Chapter 11 Chapter 4 Breaking the Sorting of Social Value

Suppose your friends and colleagues have houses and cars, but you want to be a "housing slave", live in a dark basement or a village in the city, and squeeze the bus to work every day, can you imagine that you can keep calm ? When a person asks you like this, it does not rule out that you can answer him firmly for the sake of face: I can!But your heart will tell you right away, you are lying! Alternatively, you might be able to tell yourself: I can!But don't forget, it's the you in your head telling the you in your heart.It is a suggestion, a denial, not a real state of mind.

The reason is simple, you succumb to social value sorting.And unfortunately, you rank lower than others. A person whose self-identity is dominated by external evaluations is essentially a person who has lost his true self.As long as the "self" obtained from the external world enters our psychological structure, we become puppets of the external world and lose the ability to defend against attacks. As long as we succumb to the ranking of social values, we are doomed to live a precarious life psychologically and be disturbed by emotions such as inferiority complex, anxiety, and irritability.All the more so if, unfortunately, we have neither power nor money, that is to say, a powerful "self" that we receive from the outside world.

To become psychologically strong, one must break this social order of values ​​and free the mind from its shackles! "Social value ranking" is definitely a very critical concept. It is no exaggeration to say that it is an entrance for us to see society and people's hearts. I briefly explained this concept in the previous chapters, and now I will explain it comprehensively, that is: society has always regarded people as inferior, and there is a set of rules based on money, power, status, birth, diploma, appearance, fame, honor, etc. To classify whether a person is good or not, high or not, and arrange the evaluation criteria for everyone's different positions.White-collar workers are more upscale than migrant workers, and they have psychological advantages over migrant workers; while rich people and bosses can psychologically trample white-collar workers under their feet.In the eyes of the world, this is not a social abnormality, but a matter of course.

So, how did the "tyrant" of social value ranking rule the world? In 535 B.C., a man named Chuyu Yinyu said a very famous saying: "There are ten days in the sky, and there are ten classes in people. If you go down, you will get on with things, and if you go up, you will share God. Therefore, kings and ministers, ministers and officials, Officials and ministers, scholars and ministers, officials and officials, ministers and officials, officials and officials, officials and servants, servants and officials..." Look, one level is one level, the high and the low are all arranged, and it's so annoying to demonstrate its legitimacy.Mr. Zhou Shuren, an old Lu senior, expressed serious protest against this, and sadly imagined for a "Taiwan" where no one could be a "subject": Isn't there still a humbler wife and weaker son... The human feast in China has always been Put it like this!

The ancient Indian caste system is similar to this gameplay, and it also divides people into several levels, such as Brahmin, Kshatriya, Vaishya, and Sudra.In order to prevent the lower caste from polluting the blood of the noble caste, the first two castes must not intermarry with the latter two castes, and caste separation must be maintained in life.For example, it is stipulated that people of different castes cannot stay in the same room. Naturally, the clothes that the noble castes usually wear cannot be worn by the lower castes.The clothes you wear should let people know which caste you belong to at a glance.People of high caste wear a gold chain, and you want to wear it if you are of low caste. It is destroying the political and social environment of caste recognition, and it is destroying the great situation of stability and unity!

According to the research of Morris, the British human behaviorist who wrote the "Naked Ape Trilogy" of "Intimate Relations", in England in 1363, the parliament was mainly concerned with regulating the clothing of all classes of society; in Renaissance Germany, A woman who dresses beyond her actual status may be punished by wearing a wooden stock around her neck; in India, there are strict regulations on how to wear a turban to show caste; In the service of the king, his wife was not allowed to wear a velvet millinery or a gold necklace; in the early days of English colonization in the United States, a wife was not allowed to wear a silk scarf if her husband did not have a property of more than a thousand dollars.

In order to maintain the identity of a scholar who still has a place in the ranking of social value, have you ever seen Mr. Kong Yiji, who can only spend a few pennies, take off his long gown? Without the protection of the sword, the existence of social hierarchy is a big question.But the ordering of social values, which constitutes one and two sides of the social hierarchy, is effortless in conquering people's hearts.The reason is simple: when the low class in society succumbed to the violence of the noble class, they also succumbed to their aesthetic standards and value tastes. Fashion in a society usually starts from the upper class.The good men and women of the lower class who are captured by the social value ranking will of course follow suit, and thus look fashionable and high-end, but when the fashion hits them, in order not to be confused with them, the fashionistas of the upper class have already changed their game. .

