Chapter 16 3.The intellectual structure is a powerful "soft hedgehog"

The false "self" is a glass of poisoned wine, but some people drink poison to quench their thirst and enjoy it. This point must be made clear: "self" is a psychological function used to allow you to survive psychologically, which is not equivalent to the flesh of your body; but, if it is false, it will just lead you to Mentally weak, many times make you psychologically threatened. We are our own masters, and we don't need to play Buddhist tricks.In order to get rid of pain, there is no need to delude yourself into "rarely confused" like traditional Chinese "wisdom".To be precise, we don't need to fight against the powerful social forces behind the false "self", but just don't let the false "self" dominate us.

Our theory and method are: in various game situations, keep calm and sharp enough to prevent any external information and situations from bypassing our brains and instantly entering our psychological structure, otherwise, such information and situations will be lost. Activate our false "self" and thus manipulate us.We have to let this information pass through our brain first, interpret and react in the intellectual structure.In this way, the intellectual structure becomes our strong defensive position, protecting our psychological structure from being harmed by others. The above theory may be difficult to understand. Let’s use an analogy: Suppose you are an ant tribe without a house or a car.One day, you went on a blind date, and the other party suddenly asked you: "Do you have a house and a car?" You shook your head bitterly.She asks you again: "Does the monthly income reach 10,000?" You feel ashamed.She said angrily: "I'd rather cry in a BMW than laugh on your bicycle!" and educated you earnestly: "Poor people don't deserve love!" You were ashamed and angry.

All right!See, her words completely bypass your brain, instantly enter your psychological structure, and stab your extremely weak "self" like a knife precisely because you don't have a house or a car.You can't resist, because it's not your brain, but the poor "self" in your heart that is feeling, thinking, and judging! If this example still makes you feel that your understanding is not deep enough, then let's continue to explain what is an intellectual structure, what is a psychological structure, and what is the relationship between the two.After all, to learn a kind of martial arts, you must understand some words in the boxing manual and experience its profound thoughts. Just like Bruce Lee, martial arts is a kind of philosophy.

Intellectual structure (also called cognitive structure, thinking structure) refers to the function of the brain, representing human feeling, perception, thinking, and rationality.Humans have this thing, but animals generally do not, which makes a huge difference between humans and animals. The relationship between animals and the outside world is "stimulus-response". If you hit a dog with a ferocious gesture, it will run away immediately; while the relationship between it and itself is "instinct-action". When a dog is in heat, he will go to find a bitch, and he will not care about where it is.

However, people are different. There is an intellectual structure between people and the outside world, between people and their own instincts.The relationship between people and the outside world is "stimulus-judgment-response". Some people make fierce gestures to hit you in front of you, at least you can use your brain to make a judgment: depending on your strength, whether to fight or not .In terms of the relationship between man and instinct, you are in heat, it is impossible to find a woman on the street to solve it, right?The function of the brain tells you that it is wrong and dangerous, and your behavior has to go through the barrier of the brain first.

A gentleman is nothing but a patient pervert. This sentence is the experience of many women, and I am afraid it is also the master's way of some men who are very disguised, but it has a sufficient theoretical basis.In front of their prey, this group of people can use their brains to control their instincts, so as not to let it explode immediately, but use the set of hypocritical social etiquette invented by humans to package and hide their desires, and create a warm and romantic situation for their prey. , so that they convince themselves psychologically: taking the bait is a beautiful thing.However, the brain function of some hooligans is not very effective, lacking the ability of human beings to use "civilization", and they are more like male dogs in heat driven by instinct.

Compared with the simplicity of intellectual structure, psychological structure is a very complex and ambiguous concept.A concept is complex because what it refers to or describes is often complex.It is of course easy to use a simpler word to make people understand something at a glance, but it will miss very important things, and it is very lazy. Believe what Andy Lau said, buy a certain brand of shampoo, I don't know if it is wrong, because I have never bought it.But please believe in Freud, Fromm, Jung, Adler, Horney, Eriksson and other very powerful prophets of psychoanalysis, and please believe me, understand what is psychological structure, we will Holds a mysterious key to understanding all kinds of strange psychological phenomena.A powerful insight does not fall from the sky, but from understanding.So, give yourself a little patience!

