Chapter 13 11 Tyrant

"Can you smoke here?" The middle-aged man said, taking out a cigarette case from his pocket. I glanced at my partner, and he shook his head: "Sorry, no." The middle-aged man froze for a moment, put away the cigarette case embarrassingly, and stroked his short gray hair with his hands: "Okay, then I will bear with it." Me: "You said just now that you are looking for a hypnotist, right? I am, what can I do?" The middle-aged man quickly looked at me: "Is there a way to hypnotize a person without knowing it?" Me: "I don't know? Are you referring to psychological hints?"

Middle-aged man: "No, I mean hypnosis, the kind that can ask anything." Me: "Well, as far as I know, there's no such possibility." Since I don't know his motivation for asking, I lied. Middle-aged man: "Are those in novels and movies fake?" Me: "Well, it's basically fabricated, it's not that magical." "What are you going to do?" the partner interjected. Middle-aged man: "I suspect...I suspect that my son is not my own." Partner: "Do you think your wife is being unfaithful to you? Want to hypnotize her without knowing it, ask me clearly?"

Middle-aged man: "Well, it's almost like that..." Partner: "What you need is genetic DNA identification, not us." After speaking, he returned to his usual casual expression, and straightened his waist, apparently intending to see off the guests. Middle-aged man: "It has been identified, and the genes show 99% match." Me: "Oh? Then why do you still..." Middle-aged man: "The paternity test is not 100% accurate, there is an error in that, I asked." Me: "If I remember correctly, if it wasn't your child, the genetic coincidence rate wouldn't even be 5%?"

Middle-aged man: "This number is not sure, right? In other words, it may not be my child who has a high matching rate, right?" Me: "Theoretically..." The middle-aged man interrupted me impatiently: "Don't give me any theory, I need to be 100% sure." "I see, what you want is to be foolproof, right?" His partner showed an imperceptible smile that he only had when he was curious, "Interesting!" The man turned his head and looked at my partner up and down for a while: "Are you also a hypnotist?" The partner held out his hand to him and grinned: "No, I'm a psychoanalyst."

Me: "...Obviously the problem is with him, not his wife." Partner: "Yeah, I'll talk to him first to see if there's anything we don't know." Me: "I want to remind you, his purpose is to hypnotize his wife, no matter how much you talk to him, you won't get any money." Partner: "He'll pay for it." Me: "So, you mean that after he comes back from smoking, you take him to the study, and then spend a little time exploring his psychological problems, and then tell him: 'Your wife doesn't need hypnosis, in fact, you have problems .' In the end he paid you, didn't he?"

The partner's expression looked pure: "That's it." Me: "Say yes, I can't help you in this situation!" The partner smiled: "Really?" Me: "I didn't intend to make you laugh, that guy looked a little rude and arrogant, I was just reminding you." The partner kept his smile: "The more such a person is, the more fragile and timid they are." I sighed, knowing that there was nothing I could do to get this curious "humanoid male feline" to change his mind. A middle-aged man pushed the door open and entered. He sat at the desk and looked around the study: "Why did you ask me the question first?"

Partner: "This is necessary. We need to know enough information before we can judge whether we can agree to your request. Should we ask your wife first? I'm afraid this is not what you want?" The middle-aged man looked at him coldly for a while, then nodded: "Well, well, what do you want to know?" The partner deliberately and slowly opened the notebook, took out the pen from his pocket, and raised his head: "Excuse me, how long have you and your wife been married?" Middle-aged man: "12 years." Partner: "How old are you and your wife?"

Middle-aged man: "I am 43, she is 40, and the child is 9 years old." Partner: "Oh...what's your job?" Middle-aged man: "The captain of civil aviation." Partner: "Usually you are under a lot of pressure at work?" The middle-aged man raised his eyebrows: "The safety of hundreds of people is in my hands. Every time I get the passenger list, I feel very heavy... You must have been on a plane, but you can't understand that feeling." The partner nodded: "I can imagine a little bit." Middle-aged man: "You can't imagine... However, I didn't suspect my wife because of work pressure. You have to know this. I am not the kind of person who is suspicious or vents indiscriminately."

