Chapter 8 2. "You are wrong, I am a phoenix who has been defeated repeatedly."

For the second meeting, Roger was half an hour early, holding a business inspirational book in his hand, and sitting alone on the sofa in the entrance to read. I had an arrangement for a private TAROT analysis that afternoon, and I came to the meeting early to make preparations after the end. As soon as Roger saw me, he put down his book and came forward. "Can I draw one first?" "Can." "What do you want to know?" I don't mind having visitors warmed up in advance. "I want to know what kind of person I am." This topic is really big enough.

We sat down in a quiet corner, and I began to teach him the rules of shuffling and drawing cards personally, so that he could calm down and think about things related to himself, and then cut a card randomly. What the card shows is a major arcana card that condenses a high degree of spiritual energy—— The right pope. "Oh, is this me?" Roger looked at the solemn and lofty "King" on the card, and frowned. "I don't like this card." He glanced at me subconsciously, and then said bluntly. "why?" "He made me feel very uncomfortable."

In front of me, Roger dropped the Pope card casually. "A very strange idea flashed through my head." "tell me the story." I found that when he faced me alone, he not only lost his defense, but also showed a kind of superficial childishness in his bones. "This card reminds me of my father." "Is it because it reminds you of him that you feel uncomfortable?" "It doesn't seem to be completely, I don't know." "How is your relationship with your father?" "It's not bad, and it's not too good. I insisted on starting my own business, but he didn't agree with it all the time. He would call me every once in a while and ask me if I would consider returning to my family business to help. He knew that I know I'm not going back."

"Are you stressed about this?" "A little bit, he never had any direct conflict with me, nor would he force me. I left home early, and he basically couldn't control me. However, our father and son have a good relationship and have maintained a stable relationship. It’s just that every time he calls, at the end of the talk, he always returns to the old topic of inheriting his father’s career, as if he is sure that I will go back sooner or later.” "You think he's stubborn." "Is it stubborn?" Roger asked me back. "I think he's strong."

"The Pope is very powerful and authoritative in his bones, and he is indeed qualified to do so." "Just because he's my father?" "The Pope has an unshakable position in the Major Arcana. It is a symbol of a supreme spiritual leader, an inheritor, giver and educator of the high wisdom of the universe. Just like your father, he is a successful Entrepreneurs, in business, he has the same unshakable identity and status as the Pope, or, like the Pope, he has an aura that people can look up to, which is innate, and this is why he can One of the reasons for the success."

"I know what you mean, some people seem to be born with the voice of a big boss." I laughed. It was the first time I heard Roger speak such plain words, and I really felt his frankness and loveliness. "It seems that you don't like this tone, it makes you feel very uncomfortable." "Well, people who want to start their own businesses don't like being suppressed by others, so I must start my own business..." "The best way to completely dismantle the old pope's strong self-confidence is to prove it to him with facts." "That's right."

"However, the question we just asked was about you. I wonder if you thought of your father when you drew the cards?" I am still full of doubts about this card. "No, not at all." Roger's eyes were very firm. "Then this card does not refer to your father, but to yourself." "Wrong, definitely wrong, this can never be me." TAROT can't go wrong unless the drawer thinks of something else in that split second. I wanted to confirm this issue with Roger again, but the other visitors were already in place one by one, and Catherine also came to urge me, so I promised Roger that we will find an opportunity to continue discussing this card after the event is over.

Roger's "warm up" gave me an inspiration. I changed the topic that I wanted to further experience the conflict of values ​​to: "What fate did my gold coin bring to me?", and decided to use only the twenty-two major arcana cards for observation. The major arcana card is likely to truly present the life status and destiny trajectory of the rich second generation present. At that time, I did have some concerns about whether I was going too fast. There are still many problems to be solved between "knowing yourself" and "accepting yourself". Since they are a group of phoenixes ready to burn for themselves, then I should use the same energy to deal with their difficult challenges. If they can successfully "break through the barrier", then, when they really face the crisis of fate, they will not hesitate to ignite themselves.

