Chapter 153 What song to sing on what mountain

In interpersonal communication, different occasions require corresponding forms of communication, otherwise the purpose of communication will not be achieved.Therefore, a popular person should speak according to the occasion, that is, "what song to sing on which mountain." Depending on the occasion, the following situations are common: One is the occasion of one's own person and the occasion of outsiders.Our country's cultural tradition has always attached importance to the distinction between inside and outside."Talk behind closed doors" to your own people, you can talk about everything, even say some presumptuous words, it doesn't matter what.As for outsiders, you have to be reserved, "you can only talk about three points when you meet people, and you can't give up all your heart."

Thus, talking along the lines of inside and outside has become an unwritten line.Violation of this limit is considered "indiscriminate firing", and it is inappropriate to speak. The second is formal occasions and informal occasions.Formal occasions are more serious, so speaking should be serious and serious, and you must be prepared in advance, and you can't talk nonsense without talking about logic, ignoring the requirements and themes of the occasion.In informal occasions, it is much more casual, just like chatting about family affairs, talking from east to west, from south to north, and it is a joy to talk.Although there seems to be no focus, during the conversation, the two sides strengthened their emotional exchanges and enhanced mutual understanding.

Some people speak at the meeting regardless of each other and talk nonsense, and some people talk about family affairs like a report. It is quite satisfactory, but they do not grasp the boundaries between formal and informal occasions. The third is festive occasions and sad occasions.In general, speaking should be in harmony with the atmosphere of the occasion.When other people have a happy event, never say sad words; when others are sad, if you tease this child, tease that child, say something funny, or even hum a folk song, others will say that you are too ignorant up. The fourth is the occasion that is suitable for talking more and the occasion that is suitable for talking less.The other party is very busy and time is tight, so you have to be concise when you tell him.If you talk with him happily, the sea and the sky are bright, and the subjective wish is good, but if it does not meet the objective requirements, the effect will not be good.Maybe it delayed the other party's business and caused the other party's loss.In this case, you should explain your intentions concisely and ask the other party to make a judgment and decision.If the other party is unable to come to a conclusion for a while, you can politely tell the other party not to worry, and you can take the time to help you think about it.Or, you make an appointment with the other party for the next detailed talk, and find an opportunity to say "the more the better".

In short, talking more will take more time, and time is the most precious resource, and sometimes spending more time even means disrespecting the life of the other party. Therefore, when speaking, you must give up the initiative of time to the other party and think more about the other party.When you think about the other person, you also think about yourself.Because you have established a high-quality image in front of the other party that respects the other party and cherishes (the other party's) time like gold.