Partner: "No problem, don't worry, my profession does not allow me to make assumptions in advance." Middle-aged man: "Well, keep asking." Partner: "Has your wife actually committed infidelity, or do you just suspect it?" Middle-aged man: "I doubt it." Partner: "Did you do anything about it? I mean hired someone to follow her. It's important that you answer me truthfully." The middle-aged man frowned and stared at his partner: "I did look for it." Partner: "How long have you been following?" Middle-aged man: "Two months."

Partner: "Nothing, right?" Middle-aged man: "Yes, how do you know?" Partner: "If you find out, you definitely don't need to look for us." Middle-aged man: "Oh... also..." Partner: "How long ago was that?" Middle-aged man: "A year and a half ago." Partner: "Is your wife a full-time housewife?" Middle-aged man: "Yes. How do you know?" Partner: "Look, your career income is definitely good, and you are more than enough to support your family. From the point of view of your wife's attention, it is unlikely that you will allow her to have too many opportunities to meet other men. Inferences like this, I think you She won't be allowed to work."

The middle-aged man looked at his partner with a little surprise: "Huh? You're still pretty good..." Partner: "Thank you, this is my profession. If you put me in the cockpit of the plane where you work, and see all the strange switches and lights, I will definitely be at a loss, let alone a temporary situation like turbulence. How to deal with the situation. But you can operate it skillfully, right? I would think you are amazing, you would take it lightly, because that is your profession." The middle-aged man was very pleased with these two flattering words from his partner, and the tense muscles on his face began to relax: "That's right, that's what I do. It seems that I have underestimated you a little bit at first, you It's quite professional... However, in fact, flying an airplane is not so much trouble now, and the general turbulence can be ignored. With autopilot, the computer can handle it by itself and keep it stable. We only need to pay attention to the data. At this time, we can move the joystick Competing for driving rights will lead to accidents, maybe it will jump like a dolphin..." His show off proved that he had begun to relax his vigilance. Partner: "Look, this is professional knowledge... Well, let's turn the topic back, why do you suspect your wife? Is there a basis, or is there any sign?" The middle-aged man hesitated for a moment: "Well... this... people in our business are often not at home, and they are flying around the sky a lot of the time, and the phenomenon of wives cheating... Actually, there are quite a few... Although I didn't find anything about her, But I have to be careful..." Anyone could hear that his so-called reasons were not reasons. Partner: "Well, since that's the case, let's ask the question a little more directly, does your son look like you?" Middle-aged man: "He is more like my wife..." Partner: "No no, my question is, does it look like you?" The middle-aged man seemed a little hesitant: "Well... character..." The partner stopped writing, looked into his eyes, and repeated patiently: "Look, I'm talking about looks." Middle-aged man: "Oh... the ears and... the chin look like..." Partner: "Like?" Middle-aged man: "...very similar." The partner deliberately slowed down his tone: "Actually, you should be able to confirm that your son is yours, right?" The middle-aged man didn't say a word, but pursed his lips tightly. Partner: "You don't need any identification to confirm this, right?" The middle-aged man slipped his Adam's apple and swallowed: "Although I said so, but...but I don't think it can be sure that she has not cheated." The partner's expression became very serious: "Do you have other thoughts? I mean you suspect that your wife is unfaithful." Looking at the uncertain facial expression of the middle-aged man, I also became curious. I really wanted to know what kind of problem this rude-looking guy had. And now he sat there without saying a word. The partner carefully and cautiously emphasized the trust relationship between himself and the interviewer: "As you can see, I am relatively professional in some aspects, and I can guarantee that I will not cross the line of professional ethics. To you Everything I have said today, including privacy, I will take the same attitude that you try to be responsible to all passengers on the plane. Can you trust me on this point?" The middle-aged man stared into his partner's eyes and nodded. Partner: "Okay, then, I will ask some questions, and you must answer me truthfully. Can you do it?" The middle-aged man nodded silently. Partner: "You, have been unfaithful to your wife, haven't you?" Middle-aged man: "Never." Partner: "Have you ever been tempted?" The middle-aged man's expression was a little