Chapter 197 Acupuncture first

In interpersonal communication, if you say something frankly, it will hurt people, but if you don’t say it, you will feel uncomfortable; if you say it tactfully, you are afraid that people will not understand it, and if you say it seriously, you are afraid that people will misunderstand your good intentions.How should these words be said? Su Dongpo, a famous writer in the Song Dynasty, went to Mogan Mountain to play all day. He was tired and thirsty. When he saw a small temple in the distance, he was overjoyed and ran over to ask for a glass of water and take a rest. When the old monks in the temple saw Su Dongpo in very ordinary clothes, they ignored him.

In order to drink water, Su Dongpo had to give his name.When the old monk heard it, he turned out to be the well-known Su University scholar, and he changed instantly.Not only did he serve good tea in every possible way, but he also invited Su Dongpo to rest in the first-class guest room. When Su Dongpo was about to leave, the old monk smiled as sweet as honey, said a series of good words flatteringly, and asked Su Dongpo to write an inscription as a souvenir. Facing this snob, Su Dongpo didn't put on airs, and immediately picked up a pen and wrote a sentence: "The sunset is fragrant, so don't worry about it; the fire is exhausted, so be prepared to tie your mind to the horse."

The old monk was very excited when he got the handwriting of the great scholar. He hung the calligraphy on the lobby and showed it off to the passing pilgrims from time to time. One day, a literati came to the temple and saw this picture hanging in the center of the hall, he couldn't help laughing.The old monk was baffled, and the literati explained: "The writing on this picture is wonderful. The fragrance of the setting sun is a character for 'He', and all the characters are removed to form the character for 'Ji', and when combined together, it becomes the character for 'bald'." To get rid of the fire is for 'Lu', and adding 'horse' is for 'donkey'. So the University scholar Su is calling you a bald donkey! You are still so proud! It's so ridiculous! Haha!"

The old monk thought that Xueshi Su's inscription was a commemoration, but he didn't know that there were curses hidden in the poem. Su Dongpo's literary talents are brilliant, and he doesn't use dirty words when swearing, which makes the old monk humiliate himself. I don't know what happened.Su Dongpo's method of smearing first and then needles, and hiding needles in the cotton, not only avenged himself for being slighted, but also relieved his disdain for the old monk's snobbish deeds. When others are clearly in an advantage, making unreasonable demands on you, or even making unreasonable troubles, are you, who are at a disadvantage, swallow your anger and be willing to be bullied?In fact, we can use the method of "stretching" first and then "needling" to protect our rights.

A stingy boss asked his clerk to buy wine, and the clerk asked him for money. He said, "Anyone can buy wine with money; if you don't spend money to buy wine, then you are a capable person." After a while the guy came back with an empty bottle.The boss was very annoyed and scolded: "What do you want me to drink?" The clerk replied calmly: "Anyone can drink wine from a bottle with wine; if you can drink wine from an empty bottle, then you are a capable person." The analogy between buying wine with money and drinking from an empty bottle creates a tit-for-tat contradiction, and the humor emerges suddenly.The boss shot himself in the foot with a stone, but the buddy's wisdom was reflected.

1. The cotton is the phenomenon, and the needle is the essence. 2. Cotton can be used as a disguise or as a means. 3. When using needles, you must remember the essentials: hit the vital points.Otherwise, the "cotton" work will be in vain. 4. Both criticizing others and countering others' criticism can use the method of "hiding a needle in the cotton". 5. The cotton and the needle can be used at the same time, or the cotton can be used to confuse the opponent, and then the heavy needle can be used to puncture. 6. The key to the needle is to "sharp the blood", not to kill with a slow knife.