Chapter 31 Tip 27 Don't Say "Me Too!"
In the forest, tigers always hang out with tigers, and lions only hang out with lions. Of course, wild cats can only mix with small wild cats.Commonalities among individuals lead to mutual attraction of like species.But in the human jungle, master communicators know another trick.It will be more effective if you take time to reveal the commonalities between the two of you, or let the other person discover for themselves.
Whenever you hear someone mention an experience or interest similar to yours, don't jump right in and say, "Me too!" or "Me too!" Let the other person enjoy the fun of the presentation.Let him talk about a country club and tell him you're a member; let him finish analyzing Arnaud Palmer's swing before casually mentioning the different techniques of the great golfers.Let her talk about how many tennis matches she has won before telling her your ranking in the National Open.
A few years ago, I told a new friend about my love for skiing.He seemed interested and listened attentively to my detailed description of the ski resorts I had visited.I kept talking, analyzing various site conditions, discussing the difference between artificial snow and natural snow.It wasn't until after I finished speaking that I thought I should ask him if he skied or not.He replied, "I ski too, and I have a ski chalet in the Alps."
When you find something in common with someone, the slower you say it, the greater the surprise and shock of the other party will be.In doing so, you'll behave like a patient, graceful tiger, rather than a frizzy, lonely kitten desperate for a mate. Side note: Don't wait too long to mention your mutual interests, or it will come across as a show off.
Wow, that's really cool.If he'd interrupted me at first when I said I loved skiing and told me about his ski lodge, I'd be attracted to him too, just to a lesser extent.I was really impressed that he waited until the end of the conversation to say that he was also a skier and even bought an apartment in the Alps because of his love for skiing. With this technique I call it, don’t rush to say, “Me too!” Every time someone mentions an activity or interest that you also enjoy, let them enjoy talking eagerly first.Then, waiting for the right moment, casually mention that you have the same hobby.
When you find something in common with someone, the slower you say it, the greater the surprise and shock of the other party will be.In doing so, you'll behave like a patient, graceful tiger, rather than a frizzy, lonely kitten desperate for a mate. Side note: Don't wait too long to mention your mutual interests, or it will come across as a show off.
Wow, that's really cool.If he'd interrupted me at first when I said I loved skiing and told me about his ski lodge, I'd be attracted to him too, just to a lesser extent.I was really impressed that he waited until the end of the conversation to say that he was also a skier and even bought an apartment in the Alps because of his love for skiing. With this technique I call it, don’t rush to say, “Me too!” Every time someone mentions an activity or interest that you also enjoy, let them enjoy talking eagerly first.Then, waiting for the right moment, casually mention that you have the same hobby.