Chapter 21 Tip 18 Language Detective
Know that when talking to someone you shouldn't ask, "Did you enjoy this conversation?" It's just that he may ask this question in his mind.To be honest, each of us has this question.In fact, as long as you use the following technique, you can sit back and relax.You can absolutely make someone feel ecstatic when they have a conversation with you, and like Donnie, my prom date, you can miraculously find something to engage with.Detective Sherlock Holmes uses his magnifying glass to examine every link carefully, so that no matter how small and difficult to find the clue, he can quickly find it.A born winner in life is like a perfect detective who can pick up the slightest clue and find the right topic.How did they do it?All thanks to this trick.
I have a young friend, Nancy, who works in a nursing home.She cared about the old people very much, but often complained that some patients were weird and difficult.She said she really couldn't connect with these old people.
Nancy told me about a particularly difficult old lady, Otis.She tried several times, but she couldn't get the old man to open his heart. "Two days ago," Nancy said, "it wasn't long after the rain, and I tried to talk to her, and I said, 'It was really rainy last week, eh?'"
In the end, the old lady replied unceremoniously, "It's very good for flowers and plants!" So I asked Nancy how to respond.
"What can I say? This woman obviously doesn't want to talk to me," Nancy replied.
"Have you ever thought about asking her if she likes plants?"
"Plants?" Nancy asked.
"Yeah," I suggested, "Otis brought up the subject." I told Nancy, as a favor, "Ask her." I begged Nancy.Nancy was still resisting.Finally, unable to resist my insistence, and to shut me up, Nancy agreed to ask the eccentric old woman Otis if she liked plants.
The next day, Nancy called me from the office in surprise. "How do you know, Lil? Mrs. Otis doesn't just like plants, she told me she once married a gardener. Now my troubles are the opposite. I can't get her to shut up! She goes on and on Her garden, her husband..."
As many great communicators know, every thought must have a history.If old Mrs. Otis thought of flowers and plants, plants must have something to do with her.Furthermore, if she can talk about flowers and plants, it means that she subconsciously wants to talk about plants.
For example, if Mrs. Otis's answer is, "The rain keeps my dog from playing." Nancy can ask her dog.If Otis complains, "My arthritis kicks in when it rains," you can guess what to ask?
When talking to anyone, remember to open your ears and look for clues like a detective.Pay close attention to unusual words mentioned by the other party: any off-topic places, times, names.It is right to ask questions in this direction, because these are what the other party likes to talk about.
Now that you've sparked the desire to talk, let's take a closer look at how to make the conversation beautiful and hot.
Detectives who learn to handle cases listen carefully to what the other party is saying, and every word may be a topic of interest to the other party.Clues are bound to pop up.To seize the opportunity, it is necessary to cut into the subject neatly.In this way, like Sherlock Holmes, you can also find topics that make the other party ecstatic.
Detectives who learn to handle cases listen carefully to what the other party is saying, and every word may be a topic of interest to the other party.Clues are bound to pop up.To seize the opportunity, it is necessary to cut into the subject neatly.In this way, like Sherlock Holmes, you can also find topics that make the other party ecstatic.