Let me shine a flashlight into the darkness of the notion of "mental structure." The human psychological structure is equivalent to a secret room.We know that there are many things hidden in this secret room, human desires, instincts, characters, motivations, emotions, memories, etc., piled up in a mess, like a warehouse with disorderly management. Some inspirational gurus have been advocating that we should be the "managers" of our emotions, and the slogan is good.But we must understand how our emotions work in the psychological structure.Trying to control emotions just by shouting a few slogans is a myth.

Note that there is a dark basement below this chamber.There's a lot of stuff piled up in the Chamber of Secrets, but there's even more stuff piled up in the basement below the Chamber of Secrets.What's on top, in Freud's terms, is the conscious content, and what's on the bottom is the unconscious. Conscious means: when you love someone, you can clearly know when you hate someone; and unconsciously means: you may hate a certain star, but you don’t know why, or you did something ridiculous Afterwards, you will feel inexplicable.In addition, there are many human and personal pasts, which will always stay in the basement and cannot be called to your eyes.Unconsciousness is very similar to having a ghost manipulating you in the dark, in the deepest part of your mind.

The warehouse of the psychological structure is too messy. If you walk in and take a look, it will make your brain dizzy.Floyd and other masters did not carry out the work of organizing warehouses. Let me do this kind of thing! In the process of sorting out the warehouse of the psychological structure, I threw away a lot of sundries, and only kept 5 things that I think are more important: body-identity characteristics, past events, personality, value preferences, emotions, all of which may become one. It is a psychological function used to maintain the psychological survival of people, that is to say, it becomes the "self" of people.