smug: "Of course, our income is better in this industry. There are too many temptations. Few people around me can control it." Partner: "Have you heard or seen many such things?" Middle-aged man: "Yes." Partner: "Your wife used to be a flight attendant?" Middle-aged man: "Yes." Partner: "You have always been in charge of everything in the family, right?" From the subtle expression of my partner, it seems that the previous few sentences are all for this question, but I didn't want to understand the special significance of this question. Middle-aged man: "Well, basically I have the final say." Partner: "Has something changed in recent years?" At this time, the captain's expression was a bit unnatural: "Well... this... is normal, I am often not at home, so I will leave my son's... those things to her. Gotta support a family...well...so..." Partner: "That's right, you're actually under more pressure." I noticed that he no longer uses honorifics.This means that he begins to take a step further into the dominance of discourse and identity.Some people may not agree with this, but as a hypnotist, I can attest: this is very important, very important. Middle-aged man: "It's just... I can't take care of many things..." Partner: "Did you start to leave some things to her to make decisions after you had a child, or in the last few years?" Middle-aged man: "In recent years, after the children go to school." The partner nodded thoughtfully: "So that's the case... Then, is she doing well?" Middle-aged man: "Well, it's still... okay, she doesn't have much to do." Partner: "Then...can you describe what kind of person your wife is?" The middle-aged man thought for a while: "In general, she is the kind of person with a gentle personality. But there is one thing that is not good. If there is something she doesn't like to talk about, I often ask it." Partner: "Isn't this great? It's much better than those chattering women." The middle-aged man nodded lightly: "Well, I really hate the kind of women who talk endlessly. But my wife is too...but she is indeed better than those nagging and endless women." The partner smiled: "Isn't she beautiful?" The middle-aged man stroked his slightly gray short hair: "Hey, everyone else says that..." The partner changed the subject: "If, I mean, if she really cheated on you, would you choose to separate from her?" Obviously, this question was beyond the expectation of the middle-aged man, he was stunned: "Do you think she really had an affair?" Partner: "Just now I said 'what if'." Middle-aged man: "Well... I..." It seemed that he didn't think about it seriously. Partner: "You took your child for a DNA test, but she doesn't know about it?" Middle-aged man: "I don't know..." Partner: "You also told your son not to say anything, right?" Middle-aged man: "Well..." The partner raised his hand and looked at the watch: "Would you like to smoke a cigarette and take a break?" The middle-aged man seemed impatient: "Okay, I'll go outside for a cigarette." After listening to him go out, I turned my head and asked my partner: "It took you a long time to take the lead, why don't you take advantage of the victory and pursue it?" The partner knocked slowly on the table with their fingers in turn: "It's okay, the door has been opened, I'm sure... However, at present, there seems to be something wrong with this cause, and I think there are other reasons." Me: "What do you know?" The partner frowned: "I don't know the deep reason, let's talk about the superficial first. He suspects that his wife's infidelity is actually finding fault with nothing... Don't laugh, I mean it seriously. Because he used to be the decision maker of everything in the family , but after having a child, he found that his wife's dominance suddenly increased a lot, so his patriarchal psychology began to be unbalanced..." Me: "You mean he has a 'throne mentality'?" Partner: "Well, those who sit on the throne don't allow others to challenge their status." Me: "So simple?" The partner frowned and shook his head: "It's not that simple, there is a problem." Me: "For example?" Partner: "Don't you think it's weird? It's normal for men to have a throne mentality, but his performance is too strong. Think about it, in order to guarantee the throne, he even used destructive assumptions to slander his imaginary enemy, but That imaginary enemy is his wife, and what he has done has far exceeded the throne psychology of ordinary people... Is it an exaggeration to describe it as extreme?" Me: "Uh...it's too much...the scale is a bit too big." Partner: "So, I don't think we've really captured the root of the problem." Me: "Then what should we do next? Continue talking?" Partner: "Well, give me a little more time, I hope to capture the cause of his psychological distortion." Me: "Do you need hypnosis?" Partner: "I don't know, I can't be sure about anything now." He frowned and touched