Chapter 63 TECHNIQUE 56 DRIPPING IN YOUR HEART
For strangers, we use the art of killing praise; for those close to us, we use the epitaph game (will introduce later).This next tip is applicable to anyone, anytime.I call it dripping in the head.The trick is to include some brief words of encouragement or praise in the conversation.I have a friend who knows this trick.Every time he appreciates what I do, he'll say, "That's not bad, Lil."
Drip in the heart can also be used to compliment those close to you and praise their performance in daily life.If your wife cooked a nice dinner: "Wow, you're the best cook in town." If you're going out together: "You're here! You must be tired!" You can also say to your kids, "Kids, The room is very clean!"
Once I saw an article in Reader's Digest.There was a little girl who was very naughty, and her mother often scolded her.But one day, the little girl behaved very well and did not do a single wrong thing all day.My mother said in the article, "That night, after I went to bed with her, I went downstairs when I heard a slight sound. I ran back to her room and found her crying softly. She asked me while crying, 'Mommy, didn't I be a good baby today?'”
The mother said her daughter's problems were like a sharp knife piercing her heart. "In the past, she made mistakes, and I was always eager to correct her. Now she is trying to correct her behavior, but I don't notice it at all. When I send her to bed, I don't even have a word of praise or encouragement."
In fact, being an adult is like growing up a little boy or a little girl.If others didn't notice our performance, we might not be sobbing secretly under the quilt.However, there may be faint tear stains in the corners of the eyes.
Don't let colleagues, friends, or people close to you look at you and say wordlessly: "Didn't I behave well today?" You must let them know that you appreciate it in your heart, and take care of it with little words of encouragement. What they feel inside, tells them, "Well done! What a shot! Cool!"
There is a higher level of knowledge in the art of praise, which is the mastery of timing.Straight to the point, cheeky flattery, few people will buy it except for the extremely blind megalomaniac.However, our behavior patterns as humans have never followed a single rule.Sometimes, if you don't come straight and have the audacity to compliment someone - even if he's a sane man - you lose.The following tips will tell you when to thick-skinned.
Don't let colleagues, friends, or people close to you look at you and say wordlessly: "Didn't I behave well today?" You must let them know that you appreciate it in your heart, and take care of it with little words of encouragement. What they feel inside, tells them, "Well done! What a shot! Cool!"
There is a higher level of knowledge in the art of praise, which is the mastery of timing.Straight to the point, cheeky flattery, few people will buy it except for the extremely blind megalomaniac.However, our behavior patterns as humans have never followed a single rule.Sometimes, if you don't come straight and have the audacity to compliment someone - even if he's a sane man - you lose.The following tips will tell you when to thick-skinned.