Chapter 15 Yang water character

Jia Baoyu's favorite saying in the movie is, "Daughters are made of water".Although this is just Jia Baoyu's nonsense, it also precisely illustrates a characteristic of women, that is, women do have water-like gentleness and water-like personality. However, just like the difference between river water, river water, and sea water in nature, women's water personalities are also divided into many types.Some women are like a clear spring, which makes people feel refreshed and pleasant; some women are like great rivers, which make people admire while being in awe; some women are as broad-minded as the sea, making men feel ashamed Not as good.

Just like there is clear water, turbid water, running water, and stagnant water, although a woman's character has the characteristics of water, not every woman can make people feel as if they are bathed in spring breeze.Just like there are good women and not-so-good women in the world, the water personality of women is also divided into two types: yang water and yin water.As a woman, you need to have a positive personality. A woman's yang water personality, the first is that she is peaceful and likes to be quiet.Water is a very strange substance, it seems the weakest, put it in a cup, it is the shape of a cup, and put it in a basin, it is the shape of a basin, and the water is very humble, it generally follows the terrain. nasty.To be a peaceful woman with Yangshui personality does not mean that you have to show your weakness and powerlessness everywhere, and act like a weak person, but you have to be like water, calm and humble, quiet and docile.It's like water in a glass takes the shape of a cup, but it's still water.Sometimes when you are more humble and gentle in dealing with others, people will not think that it is because you are weak, but that you have a good personality and know the general situation.

The second is wisdom.The ancients said that the benevolent enjoy mountains and the wise enjoy water.Why do wise men enjoy water?That is to say, a smart person understands things, is quick to respond and active in thinking, and has a restless temperament like water flowing continuously, so it is used as a metaphor.In addition to this feature, I think it is probably because water is more intelligent.When water encounters a mountain peak, it will not pass through it directly, but will go around it.Many people only see water flowing down, but they never think that when water flows down, it is also accumulating strength. A river, the further downstream, the more water it gathers, and it is reserved and peaceful. , is actually another kind of promotion, just like water can still transpire, form clouds and fog, and form precipitation.It's just that people seldom notice it.

In a family, the hostess of a family especially needs to have a positive personality.The hostess is at the water level of the family, she should focus on quietness, follow the circle and square, be willing to live under others, and be able to obey everyone and accommodate everyone, so that the family atmosphere can be harmonious.Otherwise, the family atmosphere becomes tense.Therefore, many people think that the atmosphere of a family depends on the hostess. The old man belongs to earth, the hostess belongs to water, and earth restrains water, so the relationship between daughter-in-law and in-laws is often a little tense.The elderly always have something to dislike about their daughter-in-law, after all, they are not the children they have trained since childhood.Especially now, many daughters-in-law come from other places and foreign countries, and there will be more places that the elderly are not used to.As the saying goes, "There are many old roots in a tree, and there are many old sayings in people." It is normal for the elderly to babble. At this time, the daughter-in-law needs to have a positive personality.Gram means necessary constraints, not necessarily a bad thing.A lot of things the old man said may sound harsh to a daughter-in-law at the time, but you might as well keep these words in mind. When you are old, you will feel that these words are too important and have given you a lot. Subtle enlightenment and help.If you go against the old man, it's not good.

The male head of the family belongs to fire, water can overcome fire, and the wife can overcome the husband, that is, to restrict the husband. This is necessary and can help the man get rid of many shortcomings.At the same time, in this "gram" process, men will learn to be tolerant.But the wife should not overdo it with her husband. A man must have masculinity and vigor, and he should not be restrained too much, otherwise he will be suspected of being "kefu".As for the husband, the same can't be rebellious. If he beats his wife, it will be even more useless. In Chinese culture, black corresponds to water.Black also represents the kidney in the five internal organs and winter in the four seasons.Corresponding to water, which symbolizes peace and moisture, black has a completely different meaning from Western culture.

