Chapter 41 Expressing love draws a road map for the other party on how to love you

Through expressing love, we tell each other what we like, what we don't like, what we hope, and what we don't want. This is equivalent to pointing out a line of caring for our lover, which is as clear as a road map. Follow this A road map so he can know how to love us. As I said in the second chapter above, I would be upset after hearing the words "who said what to you", and then I told my wife how I felt in my heart and the source of this emotional button. I will not ask this question any more, what I did was "statement" and pointed out to her how to treat me. And her confession can also tell me how to treat her.

One day at breakfast time, I bought some from outside and came home early. One of the pies was my favorite, but I didn’t know if she liked it. When I started eating this pie, she happened to go to the kitchen. I left half of the pie for her when she was eating, and when she came out of the kitchen, she saw that I had left half of the pie for her, and said: "Seeing that you left half of the pie for me, it feels like you have me in your heart." , I feel very happy!" At that moment, I felt that it was so simple to make her happy, all I needed to do was to do this, but in fact, this was her way of showing me the direction to love her through "expression".

Everyone has different growth experiences and different psychological characteristics. Therefore, what you like may not be what others like, and what others like may not be what you like. "Expressing love" can quickly let your lover understand your psychological characteristics, and then Master the tricks of getting along with you, because with this road map of loving you, according to this road map, he can reach the deepest part of your heart and make you feel his deep love for you. This is indeed different from the characteristics of many people, especially some women, who often do not tell the other party what they like or dislike, but let the other party guess, and get angry when the other party guesses wrong.

"If you love me, you should know what I'm thinking!" This is what a girl said in class once! But how is this possible?A lover will be with you only when he is attracted to you, but being attracted to you does not mean he understands you. If he can really know what you are thinking, it must be because you often tell him what you think. After you understand most of your thoughts and personality traits, he can achieve the state you want, which requires you to "express love" frequently. There are also some couples, although they have lived together for many years, they don’t really understand each other, and they don’t take the initiative to open themselves to tell each other. How could he understand the inner world?Don't think that once two people fall in love, they will understand each other very well. This is a completely different matter. When falling in love, hormones are often at work, and two people understand each other very well. The love relationship is achieved through constant confession.

A man in his late forties who was still single once told me, "I hope to find a partner with whom I feel the same way." Everyone wants to pursue the love of heart-to-heart and heart-to-heart connection, but they don’t know that this kind of love can only be achieved after a long period of running-in and management. When two people express their feelings to each other and empathize with each other for a long time, It is as easy for two people to perceive each other's feeling as their own, and when the other's mood and own mood are like one person's, there will be a heart-to-heart connection, and the two will truly "merge into one", instead of Found by constantly looking and changing lovers frequently.