Chapter 158 Carefully pave the way

Nowadays, the human touch in interpersonal communication has become increasingly indifferent with the tide of the times and fierce competition, and the utilitarian communication method of using each other and throwing it away after use is popular.This approach inevitably deviates from the essential needs of interpersonal communication - true feelings.Things are rare and precious, and when true love is getting less and less valued, once you cultivate the flower of true love hard, it will bloom brilliantly and bear beautiful fruits.So, how to cultivate it? First of all, treat each other with sincerity.Emotional exchange and interaction with each other is the soul and core of interpersonal communication. It plays a role in regulating the stability and intimacy of interpersonal communication, and is the most important driving force and foundation of interpersonal communication behavior.Therefore, the communication between people should be based on the principle of supremacy of feelings, pursue the principle of treating each other sincerely and helping each other, and deepen the mutual attraction and love for each other in the interaction, so as to narrow the distance between hearts, The mind is communicated and the soul is purified.

Second, independence, equality and mutual understanding.Interpersonal communication itself is a process in which both parties interact, influence each other, and even benefit each other.As the main body of communication, both parties have equal status and dignity.One party can make specific and reasonable demands, but one cannot ignore the other party's wishes and goals, ignore the other party's personality and beliefs, and blindly ask for benefits from others based on what they think is a good emotional foundation.This is against the principle of emotional communication in interpersonal communication. If this continues, it will inevitably cause a rift between each other. Once the rift appears, it will be difficult to make up for it.

Finally, lead the development of "human feelings" in a sustainable direction.The kind of favor that you send me a gift and I do something for you may have a place in the eyes of some "pragmatics".But in the long run, the deepest and most sincere feelings are often not based on the drive of such immediate interests, but on the basis of mutual exchange of feelings. You talk to me when you have troubles, and I have troubles with you. Talking for a long time, as time goes by, the friendship between the two hearts gradually improved through communication.The friendship established in this way is the most critical and reliable.