The reason why the lowly class succumbs to the social value ranking and is on par with the noble class is also a more hidden reason: the latter is the farthest away from the dirt and sweat.And getting rid of mud and sweat is a person's eternal desire!Does being mixed with dirt and sweat make a person feel inferior?Yes. First of all, dirt and sweat are associated with life, but also with death, with the inability of a man to rise above his first humble state of life, which he dreads most. Secondly, social hierarchy and social division of labor exist to discriminate against status.Those who are mixed with mud and sweat have always been the lower classes. What the upper classes play is not productive labor, but governing the country, fighting wars, reading, and management. "Those who labor with their minds govern others, and those who labor with their strength govern others."

You may want to ask: Didn’t ancient China have a “emphasis on agriculture and suppression of commerce” and a set of values ​​that love the land?Moreover, didn’t the former Soviet Union lift workers and peasants to the sky and demote the Russian aristocrats to hell? Don’t those who are close to the dirt and sweat have a psychological advantage over those who are far from the dirt and sweat? of course not.For a person, if one thing he does not want to happen has happened and cannot be changed, he must activate the psychological protection mechanism: accept his fate.I love the land because I can't throw down my hoe and become an official.Acknowledgment of fate avoids the harm to oneself caused by social value ranking, and finds the meaning of survival from the relationship with the land.

Not only in China, but in ancient times, the poor in almost all countries did this, and they could only do this.In many places, some religious masters simply come out to flicker, elevating this kind of resignation to the height of religion, covering it with a sacred halo, saying that people should suffer and endure their own fate in order to be saved in the next life or heaven. Even now, according to friends who have visited India, although the poor in India can only live with rubbish in the slums, (the probability of being a "millionaire in the slums" is similar to the probability of winning the lottery, that is The myths used by the ruling class to anesthetize the oppressed people’s will to resist, the broad revolutionary masses must be vigilant!) But they are calm about their own situation.Why?Because they should endure suffering as a lowly caste, and it has become a kind of survival in a religious sense. This is arranged by God, and they must listen to God's words so that God can cover them.

The exaltation of workers and peasants by the former Soviet Union is another matter.The plausible political status did give many people a semblance of a psychological advantage over the aristocracy, because they imagined themselves on the side of truth and the laws of history.However, the social value ranking behind the aristocracy still makes many people feel inferior.So we see that the new organizational structure still has many traces of a hierarchical society.The more a person hates others because they have more status and wealth than him, the more he actually wants to become that person in his bones! Look at it from another angle: given the same facial features and body shape, why do we think a fair-skinned woman is more beautiful and classy than a dark-skinned woman?Perhaps the reality that white people are good and black people are not good will affect our aesthetic standards now.However, in ancient times, when the Chinese had this aesthetic standard, the white people in some places were still in the forest.The fundamental reason is: white means no productive labor, no sun and rain, no dirt and sweat, while black is just the opposite.Stewardesses look high-end not only because of their good looks, not only because they have a pair of black stocking legs, but also because of their profession, and the people they come into contact with are far away from the dirt. Just because people have the eternal desire to get rid of the mud and sweat, and like to play psychological competition, even if the social hierarchy has been impacted to pieces by the trend of freedom and equality, the ranking of social values ​​has never changed with its end. Can't play anymore. Quite the contrary, it will play harder.Because in modern society, there is no one who stipulates that you cannot wear clothes that only the rich can wear, and no one stipulates that you can only be a worker, a farmer, or a small employee for the rest of your life.It promises that you have an equal chance with everyone else in successfully climbing high society.The door to the future is always open to you, the only question is whether you can walk in.In addition, everything is uncertain, maybe one day the opportunity will favor you.That being the case, it is inappropriate to accept fate, and it is even irresponsible to oneself. I warmly applaud this, and at the same time deeply regret it, because it means that everyone will make society more toxic together!