First of all, I would like to ask everyone, are there any new things related to our topic that are worth sharing this week? Coco's little white hand was raised immediately. "A super loli thing happened this week." "What can you do with loli?" Jason asked jokingly, the two of them seemed to be in a good relationship, but they didn't look like a couple. "No one wants to go out to eat with me!" Coco's eyes kept looking at my face. As soon as she finished speaking, everyone present except me, including Catherine, suddenly couldn't help laughing.

"Did you do it on purpose?" Coco was not angry, but felt a little wronged. So, I let Coco smoke first. Her card is a regular demon. "What a terrible card." Seeing the demon, Coco's face turned pale. "It's actually not that scary," I smiled at her. "You are indeed wronged when you draw this card, because your intention is not like this, but your subconscious mind has made a mistake." "What's the meaning?" "Your friends don't want to hang out with you because you don't spend your money the way they do, so they always feel like you're controlling them."

"No, I don't mean that at all." "We know." Mr. Wang felt that Coco was innocent, so he came out to smooth things over. "However, your behavior makes others feel uncomfortable. You think, every time you go out, you are the one who treats guests. We all have the same conditions. It doesn't matter if we take turns. As long as you are here, you will prohibit us from paying. As time goes by, everyone There is a gap in your heart, I don’t know what you are thinking. Guess if you want us to help you and you are too embarrassed to ask? It takes a long time to think about it every time, it’s too tiring.” "I don't ask for anything from you, really nothing." Coco was very anxious, tears were about to flow out, and Catherine, who was sitting beside her, hurriedly hugged her shoulder. "The reason is that you refuse to admit that money relationship is an important part of interpersonal communication. A healthy and long-term relationship must be based on equality and mutual benefit. As I said last time, excessive generosity is also a kind of control. The devil card often hints at a person's underlying motives in attempting to manipulate a relationship with money." "You mean, I keep saying I hate buying relationships with money, but in reality, I've been doing it all the time?" "Don't say that! I'm really afraid that you will take out a watermelon knife and chop us all up." Jason made a very exaggerated movement, and the atmosphere suddenly became more relaxed. I can completely feel that everyone actually likes Coco very much. However, I have to truthfully conclude that Coco's current destiny trajectory brought to her by her values ​​is "difficult to establish deep interpersonal relationships".Interestingly, the Phoenixes are always brave enough to challenge those "impossible tasks". Coco's current personal career development is moving towards the public relations field, and there are many difficulties. He often seems to be unworthy of being trusted by others. It feels like we all suggest that Coco should first cultivate and mature his EQ sub-division before "traveling in the rivers and lakes". "I really can't accept me like this." Coco's tears really flowed down, and all kinds of grievances came to her heart. "In fact, there is a little devil living in everyone's heart. It is an unconscious behavior. I believe everyone can understand it, but I don't know how to tell you their inner feelings." "It's really embarrassing. Let's talk about it. I'm afraid it will hurt you. If you don't talk about it, I feel panicked." Catherine spoke from everyone's heart. "Fortunately, there is TAROT as a medium, so that we can face each other with our true colors." "So, we decided to collectively reject your invitation, and use this way to tell you our long-suppressed feelings." Jason summed it up appropriately. "I want to know where the devil in me comes from? Why didn't I always know?" "The subconscious mind is the most hidden code of the inner personality. The little devil is an unaware imprint in our personality, and the source of the imprint often comes from a certain way of interacting with people that we are most familiar with. For example, Coco's parents because of The mode of 'buying relationships with money' unintentionally shown to her by work needs is the imprint left in the process of her personality growth." "Will this imprint stay with you forever?" "Of course. The first memories our parents give us are often the deepest imprints in our lives." "Although Coco's consciousness clearly knows that it is wrong, and she has been trying very hard to avoid it, but the environment she has been exposed to repeatedly since she was a child has left an indelible mark on her subconscious personality. After all, Coco didn't resist it since she was a child, and you didn't have such ability at that time, so the more she wanted to avoid the little devil, the more the little devil would play a role at critical moments." "Is that an unconscious behavior, even I don't know it?" "That's right, so you don't need to have a strong sense of guilt about things you don't know, let alone endless self-blame." "That's a small imprint." Catherine took my word for