Chapter 43 TECHNIQUE 38 MIX THE CURE
Every time a friend goes to New York City, my hometown, I warn them not to ask for directions from people on the subway.
"Is it going to be robbed?" The friend asked in fear.
"No, just ask them, you're not going anywhere." New York subway riders know only two things about their trains: where they get on each day and where they get off.They don't know anything about the rest of the system.Most people talk about their hobbies with excitement, and like these New Yorkers who ride the subway, they're as proficient at their pastimes as they are.
For them, other areas are like never-visited subway stations.
I have an unmarried friend named Lida.Lida, a bowling enthusiast, provides a negative example.Every Wednesday night, she goes bowling with a group of friends.She was forever discussing her points, average points, and highest scoring inning.I have another friend named Walter who is also single and looking for a partner.Walt is a standard rafting fanatic.He often talks to the group of rafting friends about which stream he has been rafting, what equipment he has used for rafting, and which difficulty level of stream he prefers.I thought to myself that maybe these two friends could spark, so I introduced Walter, the boating man, to Lida, a bowling fan, and mentioned their respective hobbies in passing.
"Oh! You bowl!" said Walter.
"Yes," Lida replied pretending to be calm, waiting for Walter to further question her brilliant record.Walter didn't write any more.
Lida had no choice but to hide her disappointment and asked Walter, "Lier said you often go boating?" Walter smiled proudly, waiting for further questions from the other party.Lida could only continue, "It must be very exciting! But will it be dangerous?"
"No, it's not dangerous at all." When Walter answered the layman's question, it seemed like he was giving him a great favor.That's the end of the conversation.
In the awkward silence, I thought that if Lida had gone boating once, or Walt had bowled even once, their lives might be very different now.Their conversation at that time may continue, who knows what will bloom and bear fruit next?
The technique of disrupting therapy is designed to help you get out of awkward situations like these.This technique will turn you into a modern Renaissance youth, able to speak as eloquently on a wide variety of subjects as medieval Renaissance men and women did.
Disruption therapy is as simple as disrupting your life.Go try things you never dreamed you'd like.Set aside one weekend every month to do something you don't usually do.Do you play tennis all weekend?Go hiking this weekend.Do you spend your weekends climbing mountains?Take a tennis lesson this weekend.Do you usually like to play bowling?This week, let's leave the golfers behind and go boating.Are you planning to go to the river to enjoy the white waves this week as usual?Forget it, go try a fresh bowling ball.
Find a weekend every other month to mess up your life.Go try things you never dreamed possible.To engage in a certain sport, to see a certain exhibition, to experience something totally unfamiliar.Although you only have one experience, you can learn 80% of the expert terminology and know how to ask the experts' questions.
Put the tip of a litmus paper in a vat of acidic liquid, and the paper will turn pink.If you put just a small drop of acid on litmus paper, it will turn pink, which is the same as participating in activities.Although it was only done once, the sampling this time was enough to obtain the subject matter of the dialogue.You know how to ask the questions that an insider would ask.What you're saying is expert jargon.Next time I come across these topics of leisure and entertainment (such topics often come up).It won't be Zhang Er King Kong who can't figure it out.
Find a weekend every other month to mess up your life.Go try things you never dreamed possible.To engage in a certain sport, to see a certain exhibition, to experience something totally unfamiliar.Although you only have one experience, you can learn 80% of the expert terminology and know how to ask the experts' questions.
Put the tip of a litmus paper in a vat of acidic liquid, and the paper will turn pink.If you put just a small drop of acid on litmus paper, it will turn pink, which is the same as participating in activities.Although it was only done once, the sampling this time was enough to obtain the subject matter of the dialogue.You know how to ask the questions that an insider would ask.What you're saying is expert jargon.Next time I come across these topics of leisure and entertainment (such topics often come up).It won't be Zhang Er King Kong who can't figure it out.