In the West, black generally represents derogatory connotations.When many people mention black, they first think of adjectives such as darkness, horror, and sadness.For example, it means miserable, sad, and sad days, like "Black Friday"; in paintings, literature and movies, black is often used to render the atmosphere of death terror; black is the color of sadness and mourning, and people often wear black clothes to attend funerals .But have you ever thought about whether black has other meanings besides these? Among the Yi people in China, the original aristocrats claimed that they are different from ordinary people. Their bones are black, so black represents nobility, black Yi is noble, and white Yi is slaves; White and white together become a classic color that will never go out of fashion; in Chinese folk, sometimes black food is considered to be good for the body, such as black pork or silky chicken is more nutritious; Prove that you are not in debt.Now black has become a trendy color. It represents many images such as nobility, stability, and technological elegance. The colors of many technological products, such as TVs, sports cars, cameras, audio, and instruments, are mostly black; in other respects, The solemn image of black is also commonly used in the space design of some special occasions. Most of the daily necessities and clothing designs use black to create a noble image.

In traditional Chinese medicine, black food is also chosen to invigorate the kidney.Kidney stores essence, governs growth, development, reproduction, and water metabolism, so it corresponds to water.And black also belongs to the kidney accordingly.For example, black foods such as black sesame, black beans, seaweed, kelp, black rice, fleece-flower root, and rehmannia are all good ingredients for nourishing the kidney.Although black food is a concept that people often talk about recently, in fact, the efficacy of black food has been recognized in ancient China. In daily life, we see that many people like to wear black clothes.But why you like black has different reasons.Two female friends I know like to wear black.When I asked them why they like to wear black, their answers surprised me a bit.The more cheerful friend said that she thinks young people look good in anything, even the darkest colors.And when she wears black, she feels a little mature and sexy, which she likes.The other one is slightly fatter, she said she felt a little fat, "I don't like to wear bright clothes, it is easy to be stared at by people, when I wear black clothes, I always have a sense of security , I feel that no one will pay attention to me anymore.”

It's not just them, I found that most people who like black in their lives show these two opposite tendencies.Some people who like black are firm and self-confident, and they behave naturally despite being under stress.They are usually sophisticated, dignified, dramatic, formal and have a powerful feel to them.Most of these people show a Yangshui character, peaceful and full of wisdom. And those who are not confident enough will also choose black. For them, black is like a protective umbrella, isolating themselves from the outside world. This is a typical Yinshui personality.People with a Yin-Shui personality are often worried when encountering things, and tend to withdraw and become irritable.Such friends may wish to know more about their own advantages. You must know that black clothes are just an appearance, and you can also use this kind of clothes to show your ability and wisdom. Use black to cultivate your yang water character instead of yin. water character.

It is said that there is a nation called "Wend" in Europe. When they get married, they will choose black as their wedding dress, because they think that marriage is full of helplessness, suffering and sorrow.They face up to these imperfections in reality and understand what lies behind the red rose, so until now the divorce rate of this nation is very low.In life, we might as well use this mentality to face the setbacks, sufferings and misfortunes we encounter. Since we cannot change, we should maintain inner peace and treat everything with a positive attitude. After a person reaches the age of 60, he is in the winter of his life, and belongs to water in the age group.This water is likely to be Yin water, so it is easy to get diseases of the kidney system and diseases below the waist.This point also makes sense from common sense: the kidney is the innate foundation of a person, and when a person gets old, he starts to suffer from kidney deficiency.Therefore, the elderly usually have the following conditions: (1) The kidney controls reproduction.The old man's kidney qi fails, so his fertility is gone.

(2) Kidneys govern bones, young people have strong teeth and tough bones.The old man's kidney qi is weak, and the bones cannot be nourished, just like a piece of dead wood, dehydrated, so the texture becomes brittle and loose, and if it is accidentally dropped, it will fracture.Teeth also appear loose and even fall out. (3) Kidney, its brilliance is in the hair, black hair indicates that a person has strong kidney qi (here refers to black-haired people, some people have yellow or white hair, which is another matter).When kidney qi is deficient, white hair will appear. (4) The kidney and the bladder are connected externally and internally, and the bladder governs the yang energy of the whole body, and transmits cloth water liquid to the whole body.Deficiency of kidney qi will lead to poor distribution of yang qi throughout the body, so the elderly are more afraid of cold, and it will also cause disadvantages of water distribution throughout the body, so the elderly are prone to thirst, because the water cannot be fully distributed and reaches the mouth Portions are not enough.Especially at night, the elderly often have to put a pot of tea by the bedside to drink when they are thirsty at night. At the same time, they will urinate a lot, and they even have to get up two or three times a night.That's because since the water can't go up, it turns into urine and gets out.