it. "And, you already know that by now, don't you?" Coco lowered his head and pondered for a moment, then stood up suddenly, waved his fingers around everyone's foreheads, and said loudly: "Listen up, from today on, come out with me, all AA, no one will try to take advantage of me again!" In an instant, laughter and applause rang out, and the joy and sense of accomplishment full of rebirth was endless. I'm glad I didn't underestimate Phoenix's strength. It's such a painful thing to see another annoying me and burn my self-esteem on the spot, but she did it. "Knowing yourself is the first step in changing your destiny. I must remind you, eradicating the little devil left by our parents is probably a homework that we will not be able to complete in a lifetime." "But now, at least I know where it is hiding, so I can kick it suddenly when it is about to jump out and make trouble. "TAROT is amazing." Coco couldn't help holding up the devil card, and seemed to like it. "The magic is not TAROT, but yourself!" I have to admire Phoenix's courage to surpass itself. At this time, Jason, who witnessed Coco complete a short section of reborn, proposed that he wanted to draw cards. Jason's card is Judgment Reversed. What had thrown Jason's fate into an ambiguous mess? I asked Jason to draw another one. What followed was the power of inversion. Because of the confusion, he lost his original confidence and strength, and the Minor Arcana about the details still hasn't appeared. In the third picture, the second sword finally appeared. "Jason, can you tell us how many opportunities you have missed that were close to your dreams?" Jason's eyes widened and he stared at me for a while. I think it is still necessary to explain the meaning of the card first. "Judgment card means the success brought by fair and clear thinking. Reversed, it implies unclear and chaotic thinking in judgment and decision-making, showing that although you have the thinking of a judge, it is difficult to make it work for you .We have discussed last time that you often habitually avoid money-related choices. Therefore, your gold coins have brought you the fate trajectory at this stage of "unable to grasp the opportunities that belong to you", so you lose confidence and burn the power of." After listening to my explanation, Jason's expression was unusually surprised. "It's unbelievable. I have never admitted this to anyone. In fact, my situation is indeed the case. In the past few years, I have faced many opportunities in career, emotion, and life. I don't know why. , I can’t make up my mind, I miss it again and again, I know very well that opportunities don’t always favor me, so I really want to change.” "Try to study this sword two." Jason picked up the TAROT card and observed it patiently. "Why is she blindfolded?" Jason pointed to the woman on Sword Two and asked me. The woman held two swords crossed in front of her chest, her eyes were covered with a cloth. "Blindfolded is to listen to the inner voice, like, what do I really want?" "Oh, this is a question that I haven't been able to figure out until now." "Okay, let's talk about the little devil in Jason's character, what do you think it is?" "avoid responsibility." Roger couldn't help blurting out, and everyone's eyes immediately focused on him. "Not choosing does not mean wanting to avoid responsibility, I am just indecisive." "But you said you hated choices." "I hate it." "That is evasion, because as long as you choose, you have to pay for it, and you have to bear a series of responsibilities after the choice. A job has a responsibility for a job, and a relationship has a responsibility for a relationship. We often say Isn't the phrase 'it's your fault' a statement of responsibility? You just don't want people to say that to you." Roger once again stepped forward to play the blockbuster role. At this time, the aggressive "murderous look" is very useful, but for those who are not mentally prepared to accept the truth, the feeling must be love and hate. Very tangled. "Are you accusing me of being an irresponsible man?" Jason's tone was agitated, obviously irritated by him. "I think what Roger means is that the little devil in your character that you don't know is a man who has no responsibility." I hope this explanation eases the tension between them a bit. "I don't like choices, is it really because my subconscious is constantly trying to avoid responsibility?" Jason suddenly lost all self-confidence at that moment. "We all know why you hate choices. Last time you said that choices are an extra burden for you. What you resist is the burden of being forced to choose. Your parents have been doing this since childhood. Therefore, your personality brand is "habitually let others make choices for you instead of yourself". The principle of this behavior pattern is the same as that of Coco. Your conscious level knows that it is not what you want, but you can't make a decision. , because the subconscious mind tells you no, the information has not been filtered clearly, and you can’t do it. When you were young, your parents helped you filter it first, didn’t they? But what is the most qualified and perfect filter? You don’t actually Know, because this rule has never been set by you, and this is the