A person is often inferior, or arrogant, about his body-identity.A disabled person, an impotent man, and a low-level youth, needless to say, have relatively low self-esteem.And a handsome guy, a hunk, or a graduate of Peking University will feel that they are amazing, and they are often proud of being "handsome", "fierce" and "Peking University".When you attack their body-identity, you attack their "self." Ah Q has a scar on his head, so he hates people saying "scar" the most, and he can't even say "light" or "bright". Many years ago, I had a colleague W who was in his 20s and physically looked like an eight or nine-year-old child (I suggest that we better use descriptions instead of unfriendly words such as "dwarfs" to describe define a person's physical characteristics).I still know how to speak in front of him, and I never dare to say words like "short", "small" and "short".I can imagine that his low self-esteem has made his psychology extremely twisted, and he will offend him if he is not careful. Moreover, I have a hunch that something will happen to W in the future.This is a very scheming person who has almost fatal requirements for self-esteem. The reality will detonate him sooner or later. Once, I went to the medical examination with W and several other people, and I ran into another colleague.He made a very stupid move, and felt very surprised to see W, and looked at W like a monkey, his eyes flashed with ridicule and provocation.Faced with this kind of behavior that was looking for death, I really felt sorry for him, and observed W's expression.I saw that his eyes, which are usually very hidden, were full of murderous desire. Finally, W finally kills.However, the deceased was not the colleague who wanted to die, but W's wife.The reason is said to be a quarrel over trivial family matters, and W picked up the knife.What a tragedy. We all have our own past, and deep down in the psychological structure, we also pretend to be human past.Unless you're a born idiot, every human being has a psychological evolution of human history from birth to adulthood.The difference between modern people and ancient people, post-90s and post-80s, post-80s and post-70s is only that in the process of socialization, the room above their intellectual structure and psychological structure warehouse is filled with the content of a specific historical period, while In every historical period and every era, those things in society are different. For personal past events, many of us can't remember.The reason why we can't remember those things, or because they didn't have a strong emotional impact on us at the beginning, they passed through the brain and disappeared like a cloud of smoke, even if they passed through the psychological structure, because they were not very important, they were quickly put in the dark or, some things are so painful that we prevent ourselves from remembering them, and so, like the devil, they are driven down to the basement, where we have to imprison them. In September 1909, at the invitation of Clark University in the United States, on the occasion of its 20th anniversary, Freud ran from Austria to the United States to give a speech. At that time, he was extremely frustrated and depressed in Europe.The bigwigs in the field of psychology looked like idiots because of Freud’s revolutionary ideas, and their interests were threatened, so they used the resources they controlled to suppress Lao Fu desperately, saying that the psychoanalysis he conducted was fake. science.And the people in old Europe are also prudish, and after being brainwashed by the big bosses of psychology, they also think that Freud is a villain who advocates pornography.The American people, by contrast, are much simpler in mind and more interested in new psychological discoveries. On the first day, the warm welcome from the Americans moved Floyd to tears.A scholar dies for his confidant, and the truth should be proclaimed to a rationally educated person.Therefore, in his speech, Lao Fu systematically revealed his deciphering of human psychology for the first time. He announced a discovery no less than one of the "commandments" in the "Ten Commandments" of the "Bible": the reason why many people suffer from neurosis such as phobias, obsessive-compulsive disorders, and depression is that at the beginning someone or something A certain situation stimulated his psychological structure and caused him to suffer psychological trauma, but at that time, because of fear, shame, face and other reasons, he was unable to vent his emotions in a normal way, and the pain was suppressed. What is a neurosis?The essence of neurosis is that these imprisoned emotions, if you don’t let them vent normally, they will change their appearance, so that you can’t recognize them and vent them in a disguised way!And this process of venting in disguise is the manifestation of symptoms. Some of these emotions are still stationed deep in a person's heart and become the source of long-term obstacles in the psychological life! To cure these neuroses is also very simple in theory. Fromm, a student of Lao Fu, took over and said that it is to turn unconsciousness into consciousness.Lao Fu explained that the so-called turning unconsciousness into consciousness is to allow neurotic patients to re-enter the situation when the psychological trauma occurred in a certain way, to remember the painful past events that were too painful to face, and to recall the past. The emotions that cannot be vented normally are vented happily.Therapies such as hypnosis and free association, which are common in psychotherapy today, do exactly this kind of thing. I want to stand on the shoulders of Lao Fu and add a few words: not only neurosis, but also many people's psychological distortion and psychopathy, this is also the logic. If your boss humiliates you severely, you are angry.But unless you stop working and have the guts to slap the table and beat him up, otherwise, you will choose to swallow your anger.That is to say, in the situation at that time, you suppressed your emotions and maintained emotional stability in front of him.However, your "self" has been stepped on by him, and it is difficult for you to survive psychologically.In order to survive psychologically, you must vent your breath, and if you cannot vent it in front of your boss, then change it to someone else, or vent it in a different way.If you happen to be able to control someone, then you are very likely to humiliate him like your boss humiliated you, let that anger vent in disguise, and gain balance. There used to be a classic food chain of venting emotions in disguise: the husband was angered by his boss at work, and he didn’t dare to take it out, so he went home to take it out on his wife; Mom, take the ball to vent your anger.Such a food chain where the strong take advantage of the weak is the living condition of our society.Many people are perverted like this. In order for some white-collar