Chapter 151 Adapt to changing circumstances and revitalize communication

In communication, one must learn to be flexible in being a person and doing things, not to be too rigid, and to analyze specific problems in detail. There is already a cliff ahead, do you still want to jump off?Don't be bound by experience, and break out of the cage of inertial thinking. Perseverance is very important, but blind persistence is not advisable.Let's look at a fable first: During the Warring States period, there was a man named Sun Yang in the state of Qin who was proficient in horses. No matter what kind of horse he was, he could tell the good from the bad at a glance.He is often invited to recognize and select horses, and people call him Bole.

One day, when Sun Yang was out hunting, an old horse pulling a salt cart came up to him suddenly, stopped in front of him, and barked at him non-stop.Sun Yang touched the horse's back and concluded that it was a thousand-mile horse, but it was a little older.Lao Ma looked at Sun Yang intently, his eyes full of expectation and helplessness. Sun Yang felt wronged by this thousand-mile horse. It was a good BMW horse that could run on the battlefield, but now it dragged the salt cart in obscurity because it did not meet Bole, slowly consuming its vigor and physical strength. It is a pity. !Thinking of this, Sun Yang was so sad that he shed tears.

After this incident, Sun Yang was deeply moved. He thought, how many thousand-mile horses are still buried by mediocrity in this world?In order to let more people learn how to look at horses, so that the real Chollima can be discovered by others, and to make the best use of its talents, and also to pass on his own horse-sighting skills to the world, Sun Yang wrote down his experience and knowledge accumulated over the years in horse-sighting. There is a book, with diagrams of various horses, called "The Classic of Appreciation of Horses". Sun Yang's son read his father's "Book of Appreciation of Horses" and thought that it was easy to find horses.He thought: With this book, do you still have to worry about finding a good horse?So, I took this book and looked around for a good horse.He looked for it according to the graphics drawn in the book, but he couldn't find it.He searched again according to the characteristics written in the book. Finally, he found a toad in the wild. He felt that the toad was very similar to the characteristics of the Maxima written by his father in the book, so he excitedly took the toad home and said to his father: He said: "I found a thousand-mile horse, but the horse's hooves are shorter." When the father saw it, he was furious. He didn't expect his son to be so stupid.

This story comes from "Yi Lin Cutting Mountains" written by Yang Shen in the Ming Dynasty, and it is also the origin of the idiom "find out by the picture".This fable has two meanings: one is a metaphor to find things according to certain clues, and the other is to satirize those bookish people who mechanically follow the old ways without knowing how to adapt. In social interactions, there are also people who "find out who they are based on their pictures": they often first make a general outline of their "friends" (especially when looking for boyfriends and girlfriends), and then follow this "picture" to find "friends".But I don't know how to find friends according to the times and people. "Friends" can have various appearances, but real "friends" are actually very simple. You only need to list a few major criteria that meet friends, and you can find friends.

Professor Wick of the United States once did an interesting experiment: put some bees and flies into a flat glass bottle at the same time, so that the bottom of the bottle faced the light and the mouth of the bottle faced the dark place.As a result, the bees struggled desperately towards the light, and finally died of exhaustion, while the scurrying flies slipped out of the narrow neck of the bottle to escape. This experiment tells us: In an environment full of uncertainties, sometimes what we need is not to make persistent efforts in a given direction, but to find a way to survive in the face of changing circumstances; not to follow the rules, but to break through the rules .We cannot deny the role of persistence in promoting life, but we should also see that in a world that is constantly changing, flexible actions are much better than orderly decline.

The bees who only know persistence are dying, but the flies who know how to adapt survive.Persistence and flexibility are two attitudes towards life, and we cannot simply say which is better and which is not.Pure persistence and pure flexibility, both are imperfect.Only when the two complement each other can we achieve final success. We must learn to balance both persistence and flexibility. In the social arena, the situation is also changing. If you are rejected by a certain circle, you will not work hard to get into the circle and give up the circle. When the door of this circle opens, you will miss the people in the circle. .

Being adaptable and flexible is a kind of wisdom, and this kind of wisdom benefits people a lot. Sun Bin is a famous military strategist in ancient my country, and his "Sun Bin's Art of War" contains flexible philosophy everywhere.Sun Bin himself is also a flexible person. When Sun Bin first arrived in the state of Wei, the king of Wei wanted to test his ability to determine whether he was really talented. Once, the king of Wei summoned all his officials to examine Sun Bin's intelligence face to face. The King of Wei sat on the throne and said to Sun Bin, "Can you get me off my seat?"

Pang Juan was eager to express himself, and without waiting for Sun Bin to answer, he said to King Wei: "You can light a fire under the king's seat." The King of Wei said, "No." Sun Bin said: "Your Majesty sits on the top. I can't make him come down. However, if He is at the bottom, I have a way to make him sit on it." After hearing this, King Wei said triumphantly, "That's good. I'd like to see how you can get me up." Then he got off his seat. The surrounding ministers didn't react for a while, and they all laughed at Sun Bin's overreaching, waiting to see him make a fool of himself.At this time, Sun Bin laughed loudly and said: "Although I can't let the king sit on it, I have already let the king get off the seat."

At this time, everyone suddenly realized and praised Sun Bin's talent again and again.The king of Wei also looked at Sun Bin with admiration, and Sun Bin was soon reused by the king of Wei. If we can learn to be flexible like Sun Bin, then you will find that it is not difficult to do anything.The problems encountered in communication are naturally not to mention. For example, when getting along with leaders, we must pay special attention to flexibility, adapt measures to the times and circumstances, and prioritize things.At the same time, at critical moments, he can adapt to the situation and resolve embarrassments and problems for the leaders.Why do leaders succeed?One of the important factors is flexibility, so the subordinates who follow him must understand the rules of flexible handling.The so-called flexibility and flexible handling are not the same as a slippery personality and no principles in doing things.

Leaders like people who are flexible and adaptable.Because not only does he not have to worry that this person will be affected by the external environment and his mood will change, resulting in a decline in the quality of work, but he can also rely on him to deal with some emergencies in extraordinary times and make extraordinary achievements. Be a flexible person.You will swim freely in the ocean of communication.