his forehead, "I plan to clarify his question first, which saves the most time." Me: "Are you sure?" The partner looked up at me: "Half at most." A few minutes later, the middle-aged man came back from outside with a smell of cigarettes all over his body. After sitting down, he smiled at us: "Our business is usually stressful, and sometimes we smoke to relieve our emotions." He looked much friendlier than when he first entered the door. Partner: "Understood, it's normal. Shall we continue?" Middle-aged man: "Okay, let's go on." Partner: "Look, we have been chatting for so long, then I will tell you some problems that I have learned through analysis. Only when we both have confirmed these problems, can we continue to talk, you have to listen ?" The middle-aged man nodded seriously. Partner: "Okay, let me tell you something. When you first came here, you questioned that the child is not yours, but then you also admitted that the child still has something like you, plus the previous DNA test, the child is actually you Your own. You know this very well. You hired people to follow your wife and found nothing, right? Further, I think you even checked your wife's phone bills and text messages. I Guess, there is still no indication that she is being unfaithful to you. You can leave that alone, let me go on, since there is no indication of your wife being unfaithful, then the question arises, why do you have 'ma'am no What about Zhong's doubts? This is the key point. Just now when you went out to smoke, we think the problem lies with you through analysis." Speaking of this, he deliberately slowed down his speech, "What did you do? , just trying to deflect some kind of stress in this way, and while I can't pinpoint the true source of the stress, I'm generally pretty sure it's not work - I'm sure you enjoy your job and are very proud of it ——This confirms that the pressure comes from elsewhere. Therefore, the questions I will ask next are directed at you, not your wife. If you can agree and accept, we will continue to talk; if you If you decide to evade this question, then this is the end of the conversation, we will not charge you a penny, and at the same time, we can guarantee that no one else will know what you have talked with us today." He deliberately paused for a few seconds, "In addition, there is another point I want to emphasize: I am not using any bloody aggressive method. I believe that you know your own problems better than me. This needs to be faced by yourself, not others." The middle-aged man avoided his partner's gaze and licked his lips with a little anxiety, as if he was thinking about it. Partner: "It can be seen from your attitude just now that you don't really want to have a rift with your wife, but your current behavior is exactly the opposite of what you expected. I just want to remind you: keep going like this, You are likely to make your marriage very unstable or even have a real crack, and...and that is irreparable. Your current behavior will definitely affect your future, so I hope you will tell me what I just said The ones that can be carefully considered.” It can be heard that the partner's remarks made full use of the middle-aged man's sense of responsibility and responsibility, and the purpose was to let him completely open his defenses.This may seem risky, but I must admit I can't think of a better way. The middle-aged man sat there quietly with his head down, without saying a word. My cunning partner is now calmly waiting. After a while, the middle-aged man raised his head: "I've made up my mind." He paused for half a minute, "Let's continue." The partner nodded: "You are indeed a person who can be responsible for yourself. Well, I still hope that you can answer the following questions truthfully, because it is very important." This guy is playing language tricks again - using honorifics Affirm and encourage. The middle-aged man sighed: "You can ask, otherwise I will be suspicious all day long, and lose my temper for no reason. I am very tired." Partner: "OK, let's move on, is this your first marriage?" Middle-aged man: "Yes." Partner: "Is the relationship between you and your wife stable before marriage?" Middle-aged man: "Very stable, step by step." Partner: "Before you met your wife, did you have a girlfriend? Did you suffer any setbacks?" The middle-aged man thought about it for a while: "There is no major setback, because I am very cautious about this kind of thing, and I am not a random person." Partner: "Has there been any such thing as girlfriend cheating?" The middle-aged man's expression was very calm: "Never, I said that I am very cautious, or that I am very picky and have no interest in frivolous women." Partner: "Did you and your wife have a marital crisis after marriage?" Middle-aged man: "No, as I said just now, she is the kind of person with a milder personality...Uh...Small quarrels don't