speed at which the palms are rubbed suggests the intended beneficiary of the performer. "I didn't let you down" Professional instructors will teach sales staff a simple method of promotion: When describing products or introducing services to prospective customers, it is best to cooperate with the action of rubbing palms, and the speed must be fast, so as not to arouse potential customers' defense psychology.If the customer rubs the palms of his hands together quickly and says, "Let me see what you have!", then it means that he wants to see some good products that satisfy him, and his intention to buy is also very strong.If the customer rubs the palms of his hands together quickly and says, "Let me see what you have!", then it means that he wants to see some good products that satisfy him, and his intention to buy is also very strong. Finally, I would like to remind you that understanding the meaning of each action cannot be separated from the context in which it is used.When you see someone standing in a station rubbing his hands on a cold morning, don't assume he's expecting a car, because he's doing it because he feels very cold. "We're sure to make money" People often rub their thumb and index fingertips together to imply money, or to express a desire to ask for money.Because this action is too similar to the action of rubbing a coin with your fingertips.People hawking on the street often rub their thumb and index fingertips while yelling "Look, it's 40% cheaper than the mall."When someone borrows money from a friend, he will often say "Can you lend me £50" while doing this gesture to the friend around him. My advice about this gesture is that it should never be done to a professional salesperson or manager, as it will conjure up certain negative associations with money. Originally, the gesture was taken as a sign of confidence due to the fact that it was often performed with a smile on one's face.On one occasion, however, we ran into a negotiator who had just lost a deal.While he was describing the experience just now to us, we found that as the description went deeper, his hands were gradually clenched together, and the clenching became tighter and tighter, so that his fingers began to turn white.He gripped so tightly that it looked like his hands were welded together and he couldn't move.Therefore, we know that the movement of clasping hands is actually a kind of restraint and anxiety, or a negative and negative attitude.In addition, this gesture is also one of Queen Elizabeth's most commonly used gestures when attending royal visits and participating in public events.When doing this action, the Queen usually gracefully rests her clasped hands on her knees. If the raised hands are held together, even if the performer is smiling, it is difficult to conceal the loss and frustration in his heart Negotiation experts Nirenberg and Calero have conducted special research on this action.Its results showed that if someone used this action in a negotiation, it indicated that the person had experienced frustration.This means that, in his mind, anxiety and negative views start to creep in. Usually, people clasp their hands when they feel that their words are not convincing, or when they think they have lost the negotiation.Usually, people clasp their hands when they feel that their words are not convincing, or when they think they have lost the negotiation. There are roughly three postures for clenching your hands: raise your hands to your face and then clench; put your elbows on the table or knees and then clench; when standing, clench your hands in front of your lower abdomen.Clenched hands in the middle of the body Clenched hands in the lower part of the body We found that in this movement, the height of the hands is closely related to the intensity of the person's psychological frustration.In other words, when a person raises both hands high and clasped, that is, when the hands are in the middle of the body, it becomes difficult to communicate further with him.It's easier to communicate with him when his hands are lower on his body (pictured above).Therefore, once you find that the opponent has put their hands in the "minefield", you need to take immediate action and use skills to untangle the fingers that were originally entangled, just like other negative actions.For example, you could offer them a drink, or some other item to hold in their hand.Otherwise, clasped hands, like crossed arms, shut out all your views and ideas. From the beginning of this book to this point, I have been emphasizing that the understanding of body movements cannot be separated from the background environment, just as words have specific meanings only in sentences.Therefore, we must restore each action to the background in which it was discovered to understand.However, there are no absolutes, and the steeple gesture is an exception to the rule.The so-called steeple-shaped gesture is to gently touch the fingertips of one hand to the fingertips of the other hand to form a steeple-shaped gesture, just like a towering steeple in a church.You can press inwards or outwards the two hands that are glued together by the fingertips, and the fingers and palms are spread apart like a giant spider doing push-ups on the mirror. Through observation, we found that the steeple-shaped gesture often appears in the conversation between superiors and subordinates, and this gesture represents confidence or a confident attitude.The steeple-shaped gesture often appears in conversations between superiors and subordinates, and this gesture represents confidence or a confident attitude.This gesture is usually used when a superior is instructing a subordinate or giving advice to a subordinate.Accountants, lawyers and managers are particularly fond of this gesture.Confident top executives often use this gesture as a way to project their identity and confidence.He's confident in his answer. People who use the gesture sometimes turn it into a prayer gesture, trying to look like Almighty God.In general, if you're trying to convince someone or gain their confidence in you, you should try to avoid using the minaret, as it can sometimes give off a sense of smugness and arrogance. However, if you want to appear confident and confident, the steeple should help. If you're trying to convince someone, or gain their confidence in you, you should try to avoid using the minaret, as it can sometimes create a sense of smugness and arrogance.Sometimes Chirac