workers to relieve their "stress" and vent their anger in a disguised form when their superiors humiliate them, some "venting companies" have appeared in the society, and some "dummies" have been created for white-collar workers who want to vent their anger.And some companies don’t even need the market to provide this kind of service. They set up a room in a very humane way, put together the “dummy” of the company’s executives, and let the employees punch, kick, or even use a whip. This kind of gameplay can really let people vent their emotions.But it is not aimed at the person who created this emotion in the first place, so it is a bit obscene.It can only keep a person from being detonated for not getting vent, but it cannot prevent a person from being psychologically abnormal. The weak are bullied by the strong. It is estimated that if they cannot be defeated, they will generally not directly resist, but will look for alternative targets and express their anger.This is how Zheng Minsheng "Zheng Tu" who created the school child massacre case in Nanping, Fujian, played like this.As a victim of the interests of this society, psychologically, he magnifies the people who hurt him into an abstract society, and takes the most vulnerable children in the society as the specific identification targets to carry out "revenge". The students, not the students at the country school, made him feel psychologically that he was taking revenge on the people who deserved revenge. A person is by no means a blank slate, but brings his personal past and his psychological background to deal with others.It would be a foolish mistake to forget this. When we deal with others, we will first encounter a problem: personality.Character occupies a place in the psychological structure and has a psychological function that cannot be ignored.The ancient Greek philosopher Heraclitus said long ago that character is the patron saint of people.In my words, personality is a fixed way you deal with the outside world, which makes you stand out in this world, and it is used to defend against the impact of the outside world on your "self".Regarding character, I will analyze it in detail later. In this world, no one can be found without value preference.Some people like beautiful women, some people like money, some people have religious beliefs, some people are fans of social Darwinism, some people like equality, and some people feel that it is good to oppress others... In terms of psychological structure , value preference often represents a person's "identity" with something or someone, and he often bets his intelligence, his interests, his dignity, his emotions, etc., that is, he bets on his "self" go up. Therefore, attacking a person's value preference is tantamount to attacking his "self".If you cater to his value preferences, it is tantamount to flattering his "self".One of the tricks of a master flatterer is to start with value preferences and do what he likes, and many things can often be done. A person likes a certain mouthful, and this mouthful is part of his "self". Value preferences tend to infuse emotion.The more a man puts emotion into the things he loves and hates, the more insane he gets.There have been mercenaries since ancient times, but it is often the case that mercenaries are often inferior to the country's militia when they fight.There are certainly many reasons, but a very important factor is that mercenaries only work for money, killing and being killed for money; while militias fight based on love for their own country, and fighting is infused with strong emotions. In the psychological structure, the more someone or something constitutes a person's "self", the more difficult it is for him (her, it) to give up.Therefore, if you love someone, you can love them to death, and never allow other members of the opposite sex to share.That's because the other party has been fully incorporated into his psychological structure, and he wants to completely control and possess the other party.Often the more this is the case, the less a person will allow his loved one to be independent and free, because it means that the other person is not his "self", but another independent existence. In the absence of real love, just "love" backed up by strong emotions has devastating consequences.Once the other party seems to no longer love him, and his thoughts and actions are out of his control, it is equivalent to escaping from his psychological structure, which can completely cause his "self" to collapse completely.This psychological catastrophe is very likely to drive one person to kill the other.He would never allow her to logically throw herself into another man's arms, that is, give her "self" to another man.Moreover, he wants to punish himself for not being able to fully control his "self" by killing the other party, in fact strangling the "self" that makes him suffer! Sometimes, when we respond to the outside world, we can only use our brains to appeal to reason and logic; we cannot use our hearts to appeal to emotions and desires.For example, when recognizing things, if we let the content of the mind replace the content of the brain, then we wear colored glasses, and what we see is only the world we want to see, not the real world. Looking at the world with one's own love and hate, one's own wishes and fears, Fromm called it "distorted personality disorder", mild, such as despicable people imagining that everyone is despicable; extreme, suffering from persecution paranoia People think that everyone wants to harm him. Sometimes, you can only use your heart and not your brain. For example, when you get along with your relatives at home, you rely on the feeling of your heart. To express love, it is meaningless to fight wits and courage with family members.After all, home is not a workplace, let alone a business. Sometimes, you must use both your brain and your heart. For example, when thinking about a life problem, in addition to the reasoning and imagination of the brain, you also need the experience of the heart. The brain must drive the participation of the heart.Only when thinking triggers the experience of the heart can we truly understand a problem.By the way, the reason why philosophers in ancient society were stronger psychologically than philosophers in modern society and could stick to a certain way of life is because their philosophy is not only a product of mind, but also a product of life. Their existence It is one with their thoughts.But for modern philosophers, thinking is often just their "brainstorming", which is separated from action, and they have not achieved "unity of knowledge and action". As I said before, if a person's brain is replaced by psychology, he will inevitably become an illogical idiot, a psychological animal that jumps up when he is stabbed.Let us now examine how intellectual structures and psychological structures interact. Let's first look at how the media brainwashes the public.Please