count?" Partner: "Of course not. So... is your family environment normal? Isn't it a single-parent family?" Middle-aged man: "No." Partner: "Can you tell me about your parents?" The middle-aged man hesitated for a moment: "Uh... my dad is that kind of ordinary little clerk, and he has been peaceful all his life. My mother... is almost the same." It seems the problem is here, we all caught it. The partner remained calm: "Then, let's talk about your father first? Is that okay?" Middle-aged man: "Well, my dad is relatively weak in character. He has been a kind of person who does not contend with the world all his life, and does not cause disasters or troubles. It is very simple and very ordinary." The partner watched the other person's expression changes intently: "Besides these, is there anything that impresses you? About your father." Middle-aged man: "Well... nothing special, they are all very common daily chores." The partner seemed a little disappointed: "Then, can you tell me about your mother?" The middle-aged man's expression changed slightly: "My mother... she... is a little bit stronger, after all, my father's personality... I mean, there must be someone in the family who takes care of things..." Partner: "What about her work? Is she excellent?" The middle-aged man nodded slightly: "Well, well done, she is more ambitious than my dad, so she has the final say on all the big and small things in the family." Partner: "So, is there anything about your mother that impresses you?" At this time, the middle-aged man began to evade his words: "She...that...that is, those things at home. Generally speaking, she has a quick temper, so it is just normal stumbling in life, nothing particularly impressive. " Partner: "She makes all the decisions in your family, right?" Middle-aged man: "Yes." Partner: "Including to you?" Middle-aged man: "What do you mean?" Partner: "Such as schooling, employment, and marriage." Middle-aged man: "Yes." Partner: "But you didn't listen to her, did you?" The middle-aged man's expression was very serious: "I couldn't help it when I was young. When I grew up, I decided my own life. So... For a while, the relationship between me and my mother was very bad." Partner: "The job you're doing now, and your marriage with your wife are all your choices, even the first ones, right?" Middle-aged man: "You can say that." Partner: "Do your parents live in this city?" Middle-aged man: "No, in my hometown." Partner: "Do you go back often?" Middle-aged man: "I only go back during the holidays. I'm usually busy." The partner put his elbows on the table, crossed his fingers together and held his chin: "There is a disagreement between your wife and your mother, isn't it?" The middle-aged man avoided his partner's sight: "The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law... There is nothing I can do... My mother wants to take care of everything..." Partner: "But you said that your wife is more gentle. I guess it's because you don't like your mother telling your wife and family affairs, right?" The middle-aged man looked at his partner slightly unhappily for a while, then nodded. The partner kept leaning forward: "Now, let me repeat the question just now. Is there anything that impresses you about your mother?" The middle-aged man's expression began to slowly turn from unhappiness to anger.After glaring at his partner for a few seconds, he stood up abruptly and cursed: "You fucking like to inquire about privacy, don't you? You're full, right? Can you control it? I can't do any fucking psychological consultation." Tell you about our family!" After finishing speaking, he rushed out of the study, picked up his coat from the reception room, and slammed the door away. I recovered from my astonishment and looked at my partner: "He...why did he react so strongly?" The partner remained calm, sitting behind the desk without moving: "Because I touched the thing that was buried deeply by him." I carefully recalled the conversation just now: "Do you think the root of the problem lies with his mother?" The partner nodded. Me: "What's going on?" The partner put his hands in his trouser pockets, leaned against the back of the chair and looked up at the ceiling: "I only know a little bit, and more mysteries can only be solved from the captain himself." Me: "It's a pity... this guy has a bad temper, and he must be a tyrant at home." The partner sighed: "You are wrong, his mother is the tyrant." two days later. The partner hung up the phone and turned around: "The food delivery person said that there are too many people during dinner time, so we should wait a little longer." Me: "How long are you waiting?" Partner: "He said it might take more than 30 minutes..." Before he finished speaking, there was a knock on the door. "Didn't you say 30 minutes? They said 30 seconds..." I joked and went to open the door. Standing outside the door was the