Freud said that psychosis is essentially a defect in the capacity to love.Therefore, in a society that lacks the "ability to love", we will feel that "everyone is sick". Indeed, love is a kind of ability and a science. Love is something that everyone has to experience and have.It's a pity that this knowledge has never been offered as a compulsory course to explain this knowledge from kindergarten, elementary school to university.Most of our knowledge about love comes from our own experience and hearsay.It is a wonderful thing to bathe in the river of love together, but how to swim in the river of love has to be explored by ourselves.When we choked on the water in the river, we would ask those who were swimming next to us, or our family and friends who were resting on the shore, and they would tell us some swimming skills.In fact, these skills are also explored by themselves. Maybe the swimming posture is irregular and the movements are "not powerful", which makes us continue to choke!At this time, how much we need a professional swimming coach to teach us the correct swimming posture and breathing skills!

Looking through the family history of the world, you will find that love and marriage have been closely linked only in the past hundred years.Prior to this, marriage was more dominated by economic interests and family marriage.As an independent discipline, psychology has become independent from philosophy and physiology in the past hundred years.Freud explained the essence of love from the perspective of sex and subconsciousness, Fromm explained the art of love from the essence of human beings, and Steinberg drew the triangle of love from the elements of love... The connotation of love is being dug deeper and deeper by us , The theory of love is becoming more and more profound, but most of us are not scholars after all, and are often at a loss in front of the theory.Moreover, even psychologists still encounter confusion and pain in the conflict of love.

We need profound theories, but also practical methods. Zhao Yongjiu was my former colleague of Baihe.com.At that time, he was first in charge of internal training, including the training business management of "Marriage and Family Counselor". In his spare time, he likes to study various emotional issues.Later, we tried to hold the first "love training class" in China, and he volunteered to be the lecturer of some courses. Unexpectedly, after the trial lecture, the students responded very well, and Yong Yong has since embarked on the career path of "emotional coach".This road is not easy.

This eternal book "Men's Tricks, Women's Ways" is a practical "love manual".Turning the pages of the book, what you see is not difficult academic language, but real vernacular, real vivid cases and coping methods: "emotional management" can't make up stories to anger yourself, "expression" It is necessary to make good use of six sentence patterns and four steps to become a master of "empathy", how to cultivate an inclusive attitude of "permission", use the power of "influence" to subtly change the other party, and so on.

I believe that the truths and tricks in this book will make it easy for you to read and easy to use. Going one step further, if what Jesus said "love your neighbor as yourself" is true, do you also have these five abilities in your love for yourself? Mu Yan