Chapter 16 Yin water character

Yin water people are prone to kidney disease.The characteristics of yin water people are: lazy, withdrawn, slovenly, worried and annoying.Among the "five poisons", it is "annoyance". If you are annoyed when you see something, it is lazy and withdrawn; if you even bother taking a bath and washing clothes, can this person not be sloppy?In laziness, he will also worry about mistakes, so he is more worried.This kind of people are prone to kidney system diseases, and it is easy to understand: water is going to go down, if you are lazy, the water will be lazy, if you don’t move, the water will sink, and it cannot circulate well in the whole body. It's annoying, the toxins will all accumulate below the waist along with the water.The kidney is in the lower burner, and its position is the lowest among the five internal organs of the human body. In this way, all pathogenic factors accumulate in the kidney.To treat diseases of the kidney system, it is necessary to turn yin into yang, and turn yin water into yang water.People with Yang water nature are quiet, peaceful, leisurely and refined.The method is to not bother you when things happen, and take the initiative to admit that you are wrong.

How do you find out what's wrong with you?Many people will say: "I am doing well, there is nothing wrong with it." But in fact, who can "do well" all the time? "The Four Lessons of Liao Fan" talks about a person who reflects on his own shortcomings every year. After decades, he will still find that he has many shortcomings.If a person thinks that he is right in everything, then it is very problematic. It can only mean that he does not see his own mistakes. It is like walking in the dark without knowing that he is going the wrong way. It is very dangerous.Just like, the more knowledgeable a person is, the more he knows what he doesn't understand; the more ignorant a person is, the more he thinks he knows everything; People, the more they feel that they are too perfect.

About ten years ago, I heard a speech by Mr. Gao Zhendong, a famous Taiwanese educator. He said that "everyone is responsible for the rise and fall of the world", that is to say, if there is anything wrong in the world, and whoever is wrong, it is me. wrong!Why?Because I didn't use my efforts to change all these bad phenomena, I didn't do enough!Who else in the world failed, and it was my fault, why?Because I failed to help him well.From this, I remembered a line in a movie called: "When I give up, others fail." That is to say, others fail because I gave up helping him, so it is still my fault.

Some people always think that admitting mistakes is not good for them.Actually otherwise, we always despise those who cover up their mistakes for themselves, but not those who take the initiative to admit their mistakes, and even admire their courage to admit their mistakes.When we cover up our mistakes, we feel depressed, inferior and wretched in our hearts, but when we take the initiative to admit our mistakes, the openness and sense of justice in our hearts will make us clear up and make us feel taller. .The bigger the mistake you admit, the more sincere your attitude of admitting it, and the stronger this feeling.This feeling alone can invigorate the kidneys.

Many surveys in recent years have shown that more than 90% of divorced couples are divorced because of uncoordinated sex life, impotence, premature ejaculation, prostatitis of the man, or frigidity of the woman, and so on.So people come to the conclusion that: the quality of sex life determines the quality of the relationship between husband and wife.On the surface, this is true, but looking deeply, on the contrary, it is the quality of the relationship between husband and wife that determines the quality of sex life. Acknowledging one's faults and putting oneself down like water is a positive water character, which is good for the kidneys.The kidney governs reproduction, and if the kidney is good, there will be no problems in sex life; if you give birth to a child, it must be a healthy and smart baby.Conversely, if a Yin-Shui personality is present in the married life, it will not only be useless to the sex life, but also damage the kidneys.Even if such a couple has a child, you think, the child is raised in the cloudy water, how can it be healthy, how can it be smart?

Those who are not in harmony with each other often have ulterior motives or even have an affair, which is not the way of the couple but lust.The way of husband and wife is water. Generally speaking, if the relationship between husband and wife is good, both parties will have no external intentions, because water can overcome fire, and the water of emotion can dissolve the fire of lust.If there is no real water between husband and wife, then there will be no water to restrain the fire, and the fire governs lust, and if the fire is not restrained, the lust will have no restraint, and it will burn like fire.When the relationship between husband and wife has reached the point where there is no water of true love inside and fire of lust outside, how can it not fall apart?Therefore, it is the discord between husband and wife first, and then there is sexual dysfunction!

People in the "sieged city" of marriage, just because they are unwilling to bow their heads and admit their faults, end up getting divorced, and their sexual function is also hindered, and it is difficult to "find happiness" again. Why bother?All unwise.Water dominates wisdom, and being willing to live below others is wisdom. Of course, not all discordant couples will get divorced, especially for ordinary people in China. Divorce is also troublesome for the sake of career and children, and countless grievances have arisen. "Resentment to spouse" means that there is only the name of husband and wife but no love between husband and wife.Those who are a little better than this, although they will not get divorced, they will still quarrel and get emotional.Living in this kind of family environment, people are always unhappy, upset, and foolish, so premature graying, loose bones, dry skin, kidney diseases, and lower body diseases are all on the verge of breaking out.In a family where the husband and wife are not harmonious, people will age quickly even if they are not sick.

Of course, not all diseases below the waist are caused by discord between husband and wife; and those who have discord between husband and wife may not have reached the time of illness.In any case, being able to recognize your own faults at all times and everywhere is the best medicine for nourishing the kidneys and preventing diseases. I have a friend who has been married for many years and has children.Although the couple always quarrel in their lives, they can get along with each other. In the eyes of many people, this is the normal state of life.But they also have their troubles, that is, the children are disobedient.No matter what the two of them said, the child pouted, thinking that what the parents said was wrong, and just doing what it wanted.The couple had no choice but to turn to the friends around them for help: "When you are at my house, don't forget to find an opportunity to talk about this child. He won't listen to what we say."

Of course my friends did.When I went to his house, I would do the same, picking the bones in the egg, and trying my best to talk about the child. The child was really obedient, nodding his head politely, admitting his mistake.I wondered why the child didn't listen to his parents?I also found that there are many children who don't listen to their parents. Why is this and who is responsible?After observation and research, I finally found the answer: the responsibility lies with the parents of the child, who did not handle the relationship between husband and wife well. Let's not talk about whether people have true feelings when choosing a spouse before marriage, how the two parties ask for it, and how to negotiate conditions. As far as after marriage is concerned, as long as the two become husband and wife, they must follow the way of getting along with each other.The way for husband and wife to get along is equality, but how is this equality achieved?If both parties feel that the other party has benefited and they have suffered a disadvantage, and want to suppress the other party to improve their own status, then the quarrel will begin.Such a couple will inevitably dissatisfy each other in life, look down on each other, and always push each other down. You push me down, and I push you down.Especially in front of children, derogating each other, and finally magnifying each other's shortcomings to the children, which undoubtedly made myself lose prestige in front of the children.In the eyes of children, the reason why parents often quarrel is because they have so many shortcomings. How can children be convinced by parents with so many shortcomings?

When I analyzed this truth to my friends, their husband and wife suddenly realized it! So, how can a husband and wife achieve true equality without hurting harmony or affecting the next generation?This has to use the wisdom of the ancestors again.Among the "five relationships", the relationship of husband and wife belongs to water.The water is moist, the water always flows down, and the water can grow all things.The way of getting along between husband and wife must be like water, and both parties must be willing to be inferior to each other.I don't look at the other party's shortcomings, but at the other party's strengths.I don't think I'm that good, I'm just looking for what's wrong with me.No matter how bad the other party is, I have to be able to bear it until I can influence him.Even if I am really better than the other party, I have to be willing to be inferior to the other party.Because, between husband and wife, if each of them lowers themselves, they will lift each other up, so that there will be no arguments and no quarrels.The living realm of both of them has improved, and such a couple will be happy and have prestige in the eyes of their children.