Chapter 17 5.Happiness must start from giving up loving someone with a humble attitude

Three months later, Paul and his wife's divorce proceedings went to court. I heard that Mr. Ni hired a very powerful lawyer to help Paul fight this lawsuit. Unfortunately, Paul's wife found out about Paul's affair and vowed to get him out of the house. Her strategy for marriage and love finally paid off. Although I have already stayed out of the matter, and I feel pity for Paul's wife who has to fight the lawsuit with a big belly, but at the same time, I also feel that a woman with a lot of karma can be so cruel to the motives of love and marriage. It is unavoidably a little scary.

Love is beautiful, but don't love someone with a humble attitude. In fact, the love between Paul and his wife has been unequal from the very beginning. Paul allows himself to tolerate and condone this inequality because he loves her.However, any kind of unequal relationship will make people feel "humble". You can convince yourself to love him (her) more, but sooner or later you will have to face yourself in front of him (her). "Humble" fact. There is no love without dignity, let alone a man with dreams. If you decide to love him with this attitude, then you must always be prepared to lose him.

Paul's wife was indeed "prepared to lose all the time", and as a result, she really lost.Unfortunately, she hasn't reviewed her own problems so far, or she doesn't have the time. Jesse told me that since Paul received TAROT consultation, he has become very clear about his future and knows what he really wants in life.In dealing with the divorce with his wife, in fact, he seemed calmer than ever, because everything was within his expectations.There is nothing terrible for a man like him to go out of the house. In Paul's words, as long as he stays away from her "karmic circle", success is just around the corner. What is the loss now?

Paul's death card finally changed from reversed to positive. This is a miracle created by himself, and of course Jesse's encouragement and support are indispensable. I think that what Paul cares most about is his flesh and blood, children, which is the most painful price of this marriage, and it is also the reason why Paul has repeatedly stopped moving forward. "But, I can't live for my children, I have to be free." "I think when he grows up he'll understand." I can only comfort him like this. "But what about my child?" Paul's tone is concerned. The affair has made him uncompetitive for custody of his children, and he worries that his children will fall back into his wife's karmic circle and grow up in an unhealthy and unhappy single-parent household.

"Life is an independent individual. Instead of worrying, it is better to believe." "Believe in what?" "I believe that your child will grasp his own 'wheel of fortune' to resist all karma in his life, because your blood flows in his body." Paul suddenly fell silent. After a while, I heard the sound of a young father weeping silently for his unborn child. At the end of the year, classmates reunite. Paul brought his new girlfriend. She was a pretty, confident girl with a sunny smile. Paul looks reborn, with a little vicissitudes, obviously matured a lot, exuding a well-accumulated masculine power all over his body.

I always thought that Paul was a good man, but he was not decisive enough and lacked some masculinity. It turns out that only when a man meets the right woman will he become more and more like himself, and the same goes for women. The classmates asked Paul when he would remarry, but Paul's girlfriend said that there was no rush. In the past few years, Paul would start a business with peace of mind, and he didn't want to use marriage to tie his footsteps. "Aren't you worried that he will change his mind again?" A stupid question asked inappropriately by a bored fool.

The girl smiled frankly and replied: "If he changes his mind again, it must be that I am not good enough. If there is someone better who can give him better happiness, I will bless him, but this does not mean that I will not work hard, love A person is not in order to get something, to love him is to achieve him, I believe that Paul is the same to me." Paul didn't speak, just looked at her silently. The girl immediately returned his gaze. Those brief seconds of staring give us an indescribable eternity that Paul never had. That night, Paul's girl became the focus of everyone's attention, and all the men felt that Paul had a bright future, and the divorce was really worth it!In the ears of us women, it is inevitable that there is a taste of schadenfreude.

It's just the beginning, but they are indeed on very different paths. If the marriage between Paul and his ex-wife is a reversed Second of the Holy Grail, then he is now on the road to the Tenth of the Holy Grail, which is a relationship between the sexes that is truly mutually beneficial, equal and cooperative, even, Marriage is not required to prove commitment to each other. We no longer worry about Paul's future. Marriage is a natural thing for the couple of the Ten of Cups. Maintaining a stable and lasting relationship is far more important to them than a marriage contract. That night, we had a crazy time, and we all discovered that his past marriage was an invisible burden for all of us.

Too heavy love will also become an invisible pressure on friendship. However, at that moment, for some reason, I was very sober. In my mind, the incomparably innocent eyes of Paul when he looked tenderly at his first love wife for whom he had devoted ten years of love still flashed from time to time.Now, the moment when he showed us his thoughtfulness and love for her without any scruples has disappeared forever. Such eyes, such love, probably only once in a lifetime. I don't know, in the long years to come, while the lonely single mother is embracing Paul's child, will she still miss the happiness that was close to her but far away in the sky?