Chapter 9 3.what is manipulating us

Society is a hierarchical structure, full of power and money, violence of ideas. Sorry for using a term that seems very abstract.But this term is very powerful and very useful, just like Mr. Wu Si's terms of "blood reward" and "hidden rules", it can help us understand many things at the level of hidden social rules.What is "social value ranking"?To put it simply, as long as you think that a white-collar worker is more expensive than a migrant worker and a college student is better than a primary school student according to social concepts, then you have followed a certain order of social value.

And once you follow the dictates of social value ordering, you open the door to your own psychological vulnerability.This social value ranking will inevitably create hurt, anxiety, anger, low self-esteem and humiliation, because according to this law, in this game, only those at the highest end can gain absolute psychological advantages among the crowd. Without a "self," one cannot live psychologically.But if his "self" is not himself, but only an "agent" inhabited by social things, he loses touch with himself. People who use a "false self" to sustain their psychological survival are defenseless from the start.

As long as we are powerless to grasp a thing, we do not feel that we are masters of our destiny. A person engulfed in uncertainty is at the same time a person who cannot experience his power over the world. Some people are easily influenced by others. Other people's words and behaviors can quickly bypass his brain, enter his psychological structure, arouse his various emotions, and cause emotional and state instability.In fact, as long as a person cannot use his brain to protect his psychological structure and interpret external stimuli, his mental weakness is a kind of fate. Seeing a person in front of me, he became an object of observation for me.In the same way, we are also the object of other people's words and actions.For a person who is easily influenced by others, the force of others' words and deeds is directed at him, and the direction of the force determines the psychological advantages and disadvantages.

Therefore, we know that the secret to the great pleasure of spying on others is: the force is directed by us to the person we are spying on, and psychologically disarms his defenses. Corresponding to the order of values, society is a hierarchical structure, full of violence of power, money and ideas. A boss can use the name of "management" to humiliate a small employee and blow his self-esteem, no matter whether he is abnormal or not, this is a reality. Many people have imagined living in Peach Blossom Spring, but Peach Blossom Spring is just a dream. A fundamental feature of social life is conflict.Participating in the game of society, the weak will not be "hurt" unless a miracle happens.

Not to mention, hurting others becomes fun for some moral idiots. Whether there is justice in this world or not, everyone is equal in this matter, that is death, and everyone must die. Death is just a biological law, not a problem in itself.But for people, knowing that they will eventually die has become the biggest problem.