reason why you have been sticking to this empty rule since you grew up, because you are used to filtering, but at the same time you don’t know what is the best, So, you can never make the right choice." "So I've always been a slave to my parents' rules?" A bright light flashed in Jason's eyes. "The innate character traits make us constantly restrain ourselves and offer our loyalty without hesitation. And everything we do now is to get rid of this restraint and gain another new life." My eyes flicked over Roger inadvertently, and at this moment, there was an unexpected touch on his stern face. "I admit defeat." Jason shook his head resignedly. "I have to accept the cruel fact that this damned little devil has seriously hindered my life and caused serious congestion in my fate lane." These three cards really showed Jason's current situation very clearly. I suggested that he try to draw another card and ask TAROT for any good suggestions. The last question I set up for Jason was: "What should I do to effectively improve my current situation?" Everyone is looking forward to Jason's last card, as if waiting to open a Pandora's box. The face of the card is the upright female Pope. At that moment, I had to once again be in awe of the wisdom opened by TAROT. "The Pope's answer is only six words: trust your instincts." Jason looked into my eyes confusedly. This sentence is so simple to us, but so unfamiliar to him, I let him savor it carefully alone, and after a while, an unprecedented relief appeared on his face. "Growing up, I never trusted my instincts, whenever I felt like I should, I always doubted, but I actually knew it was right, very strongly, but, I never believed it The feeling of that moment." "That's because your demons have kept your intuition closed and dormant for a long time." "Thankfully, intuition is a thinking skill we are born with. It is innate. You can suppress it, but you can't stop it from working. All Jason has to do is release its energy and give it back. Freedom, it will work by itself. The most important thing is to believe, you must believe that it will give you a reliable and accurate answer, otherwise it will not be able to help you." "I still don't know exactly what to do." Jason felt that he just picked up a stepping stone, and he couldn't help being a little frustrated. "Do you want to eat into a big fat man? I bet you will choke to death before the demon is eradicated." Coco's words made us all amused. "Thinking patterns can be slowly inspired and trained. The first is self-confidence, you have to believe that you can change, the second is willpower, insist on thinking about problems in a different way, and then tolerance, you will still be entangled in this issue for yourself Tolerance. In other words, we must be strict with ourselves, but also know how to comfort ourselves at the right time, knowing that our loyalty to our own nature is above everything else.” "How else can we say that the country is easy to change and the nature is difficult to change." No, Catherine was right. While Jason was resting, it was Mr. Wang's turn to draw cards. A fool card reversed. "Wow, you are really a standard blind idealist." Roger quietly showed a hint of imperceptible complacency, his judgment last time was indeed correct. "How to say?" "I advise you to put aside the project of the charitable foundation first." "Is it that serious?" Mr. Wang was very surprised by my outspokenness. "You are not ready to take risks, the reason is that your experience is not enough." "How is it possible, he has been in the business world for so many years, he is definitely a character!" "Yes, in terms of life experience, he is richer than any of us, so he should be successful in everything he does." Everyone immediately "besieged" me, and I realized that Mr. Wang is an indispensable idol in the hearts of the members of the rich second generation club. He represents a certain model and carries the expectations of the Phoenix family that cannot be underestimated.However, in my eyes, this phoenix's wings are still at the stage of a baby bird, but now it can't wait to fly. "I think it is necessary for us to discuss what is life experience and what is life experience." "Isn't it the same thing?" "of course not." Roger cut in unexpectedly. "Life experience is about the past, how you have lived, it can only be used as a reference, life experience tells you the present, right now, how you are living, it is a concept at this moment, every second Miracles are happening all the time, life experience will push you to constantly think about how to live in the future." With another heavy blow, he once again brought me a great surprise, and I even had the urge to ask him to be my salon assistant. "Indeed, Mr. Wang's life experience is an extremely beautiful report card. Unfortunately, he is an excellent student in the life class, but in the life class, he is an out-and-out repeater. The inverse Fools tell me that your current destiny is "the past that never lived in the present, so that you can't feel the needs of yourself", so I suggest you not to act rashly, people who don't understand what they want, do anything is careless Playing aimlessly will only make your life more confused, and the chance of fate will become more