Chapter 116 endure forever

Forbearance, patience, humility.Generally speaking, if there is any conflict in the social process, both parties may be responsible, but as one of the parties, you should take the initiative to "comity" and find the reason from your own side.Forbearance is actually allowing time and facts to "confess" yourself.Taking a tolerant attitude in social interaction can make many things "cold treatment", can get rid of unprincipled entanglements and unnecessary quarrels between each other, and may even win the other party's friendship. In 1754, as a colonel, Washington led his men to garrison Alexandria.At the time of elections for the Virginia state legislature, a man named William Penn opposed the candidate supported by Washington.

At that time, Washington had a heated argument with Payne on the election issue, and said something offensive to Payne, and Payne was furious and punched Washington to the ground.When Washington's subordinates ran up to teach Penn a lesson, Washington hurriedly stopped them and persuaded them to return to the camp. Early the next morning, Washington asked someone to bring Payne a note asking him to meet in a tavern.Payne expected a duel, and rushed to the tavern after getting ready.To his surprise, what awaited him was not a pistol but fine wine. Washington stood up and held out his hand to meet him.Washington said: "Mr. Payne, no one is a saint. No one is wrong. I was wrong yesterday. I shouldn't have said that, but you have taken action to save face. If you think this can be resolved, please hold on My hand, let's be friends."

From then on, Payne became a fanatic in Washington. If you hit me once, I will try my best to return your kicks. Even if a good man does not suffer the immediate loss, he will make up for it in the future - most people will think so.Doing so will only escalate the confrontation and will not help solve the problem. Washington endured for a while, but won the friendship of Penn I. Is such patience worth it?Of course it's worth it! In the Qing Dynasty, Jin Lansheng said in "Proverbs Lianbi · Cunyang": "You must be able to endure what others can't bear to touch, and you can be a man who can't do meritorious deeds." How can a person without this kind of forbearance be able to make great achievements? Can become?

Real life itself is not entirely rational, and it is also full of helpless logic.For example, some people have an aggressive personality, which means that others are often provoked for no reason.If we "counterattack" all the "attacks", then the environment we live in will be full of gunpowder, and what is the benefit of life and ourselves? Such a story happened in France: Alain Marti is a policeman in Tarbes, a small town in southwestern France. That night, he came to a tobacco shop in the city center in plain clothes.He was going to the store to buy a pack of cigarettes.At this time, a homeless man named Eric outside the store asked him for cigarettes.Malti said he was going to buy cigarettes.Eric thought Malti would give him one when he bought the cigarettes.

When Malti came out, the bum, who had had a good drink, pestered him for cigarettes.Malti refused to give it, so the two had a quarrel.As the mutual abuse and ridicule escalated, the two gradually became emotional.Marti took out his police officer ID and handcuffs, and said, "If you don't let go of it, I'll show you some color." Eric retorted: "You bastard policeman, let's see what you can do to me?" Under the stimulation of words, the two wrestled into a ball.The people next to them quickly separated the two and advised them not to get so angry over a cigarette.

After being persuaded to leave, the homeless man cursed and walked towards a nearby path. He shouted as he walked, "Smelly policeman, catch me if you have the ability!" Marti, who lost his mind and was furious, drew out his gun, rushed over, and shot at the policeman. Eric fired four shots in a row, and Eric fell into a pool of blood... The court sentenced Malti to "intentional homicide" and he will serve 30 years in prison. A man died and a man was imprisoned because of a cigarette and because of uncontrolled agitation. In life, we often see situations where parties involved cannot restrain themselves, leading to quarrels, fights, and even bloody conflicts.Sometimes just because you stepped on my foot, or said something wrong, or got squeezed on the bus, can be the trigger for a verbal fight or a fistfight.In social security cases, quite a few cases occurred because the parties concerned could not deal with things calmly—many of which were trivial matters.

If you can't bear the stimulation of others and your temper is about to erupt like a volcano, try the method taught by American President Jefferson: "When you are angry, count to ten before you speak, and if you are very angry, count to one hundred first." .” As the saying goes: "Life is unsatisfactory nine times out of ten." Those who expect sweet love will inevitably suffer from the distress of losing love; families that have always been harmonious will not be short of quarrels; friends who are considered reliable, Occasional misunderstandings lead to estrangement; fighting hard for a career may be envied by mediocre people... These "unsatisfactory" in life often test a person's cultivation level: some take it calmly, treat it calmly, and treat it with sincerity. Turn hostility into friendship; some are angry and brooding, accumulating petty grievances and hatred because of their narrowness.

Learn to be patient, this seemingly simple thing has the power to resolve all kinds of troubles in your life, and can make your life full of confidence, joy and sunshine.