remember that it is not just certain institutions that brainwash you, but also the market-oriented media that you hope to provide the truth. Assume that in a certain school, there is a conflict between teachers and students.Well, the media, moreover, the market-oriented media made a report titled "Teacher Slaps Student Slap".What was your first reaction?Filled with moral indignation, isn't it?What we can confirm is that this headline, as an external message, quickly bypasses your brain, reaches your mental structure, and arouses your emotions. But why are you aroused?The situation is that before you react, you have already preset such a cognitive background in the intellectual structure: the teacher is strong and the student is weak.Unfortunately, your intellectual structure matches the "fact" provided by the title, so "the teacher slapped the student" escaped your rational inspection and quickly became a "fact".And, more importantly, you have accumulated in your psychological structure the values ​​that a strong teacher cannot beat students, as well as dissatisfaction with the teacher.You actually want this "fact" to appear, so that you have a specific goal to vent your dissatisfaction with the teacher reasonably!Thus, the media has succeeded in brainwashing you, and the reporter has easily imposed an extremely one-sided "fact" on you. If you look closely at the reports, that might not be the case.It wasn't that the teacher was beating up the students viciously, but that the students were very hateful. He was simply a hooligan who humiliated the teacher by making insulting remarks many times.Under the unbearable situation, the teacher and the students had a "physical conflict". The student slapped the teacher, but the teacher returned the color.Some rational people will correct their identification of "facts" after seeing this paragraph, thereby modifying their emotional reactions.However, a person who is emotionally unstable has fully accepted the "facts" imposed by the media in the headlines, and he has lost sight of the real facts.This kind of person whose brain is no longer functioning is like a machine. As long as the outside world sends out an order, he will be manipulated and run automatically. Let's look at another story: I have a friend who works in IT. He calls himself an "IT migrant worker".This gentleman fell madly in love with a company clerk, a beautiful woman.He told me that in his heart, this woman can be called a perfect goddess, not only beautiful, but also gentle, very like Xiaojiabiyu.I smiled and knew he was intoxicated.A man intoxicated by his own imagination will hear nothing against it. Before long, he finally chased the girl, and the two lived together.But after about half a year, he began to pour bitterness on me, sternly accusing this girl of becoming another person, lazy, extremely snobbish, worshiping money, and besides having a good skin, she was simply extremely vulgar. I corrected him: This woman has never changed, the only thing that has changed is that he has faced reality, whereas before he had been living in a dream he created.This woman's gentleness and Xiaojiabiyu's demeanor are all projected onto her according to his own wishes. He is willing and believes that she has these qualities, not what she already has.At first he was deceived by himself. This story is so universal. The reason why the "IT migrant worker" wants to set up a "fact" for his girlfriend as a gentle and xiaojiabiyu is because he must use it psychologically to convince himself that it is absolutely right to choose her, and that she is so beautiful, He also appears to have a good vision and a high class. Fortunately, he woke up before the marriage, when many people may have to wait until after marriage, only to be shocked to find that the other party is a selfish, snobbish, vulgar, mean person, and feels so strange.The reason why he was unfamiliar was because he was only dealing with the other party in his own psychological structure before, not the real one. In our analysis, the secrets of intellectual and psychological structures, and their mutual influence, are finally revealed.To summarize, we achieved seven major takeaways. We have mentioned this many times before.But I can't stress this enough, many people fall for it! That's what happens psychologically with religious extremists. Many laymen have proved that this is how they play Niucha.In addition, there is a group of so-called "intellectuals" and even cultural hooligans who also use this method: when arguing with others on a certain issue, in order to gain a psychological advantage, if other people's diplomas are not as high as their own, they will use discriminatory comparisons of diplomas to prove You are great and correct; if you do not have an advantage in diplomas, you will occupy the moral high ground, stigmatize the other party, and defeat the other party through moral attacks instead of opinion attacks. This is how a philosopher and a person who fights for justice are made. This is very important for our change, I will talk about it later. This is the golden rule to prevent the false "self" from acting under external stimuli and trapping us in psychological weakness; at the same time, it is also an important weapon for us in the game. According to (6) and (7), in the game with others, we can train ourselves to be the masters of the self, so that the false "self" can't control us. If you feel that the above theory is still a bit difficult to understand, let's give a situation to see it in detail. Take your boss as an example.One day, you didn't seem to have any warning, but your boss called you to the office with a gloomy face, as if he wanted to trouble you. This seems pretty cool. But what should you do? A good leader must not only play cool facial modeling.Great leaders must be amiable in front of grassroots civil servants and ordinary people.There is no other reason, his power has long been firmly established, and if he plays cool, he will scare the people below.Power only makes people fear, but authority makes people fear in their hearts.With power, he also needs to build authority and use "charisma" to package power. Unlike big leaders, section chiefs and section chiefs have their own reasons for not being cool.They and their subordinates get along with each other every day, and even work together. There is not much space and distance between each other's power relationship, which cannot create a sense of mystery about power.And power without mystery has no deterrent effect.Therefore, pretending to be cool is of no help in establishing an effective power relationship. It is better to pretend that this power relationship does not exist in normal times, and use emotional win-over in exchange for subordinates' obedience to his power. Do you see it?When the little leader told dirty jokes with his subordinates, their power-dominating relationship disappeared, and the subordinates did not feel the pressure of the little