and more slim." Mr. Wang looked a little unconvinced, he is not used to my current tone. Convincing a gifted student to admit that he has a problem is far from easy and requires a more blunt hammering without giving him any opportunities for roundabout rationalizations. "Okay, what exactly are the so-called life experiences? I'm all ears." His expression is still full of confidence. "I wonder, what does life mean to you?" "Life is about living your dreams." I smiled: "This sentence is too general. Let me change the question. Establishing a charitable foundation is your current dream. So what motivates you to realize this dream?" "In order to make more people happy." "What is happiness?" "Happiness is..." I waited patiently. Mr. Wang thought for a long time, but couldn't answer for a while. At this time, I subconsciously glanced at Roger, and I had a premonition that he had something to say. "May I take the liberty to ask, has anything ever caused you pain?" Roger just followed up on what I just said. "Pain?" Mr. Wang didn't seem very sensitive to this word. "You once said you don't want to work for money anymore, does working for money make you miserable?" "That's not true. I just want to change to a state where I don't have to work for money." "The problem is, you didn't work for money before. Really working for money is a very painful thing. I feel that you are quite happy with a high salary and a high job." Mr. Wang's face immediately became embarrassing, and other sharp eyes around him also shot at Roger. The smell of defense is getting stronger and stronger, and I have to come out to smooth things over. "I think what Roger really meant was that you don't know what true happiness is until you've experienced real pain." "Then have you experienced it?" Jason clung to Roger tightly. Roger looked at him calmly and composedly for a moment. “I used to feel like dying when my partners brought down the firm I had worked so hard to build and left me alone.” The turbulent atmosphere quieted down in an instant. "So, you don't know what happiness is." Roger looked back at Mr. Wang with sincere eyes and a calm tone. "Because you don't know what pain is, and people who don't know happiness can't give others happiness. It's just a disguise to say that you hate working for money. Charity funds play with money. Without money, what do you use to help others? First, You still need to make money. I know that with your strength and resources, it may not be difficult to raise funds, but what is your philosophy of charity? Is it just a random dog or cat crying to you and asking you for money? , you have to give? If this is the case, then it is not doing charity, but helping others to cheat. Frankly speaking, I have seen many such foundations. " "Mr. Wang, if you want your ideals to be based on a solid, reliable, visionary and promising foundation, then your values ​​must be clear enough, what I want, what I don't want, what I can give, what I must Adhere to the unshakable, these are not what life experience can give you, what high salary and high job can give you is a very illusory state of life, a life that most people can't enjoy. And charity may require you to rebuild your Your values, even your outlook on life, these can only be felt when you touch the most real and essential core of life itself, otherwise, your so-called ideal is just a foundation based on blind self-confidence, using money to satisfy vanity and A playground for narcissism." This speech is sharp and sharp, every word is pearls, and the words are in the language. There is no doubt that the Reversed Fool describes such a desperate and blind child. Mr. Wang was convinced by Roger's words, and at the same time, he became irresistibly curious about him. "I'm really curious what kind of card you will draw." In fact, everyone is curious. Roger shrugged, stood up generously, walked in front of me, and began to shuffle the cards. The moment I turned over the cards, I noticed the change in his face, and an extremely incredible feeling shocked him. It is still the upright Pope. Roger couldn't help but glanced at me, the aura he had just faced with Mr. Wang disappeared in an instant. "It's really extraordinary, it turns out to be a king." An upright view of the Major Arcana shows such an authoritative image on the screen, no wonder everyone can't wait for my explanation and plans to define him directly. "It seems that you are the real strong." "A real phoenix on fire." Coco's tone even had a taste of worship. Roger was silent for a long time without saying a word, then raised his head to face everyone. "Actually, you are all wrong. "I'm a phoenix who has fought and failed, and a total loser." That was the first time Roger confessed to us. Until this moment, everyone's eyes returned to me. I originally thought that explaining this card would be something after the event ended, but I didn't expect it to be in front of everyone. "Roger didn't draw the King, but the Pope. "The Pope is the fifth card of TAROT's Major Arcana. All the upright fifth cards in TAROT imply some kind of irreconcilable conflict. You are indeed wrong. Not all upright cards represent the positive meaning. .” Right now, everyone but me is in total shock at the interpretation of this card.