Chapter 8 Section VII FBI tells you the relationship between sitting posture and personality and psychology

In general, each person's sitting posture has its own characteristics, but even a random sitting posture can reveal people's different personalities and psychological states. FBI's non-verbal information expert Paul believes that sitting posture itself is a kind of body language, which is an unconscious psychological expression of people in communication situations. psychological attitude. At the FBI training base, the police officers are training in full swing.The dean of training came to the base suddenly and told them that the chief of the bureau would come to inspect the base the next day and would speak on stage.In addition, the dean of students also put forward a special requirement for the police officers, that is, when the chief lectures on the stage, the police officers sitting below must sit with their feet on the ground and spread far apart, and their faces must be covered with smiling.

Obviously, the police officers were full of doubts about this request.Therefore, the dean of students gave him the answer: because the non-verbal information sent out by this posture is that everyone is open and enthusiastic, treats people sincerely, and can often make correct judgments about things, which is worthy of dependence and trust.People in this posture also have a certain degree of tolerance and endurance, and can maintain concentration from beginning to end on other people's conversations, making them good listeners.If you feel that this sitting posture is uncomfortable, you can also adopt another posture - cross your legs while sitting. This posture represents that this kind of person is quite calm and calm. Able to respond quickly.These two sitting postures will leave a good impression on everyone in the director's heart, and it is also a respect for the director.

The director of training further explained this topic: If anyone sits with his legs tightly together, he will be immediately expelled from the FBI team by the director.Because this posture can reflect that timidity and shyness account for a large proportion of this person's personality. They often have poor adaptability to new environments and need long-term adjustments. Most of these people do not have strong self-confidence. People with low self-confidence are definitely not worthy of being an FBI police officer.There is another kind of person who is not worthy of being an FBI police officer, that is, people whose legs bump into each other or shake constantly while sitting. This kind of person is more irritable, irritable, not calm and calm enough, and lacks patience.

It can be seen how important sitting posture is in our communication or communication with people. It not only allows us to see through the other person's personality and psychological activities at a glance, but also improves our own shortcomings from these details. FBI expert Paul has made some new discoveries in the study of non-verbal information in sitting postures through long-term observation and experiments.He believes that the same sitting posture has different meanings for men and women.For example, if the person who crosses his legs immediately after sitting down on the seat is a woman, it means that she very much hopes that the person she associates with will give her more attention; Will not willingly lose to the opponent, but also reflects his more confident and casual personality traits.

There are various forms of sitting posture.On the one hand, we must pay attention to observe the posture of the other party, and be able to quickly detect their reasonable activities, understand their personality characteristics, and take various contingency measures wisely; on the other hand, we must cultivate our own good sitting posture. Sitting in a crooked or stilted posture is considered rude. Pay attention to the correct sitting posture, on the one hand, it is to give people a dignified and flat impression, so as to make people feel good.On the other hand, a good sitting posture can bring convenience to conversation.It can be seen that the sitting posture sometimes determines the effect of the conversation.Therefore, we should pay attention to it as a psychological tactic.In order to make the conversation more effective, FBI expert Paul reminds everyone to pay attention to the following two details:

(1) When sitting on a chair, you can sit a little forward and lean your body forward so that your back does not lean against the back of the chair.Taking such a sitting method is convenient for the body to shake back and forth, which can affirm the other party's conversation content in a timely manner, and also has the effect of prompting the other party to make a decision; if the back is leaning on the back of the chair, it will give people the impression of arrogance. (2) If you are sitting face to face with the other party, you can adopt a slightly right-turned posture when talking, so that the left side of the body faces the other party's left side, which will produce an easy-to-approach effect.When sitting and talking slowly, you must sit still and remember to move around, otherwise you will make the other person feel that you seem impatient.

Sitting posture is a kind of body language. It is an unconscious psychological expression of people in communication situations. To some extent, it can reflect a person's personality characteristics and his psychological attitude towards the conversation partner.