(5) If the water cannot be smoothly and fully distributed throughout the body, it will cause skin loss and dry skin.At the same time, the water will be deposited downward, deposited in the tissues below the waist.Therefore, there are many diseases below the waist in the elderly: waist and leg pain is a minor problem, and some elderly people will continue to have slightly swollen legs and even develop some malignant sores.It was all damaged by waterlogging.Moreover, when people get old, their legs get old first. When people get older, their legs and feet become less flexible, and they don't want to walk very much. Why?In layman's terms, that's because there is stagnant fluid in the legs.It's like a sandbag is tied to your leg, can you be agile?Would you still like to bounce and walk?Why do old people like to cross their legs when they sit there?Because this can pour back the water that has accumulated in the legs, it makes people feel a little more comfortable. (6) The kidney governs the ears, and the ears of the elderly are not working well, and they are often accompanied by tinnitus and withered helix. All of the above are things that happen when you get old.If an old man does not have the above symptoms when he is 70 or 80 years old, or if the symptoms are relatively rare, it means that his kidney energy is still very strong and he can continue to live a long and healthy life.No one can stop the increase of age, but everyone can delay the arrival of the above signs of aging.And the most important way is to adjust the xinxing. The long-lived old people we see are all kind-hearted, gentle, optimistic and understanding. What's going on?Is it because people become kind, gentle, and optimistic when they get older?No, human nature is immutable and will not change substantially with age.Rather, kind, gentle, and optimistic people are more likely to live to this age.Those who are vitriolic or violent are probably dead long ago, so we generally don't see such birthday stars. Elderly people are yin as a whole. When they were young, the yang qi was gone, and the vitality was gradually lost. The yin qi accumulated more and more, and the body went downhill. When qi has no yang qi, wouldn't a person die?That's how the old man died.However, if this yang energy can be retained and the body’s yin energy is not too prosperous, people can resist aging and live a long and healthy life.How to keep it?The aging of the body and the aging of the cells is irresistible, and what we can call back is the xinxing. Since the elderly belong to the water category, there must be water in their personalities, and we must work hard to make this water not yin water but yang water.Yang water is soft, quiet, patient, and easy to follow the circle. This is what the elderly need. They have a gentle personality, don't mind their own business, and follow the arrangements of their children. Water produces wood, yang water produces yang wood, and yang wood has a kind personality, so kind old people can live longer; metal produces water, yang metal produces yang water, and yang metal has a generous personality, which is also the basis for ensuring the health of the elderly.If it is a yin-jin character, it is stingy and jealous, and it is inevitable to cough and breathe; what if it is a yin-wood character?Then he usually won't live to such an old age, and he would have died of anger long ago. If the old man likes to get angry and get angry, it is dangerous that yin water grows yin wood, or water suppresses fire.This kind of situation can often be seen in the hospital: the elderly, who had a quarrel with someone the night before, got angry, and when they woke up the next morning, they either had difficulty urinating or found that their legs were swollen. The reason is that the fire is hot on the top and the coke is weak and cold on the bottom, and the cloudy water is sinking. In short, cultivating a soft, quiet, and patient Yangshui character is a wonderful medicine for the elderly to arouse the vitality of the kidneys.Of course, this medicine can also be added with some medicinal primers to consolidate the curative effect, that is: the compassionate Yangmu character, the human-friendly Yangjin personality and the optimistic and cheerful Yanghuo personality. It is worth mentioning that some of the symptoms of the elderly mentioned at the beginning of this section are no longer exclusive to the elderly, and many young people also have their share.This is because, with the accelerated pace of life, the complexity of interpersonal relationships, and the impetuousness of people in society, the living water in people's hearts is drained and polluted, and the body also ages prematurely.People in this sub-health state, if they don't adjust their mentality in time, don't expect to live a long life.