captain who had slammed the door—the middle-aged man who doubted his wife for no reason. My partner and I were stunned. The middle-aged man stood awkwardly at the door: "Oh... I... came to apologize..." The partner smiled and nodded: "You're welcome, it's really nothing. Come in and sit down." Middle-aged man: "Well, I'm really sorry last time... I know that talking to you is actually charged by the hour, and I mainly do it for this..." As he spoke, he took out his wallet from his bag. The partner smiled: "You didn't come here to send money, I'm sure." The middle-aged man clutched his wallet and sighed: "I...well, you're right." Partner: "Then, shall we continue with the last question?" The middle-aged man's expression was hesitant: "Last time...um...you guessed it right, my mother did have...uh..." The partner put away his smile: "I didn't guess anything, I just asked that question based on speculation... Well, let me say it. If it is wrong, you can correct it. If a certain question offends you Now, let me apologize first, and then I implore you not to slam the door when you leave, is that okay?" The middle-aged man smiled sheepishly: "I'm really sorry, okay, go ahead." Partner: "From the last description and your expression and tone at that time, I can judge that your mother should be a very strong and domineering woman. Not only in her work, but also in her life. Everything at home She's in charge, and there's no questioning it—whether she's right or wrong." Middle-aged man: "Well, that's right, my mother is that kind of person." Partner: "You and your father must have always been obedient to her, and you didn't even think about rebelling. However, something happened later, which made you start to rebel against your mother." The middle-aged man frowned, stared at his knees, and nodded. Partner: "Let me guess, you, who witnessed her infidelity, is this one?" Middle-aged man: "Yes." Partner: "Your father doesn't know?" Middle-aged man: "I never said that." Partner: "Is this where all the turning points started?" The middle-aged man took a deep breath: "What you said is absolutely right, it is true. When I was young, my mother was very strict with me and my father, and my mother took care of all the big and small things in the family. But after all, everything my mother does is for us, for this family... As I said last time, my father is cowardly, so it is normal for my mother to be more powerful and domineering. After all, there must be a backbone in the family. This must be you I know. For my mother, I never thought of rebelling...Speaking of which, my father and I were very afraid of my mother. Later, when I was about 17 years old, I came out of school very early and accidentally saw My mother and a man... er... you can understand? It shocked me a lot at that time. The man who had absolute authority in front of me and my father... that is, after that, I stopped obeying my mother, So much so that no matter right or wrong, I won’t listen to her again.” Partner: "So your subsequent studies, career and marriage are all your own choices. Even after working, you have no contact with your family for a long time, right?" Middle-aged man: "Well, for me, that incident...you may imagine how angry I am, but you certainly can't understand how angry I am. Especially seeing her attitude towards my dad and being at home When I'm bossy like that, I will..." At this point, he sighed, "But she is my mother, and I look like her...I...I..." Partner: "Have you ever doubted your blood relationship with your father?" Middle-aged man: "Yes, I suspected it, but I overturned it myself, because I have seen photos of my dad when he was young, and our body and face shape are exactly the same." Partner: "Did your mother explain anything about the infidelity?" Middle-aged man: "I explained, but... After all, I saw it with my own eyes." Partner: "Does your wife know about this?" Middle-aged man: "I haven't told anyone about it." The partner looked at him solemnly, and sighed lightly: "...It's hard for you, I've been holding back for half my life..." The middle-aged man lowered his head and fiddled with the wallet in his hand: "After I left your place that day, I thought about it a lot, and I generally know what's going on with me." The partner smiled: "You have to admit that my suspicion of my wife's infidelity is completely groundless." Middle-aged man: "Yes...Actually, I just don't like strong women, because it easily reminds me of my mother... After the child goes to school, he is busy with work and spends a lot of time away from home, so whenever he has to deal with the child When it comes to problems, I often can’t speak, and it’s my wife who makes the decision... Every time I encounter this kind of situation... I feel very uneasy, and I can’t explain why I get very angry and lose my temper for no reason..." Partner: "Then, do you want me to sort out the whole