Chapter 42 sequence

Have you ever had this kind of experience?At dinner, everyone speaks the lingo of their line of business.They were discussing financial audits, building standards, and the library market.It makes you confused.That's because everyone at the party is either an accountant, an architect, or a publisher.Only you are an outsider. So, you just stand obediently, with a smile on your face, unable to say a word.Because you are afraid of making a fool of yourself when you speak.You start to think wildly: everyone is snickering at you in their hearts, and you are an outsider, so you are too silent to speak.

In middle school, I suffered from a severe case of "silent layman syndrome," especially when men were around.The boys talk all about cars, and I don't know anything about cars. However, one day, my mother gave me a book that completely changed my youthful life, turning me from shy to active.That book describes all the latest car models, how the shapes and contents of each car are different.I just read such a book, and various car brands such as Ford, Buick, and Chevrolet are already catchy.I no longer freak out when guys say atomizers, alternators, dual camshafts, exhaust systems.I don't have to learn much, just enough to ask the right questions and get them talking.When I learned to talk about "cars" with boys, my social life changed a lot.

Back in the day, we adults also had our favorite topics to talk about, usually around work or hobbies.Once you meet someone in the same industry or with the same interests, once you open the chatter box, you can talk better than the three aunts and six women in the neighborhood. (Even engineers who don't talk much, when they get together and talk about turbines or the cases they're working on, can have a lively discussion.) To the average person, the jargon is like an aboriginal language.But the speaker understands it as soon as he hears it, because that's the language we speak when we're doing our jobs or our hobbies.

Fishermen tie a tiny dragonfly to a hook to attract fish.Likewise, you can get people talking just by throwing the right topic.To paraphrase Dale Carnegie's famous saying: "If you are sincerely interested, people will tell you." Also, people who play poker often say: "You have to hold at least two Jacks in your hand to get a good deal." The capital of the opening bid.” In the conversation between people, as long as you know a little bit about the other party’s field of expertise, you can let them talk happily.Your curiosity must be grounded in knowledge for the other person to find it worth talking to you.

In this section, the technique we explore is how to say "open sesame" and people will have a good time chatting with you as if you are an expert.