and Gerry Adams Look Like Almighty Gods Imagine a scenario like this: you are playing chess, and now it is your turn to move.Your hand moves around the board, and at the end, you place your finger on one of the pieces, which is the piece you want to move.At this point, you notice that your opponent is leaning back in his chair with some ease, and at the same time making a steeple gesture.Although the two sides didn't say anything, once you noticed this, you immediately understood that your move made the opponent think that victory was within their grasp.Therefore, your most sensible strategy at the moment is to change a move.So, you move your hand away from this piece and move it to another piece, and at this time, your opponent immediately changes his posture, making a clasped hands, or crossing his arms across his chest. Actions.This means that he knows he cannot benefit from your move.So, what are you waiting for?That's it! In general, the minaret gesture falls into two categories: the raised minaret, which is usually used when people are expressing their opinions or speaking, and the lowered minaret, which is used by the person who is using the minaret to listen to the views and conversations of others. In comparison, women prefer to use the lowered minaret gesture.The raised minaret gesture often gives the impression of arrogance when paired with a slight tilt of the head. While the minaret gesture is a positive physical signal, it can also be used in negative or negative situations and is often misunderstood.For example, you are stating your point of view to some people, and many of them also confirm your statement through some actions and gestures, such as spreading palms, leaning forward, nodding, etc.However, just as your statement was coming to an end, some people started making the minaret gesture. In this case, you should proceed with caution.If when you offer someone the solution to a problem, the other person makes the steeple gesture after making some other affirmative gesture or movement, then you can safely continue your statement and propose "Order Requirements".In other words, if the other party made some negative gestures or actions one after another, such as crossing arms, crossing legs, looking around or resting their cheeks with their hands, they made a minaret gesture.Well, this means that he is likely to say "no" to you next, thus ending your conversation. In both cases, the meaning of the minaret gesture is the same, both represent confidence, however, the object is different, so it leads to two very different results.So, in this case, the actions and details that preceded the steeple gesture are the key to the final result. Our hands are always in front of us, and their every move reveals our inner emotions and thoughts.Perhaps, there are some parts of body language that are really difficult to master, but the body language of hands is not. Learning to read the body language of your hands will not only make you appear more confident, but it will also enhance your own sense of accomplishment and lead to more victories.With practice, it is entirely possible for each of us to become masters of hand body language, mastering the position of our hands and their movement, making the most of every movement and gesture.Learning to read the body language of your hands will not only make you appear more confident, but it will also enhance your own sense of accomplishment and lead to more victories. This action itself has no negative color, and it can also exert a positive effect when expressing love to the person you like.This pose is mostly used by women and gay men, and they usually use it to attract the attention of men they like.If the man on the opposite side makes her heart move, women will often involuntarily put one hand on the other, then support their chin with both hands, raise their heads slightly, and face the other party.It was as if he treated his own face as an exquisite handicraft placed on a pedestal, and brought it to the other party, hoping that he would savor it carefully. Tray pose: In a sign of admiration, she puts her face up If you want to please and compliment the other person, this posture will definitely not let you down. If you want to please and compliment the other person, this posture will definitely not let you down. When facing the media or the public, the Duke of Edinburgh and certain male members of the royal family will habitually assume the same posture: head raised, chin raised slightly, hands clasped behind their backs.Leaders and royals alike seem to favor the gesture.In addition, patrolling police officers, principals patrolling the school grounds, senior military officers reviewing subordinate troops, and anyone in a high position with a certain authority usually habitually pose this way when working or facing their subordinates. posture. Whether viewed from the front or from the back, this pose creates a sense of authority and confidence. This pose is always associated with authority, confidence and strength.People who pose in this pose often subconsciously expose their fragile, vulnerable stomach, heart, hips, and throat, thereby displaying their fearless guts and courage.I have learned from experience that using this position in stressful situations, such as an interview with a newspaper reporter or waiting in a dentist's office, can make you appear more confident and authoritative. We have worked with law enforcement personnel for some time.During our cooperation, we found that most of the people who use this posture are unarmed law enforcement officers, and most of them straighten their backs to make themselves look taller.Sometimes they also rock back and forth slowly and rhythmically, pivoting on their heels.The policemen with guns rarely adopt this posture. They prefer to put their arms vertically on both sides of the body naturally, or buckle the pistol with their thumbs.The guns they wear have fully reflected the authority of the police, so they don't need to use the gesture of putting their hands behind their backs to reflect their rights.Hands behind his back, one hand grabs the wrist of the other hand However, if the hands behind the back are not clasped together, but one hand grasps the wrist of the other hand, the meaning of the expression is quite different from the posture of holding the hands behind the back. The gesture of grasping the wrist is a sign that the person is full of frustration and hopes to use this