psychological process for you?" The middle-aged man thought for a while: "Okay." Partner: "Your mother used to be supreme in front of you and your father, but after witnessing that incident, your view on this has changed. And subconsciously, you also have the idea of ​​blaming your father more or less— 'If you weren't so cowardly, this kind of thing wouldn't have happened.' So in your later growth, you will deliberately force yourself to be strong and arrogant, and even become a tyrant like your mother... All this is Origin: You don't want to be like your father." The middle-aged man nodded: "That's right." Partner: "Let's talk about a few points separately: You said that you hate women who are easygoing, it's because of your dislike of your mother's behavior; you suspect that the child is not yours for no reason, even after the DNA test, in fact That's because you doubted whether you had a blood relationship with your father; and your choice of the other half is also a continuation of your rejection of your mother - your wife's gentleness is completely opposite to your mother's character... Have you ever thought about it, In fact, in your heart, you are blaming your mother almost all the time. Furthermore, you are also blaming her when you are satisfied with the job you are doing now.” Middle-aged man: "Well... a little..." Partner: "Really 'sort of'? As far as I know, on a plane, the captain's power is paramount, right? You also mentioned that you have a strong sense of responsibility when you get the passenger list, It's heavy, it's actually another way of saying 'I'm going to take responsibility for these people instead of doing irresponsible things like her'." Middle-aged man: "Indeed, sometimes when I hold the passenger list, I will directly think of my mother, but I never understood why this happened." Partner: "Well, let's bring the topic back to your behavior. I believe your wife is a gentle and virtuous type, and she will basically ask for your advice and implement it when dealing with housekeeping. However, as children grow up and go to school, many At that time, she can't wait for you to make decisions. She has to face and deal with it by herself, and you know that this is necessary. It was okay in the beginning, but as the proportion of decision-making in her family life increased The bigger it is, it reminds you of your mother, so you start to feel uneasy and quite directly connect 'dominance of family decisions' with 'infidelity' - you're afraid of your wife becoming like your mother; you're afraid of your The tyrant character of your mother; you are afraid of becoming a man like your father. You start to doubt, suspect, and even act...Is that right?" The middle-aged man lowered his head: "You...you are right..." Partner: "But your suspicion is suspicion after all. You hired someone to follow up, investigate your wife's phone and text messages, and even secretly took her child for a paternity test behind her back. Nothing was found in all of this. But, the more you , the more uneasy you become. Because you think of the fact that your father has never been aware of your mother's infidelity until now, and you are very, very afraid that this is the case, so today you will come back here and reappear in our before." The middle-aged man sat on the sofa without saying a word, his expression heavy. The partner put his tone very lightly: "But, you have to know that even if you really use the hypnosis method you expected to get your wife to answer all you want to know, the result will definitely be nothing. Then, you will feel at ease No more doubts? We all know that's not possible, right? You're still suspicious, you're still insecure, and you're still trying to find some way to get rid of your insecurities. But you know , This sense of unease does not come from your family, but from the depths of your heart, all of which stem from your anger and accusations against your mother." The middle-aged man was silent for a long time before opening his mouth: "But..." The partner interrupted him: "There is no 'but', you are not the kind of person who would be stupid enough to live with anger all the time?" The middle-aged man was startled for a moment, then asked hoarsely: "Then... what should I do?" Partner: "Tell your wife everything, including the things you did to question her infidelity." Middle-aged man: "So simple?" Partner: "It's that simple." Middle-aged man: "She knows if she will... divorce me... divorce me?" Partner: "Your wife would never make that choice." Middle-aged man: "You... how can you be sure?" Partner: "Remember, you didn't choose her, but you chose each other." 中年男人愣愣地坐在沙发上，那表情就好像刚刚从梦中被叫醒一样。 机长走后，我和搭档各自在塑料袋里翻找着自己的晚饭。 我：“应该给你在电台开个夜间栏目。” 搭档撕下一块比萨塞到嘴里，含糊不清地说：“不是解决家庭纠纷那类栏目吧？” 我：“我指的就是那个。” 搭档：“你就那么恨我？” 我：“我确定你能大幅降低离婚率。” 搭档：“……我不要……肯定很无聊……” 我拿起蒜蓉酱闻了闻，皱着眉扔到一边：“你又没试过，怎么知道。” 搭档：“反正都是一种情况，面对的都是一种人。” 我：“哪种人？” 搭档：“梦中人。”