leader's power on him.In other words, when a small leader tells you dirty jokes, he is not the leader at this time, and you are not a small employee. Do you feel that he has the power to threaten you? However, if the small leader is an outsider, then the situation is completely different, he must pretend to be cool, just like the embodiment of power. The first time I understood the truth that "the king of hell is easy to see, but the little devil is hard to deal with" was when I was 18 years old.At that time, I went to a government department in my hometown to do something.When I walked to the door, I saw several civil servants playing cards and chatting, so I went up to please them and handed out a cigarette to each of them.According to the rules of the game of favors, if they took my cigarette, they would naturally owe me a favor. However, when I asked where XX’s office was and who I should contact for work, none of them answered me, with extremely serious expressions. Disdain, look like an old man in front of me, a "fart man". There is nothing I can do about these uncles who put on a show in front of the "fart people".In a rage, I thought of asking them to lead.So I went to the second floor, saw the door of the secretary's room was open, and walked in.The secretary happened to be there, so I told him about the situation.Unexpectedly, the secretary was very enthusiastic. After asking a few words, he took me downstairs and told a certain civil servant what I wanted to do, and asked him to help me.It was done with little difficulty. Many years later, when I woke up from my ignorance, I thought about this phenomenon. I've found that this is a strategy to keep the "false self" alive psychologically.Small civil servants and temporary workers are just a bottom brick under the power pyramid of the system. A feeling of insignificance and domination is embedded in their psychological structure and becomes the psychological background when they deal with the outside world. In front of the "fart people", they can finally find the feeling of power, and they will definitely not let go easily.Therefore, if they do not put on airs in front of the "fat people", they will not be able to experience their power over the "fat people" psychologically, and they will not be able to compensate for the fact that they are only dominated by the leadership within the system.Their cool language, expressions and actions in front of the "fart people" are actually a friendly reminder to the fart people: they are the masters, and the "fart people" should be more respectful. When the leader deals with the "ass people", his sense of power also forms his psychological background.So there is no need for him to play like a small civil servant or a temporary worker.On the contrary, showing an approachable appearance is the sign that distinguishes leaders from junior civil servants. Do you see it?Whether it is a leader, a small civil servant, or a temporary worker, when they interact with us "fart people", their first instinct is to pretend.Both arrogance and affability are power-playing tactics.They use words, actions, and the power behind them to carefully create and package an image of "self" to deal with us. Going back to our initial scenario setting, the first step we should understand is that the boss’s gloomy face and his dignified voice are a game strategy, intended to call out and tear our “self” apart.We must remain calm enough not to allow the psychological structure to operate, to prevent the "self" of us as the subordinate from being activated, that is to say, to only let his superior status stay in our intellectual structure and not enter the psychological structure.By cutting off the connection between the false "self" hidden in our psychological structure and the outside world, our fear will not arise. To do this, we must suppress our mental activities when we see him, and at the same time start thinking quickly, and analyze his expressions and language.As long as external information can be intercepted in our brains and interpreted at the same time, it will not impact our psychological structure.Even if it accidentally slipped in, "it" is already at the end of its strength, and its strength has been greatly reduced.And when we use the intellectual structure to deal with the language and expression of the boss, the situation changes, we are no longer the object of his power control, on the contrary, he becomes the object of our thinking and analysis, and the force is directed from us to him. During the "Cultural Revolution", many literati were impacted by "revolutionary fighters". They either committed suicide to apologize to the people, or took a firm revolutionary stand, and they no longer played with independence and aloofness.Qian Zhongshu's wife Yang Jiang is an exception, and she still maintains the high profile of a "cultural upper class".In one article, she revealed with glee that she played like this. Do you see it?Here, Yang Jiang played the game of herself as the subject and the revolutionary masses as the object to the peak.Psychologically, when the power of observation and cognition is directed from her to the revolutionary masses, the latter are defenseless, and their ego is nakedly exposed to her.If you can't imagine how great this psychological advantage is, please answer my question honestly: When you hide in the dark and spy on others, do you have an indescribable pleasure? I want to say that it is not enough to just intercept the boss's language, expression and other information on the intellectual structure for analysis.Because when we do this, we are only passively defensive, and what the boss wants to do and how he will deal with us next are completely unknown to us.The more transparent a person is to others, the less powerful he is.The more we don't understand what a person is going to do to us, the greater his psychological threat to us. Therefore, in the second step, we must go beyond the boss's words and expressions, see into his brain and heart, analyze his intentions, predict what he will do to us, drag him out of the darkness, and place him under the spotlight of our intellectual structure .In other words, after blocking his threatening information from entering our mental structure, we have to become hunters to snipe him! In this way, we might as well quickly examine what mistakes we may have made, and be caught by him, so as to come up with countermeasures.But be quick!Thoughts must immediately turn to this: Is he trying to use something as an excuse, using me as a prop, to show off his power?Or is he going to issue an order related to his interests or authority with the help of a majestic figure?If he says something in our prediction, then we must immediately predict what he will do next, and we must be one step ahead of him in the game.If this state is not broken, then you will always have an intellectual advantage, and your psychological advantage will always be maintained.