gesture to find self-control.The gesture of grasping the wrist is a sign that the person is full of frustration and hopes to use this gesture to find self-control.Think about it, with your hands behind your back, and one hand tightly grasping the wrist or arm of the other, isn’t it just to use the bent arm to stop or defend against external attacks? upper arm grip The higher the grip of the other hand, the more frustrated or angry the person is feeling.The desire for self-control must be stronger in the man in the picture below than in the man in the picture above, because his handshake has moved from the wrist to the upper arm.The pose reveals the root of his expression: "Mind yourself!" As long as you pay a little attention, you can find the above two grasping and backhand methods in many people, for example, the plaintiff and the defendant meeting outside the courtroom, the salesman entering the customer reception room and waiting in the waiting room. Doctor's patient.They hope to use this action to conceal their inner tension and enhance their self-control.If you find that you have also made such an action, then you may wish to adjust the position of your hands behind your back and change it to a handshake.I guarantee that this small change will make you feel more confident. Put your hands in your vest pockets, leaving only your thumbs outside As I mentioned earlier, the thumb symbolizes authority and dominance.In palmistry, the thumb represents strength and ego, and body language associated with the thumb often carries a connotation of self-esteem.We are used to using the thumb to reflect our own strong position, as well as confident self-confidence or aggressive ambition.However, among the many body languages, the movement of the thumb is a second-level language, which usually needs to be used and understood in conjunction with other movements or gestures.Thumb movements are often commendatory or positive.People who think they're "cool" often use it in signature moves with their own signature to show they're different.Men like to give a thumbs up to the opposite sex they are interested in.Also, well-dressed or high-status people often show their thumbs, while people as lowly as homeless people rarely do.Prince Charles puts his hands in his pockets, leaving only People who like to play thumb gestures with their thumbs outside also like to swing back and forth with their heels as the axis, so as to attract the attention of others and reflect their noble and unique status. This action is very common.Anyone, male or female, who feels superior or in a position of superiority inadvertently makes such gestures.This action is very common.Anyone, male or female, who feels superior or in a position of superiority inadvertently makes such gestures.Prince Charles likes to do this very much, in order to show his excellent self-control ability.In the office, bosses will use this motion when they are inspecting the work of employees, and when the boss is not there, the person in charge of the next level will also put his hands in his pockets and leave his thumbs outside like the boss when he is walking around.However, most of the subordinates are afraid to put on such a posture in front of the boss.A Lawyer Who Fakes Modesty When people's verbal messages are contradicted by body language, thumb movements can become extraordinarily obvious.Take the lawyer, for example, when, turning to the jury, he said in a soft, low voice, "Jurors, in my humble opinion...", showing his thumb, and at the same time saying in a kind of " "down" and looked at the jury in front of him.This practice of the lawyer is likely to give the jury an impression of being inappropriate or flashy.If a lawyer wants to impress the jury with a humble and gentle attitude, he should open his clothes, walk slowly towards the jury, spread his palms, and bend his body slightly forward, thus highlighting the tall image of the jury. "You seem to be an intelligent and honest man," said the lawyer, rather triumphantly. "Praise be, sir," replied the witness, "but since I have sworn I will tell the truth." Showing the thumb shows the person's self-confidence and superiority mentality Same as hiding. Before the 1960s, few women used gestures that included thumb gestures. It was not until women started wearing trouser suits and gained more and more rights in society that these gestures became popular among women. stand up. Another common thumb show is to fold your arms across your chest, placing your hands under your armpits, but leaving your thumbs exposed.This action contains double meanings. It not only shows that the person doing this action has a defensive or negative psychology (crossed and overlapping arms), but also reflects the person's superior psychology through the exposed thumb.People who fold their arms in this way usually move their thumbs constantly when talking; if they are in a standing position, they also tend to swing their bodies back and forth, pivoting on their heels. Although he adopts a defensive stance towards you, the inner superiority is still there "she always nags at me" In addition, we can also use the thumb to express disrespect such as ridicule and ridicule, and the usage is also very simple, that is, to point the thumb at someone.For example, a husband who is complaining to a friend is likely to point his thumb at his wife and say something like "she's always so nagging," often resulting in an argument with the wife. some quarrel.In this case, the husband's wagging thumb is a sign of taunting the wife.Hence, the gesture of pointing with the thumb often draws the ire of women, especially if it is done by a man.Although women sometimes use this gesture to point out people they don't like, overall, its use is very low. For thousands of years, the thumb has been regarded as a symbol of authority and strength. In Roman times, people usually used thumbs up or thumbs down to represent the life or death of a gladiator, respectively.In Roman times, people usually used thumbs up or thumbs down to represent the life or death of a gladiator, respectively.Even without any professional training, people can decipher and understand the meaning of thumb movements by intuition or instinct.However, after reading this book, you should understand that now you not only need to be able to accurately decipher the action code of the thumb, but also actively train yourself to use these codes correctly so that they can serve you better.