Chapter 114 The Circus also needs to be "round"

Rounding the field is an important communication skill commonly used in Fangyuanshu.In the round field, it is necessary to express the original meaning of "square" in the form of "circle".In social activities, it is a major principle of Circus to provide an appropriate step in a timely manner so that people do not lose face.However, not everyone is very clear about how to give the steps and how the Circus should be played.Here are the following points to note: It is the most ingenious "step" that not only makes the person involved "go down the steps" decently, but also tries not to make the others present notice.

There is a report that is very instructive.Once, a foreign guest was entertaining guests at the Crystal Palace Hotel in Tianjin. He asked 10 people for 3 bottles of wine.The hotel waitress Xiaoding knows that 10 people need at least 5 bottles of wine for 5 dishes. It seems that the guests are not so well-off.So, she poured wine for the guests in person without showing any signs of expression. After 5 courses, the guests' wine glasses were still full.The foreign guest had a bright face, thanked Xiaoding for smoothing things over for him, and before leaving, he said he would come here again next time.

People who are good at communicating often let the other party out of the embarrassment in such a quiet way. Humor is the lubricant of interpersonal communication. A humorous sentence can make both parties understand and enjoy each other in laughter. When writer Feng Jicai was visiting the United States, an American friend took his son to his apartment to see him.While they were talking, the kid who was as strong as a calf climbed onto Feng Jicai's bed and jumped up and down desperately.If you ask him to come down directly, it will inevitably make the father of the child feel apologetic, and it will also appear that he is not enthusiastic enough.Therefore, Feng Jicai said a humorous sentence: "Please return your son to the earth!" The friend said: "Okay, I will discuss it with him."

Sometimes a certain unexpected situation puts the other party in an awkward situation. At this time, while you provide the other party with a "step", if you can take some appropriate measures to add some glory to the other party's face in time, that would be the best If you do, it will definitely make the other party appreciate you more. Here are a few rounding methods. Sometimes a certain behavior has a specific meaning in a specific occasion, but in order to resolve it, the smoother cleverly interprets it as another meaning. When Gorbachev and his wife Raisa visited the United States, on the way to the White House to attend Reagan's farewell banquet, they suddenly got out of the car and shook hands with passers-by.The Soviet security guards rushed out of the car, surrounded him, and ordered the Americans standing beside Gorbachev to pull their hands out of their pockets.They were worried that the pedestrian had a weapon in his pocket, but the pedestrian was momentarily at a loss as to what to do.At this time, Raisa behind her was very resourceful and immediately came out to smooth things over. She explained to the surrounding Americans that the security guards wanted people to hold out their hands and shake hands with her husband.Immediately, the atmosphere became warm, and people cordially shook hands with Gorbachev.

Here, Raisa responded flexibly and smoothed things over to ease the embarrassing situation at that time. In a specific communication occasion, sometimes because of face or uncertainty, you can use hypothetical sentences to express. A has two friends, B and C, who unexpectedly turned against each other.One day B said to A that C spoke ill of A in front of everyone and exposed his privacy.After hearing this, A is half-believing and scolding C, because he is afraid of wronging a good person;He thought about it for a while, and said a sentence that was the best of both worlds: "If it is true what C said, C has wronged me!"

When encountering a debate with a teacher or superior, and you believe that your point of view is absolutely correct, but you cannot persist due to politeness or helplessness, hypothetical sentences are a good way to solve the problem.A student was arguing with the head teacher about whether boys could come to the girls' dormitory.The teacher insisted absolutely not.The student could not convince the teacher for a long time, and seeing that the teacher seemed angry, in order to end the argument and give the teacher a step down, he cleverly said: "If the teacher is right, then I must be wrong." This is a nonsense , it did not affirm the teacher's point of view, but the teacher stopped arguing after hearing it.

Sometimes, this sentence pattern can also be used for questions that are unwilling or difficult to answer.Question: "Do you love Miss Wang?" Answer 1: "If she loves me, I love her." Answer 2: "If she is cute, I love her." Answer 3: "If I love her, it is Falling in love with her." Due to the additional hypothetical conditions, the expression becomes tactful, so the interrogator, the speaker and the object involved can all accept it. For disputes between subordinates, leaders can sometimes resolve conflicts as long as they dare to take the blame and take the initiative to take responsibility.

Xiao Wang and Lao Zhou work together in the office.Once, when Xiao Wang went to listen to the report, Lao Zhou didn't know about it, so he had a lot of opinions on Xiao Wang. He asked Xiao Wang face to face why he didn't tell him about the report, and the two had a big quarrel.After understanding the reason for the quarrel, Director Peng said to Lao Zhou: "I didn't notify you after hearing the report. Just give me your opinion, don’t blame Xiao Wang.” After hearing this, Lao Zhou felt that he had wrongly blamed Xiao Wang, so he took the initiative to apologize to Xiao Wang, and they reconciled as before.

The above introduces several commonly used rounding techniques, and I hope everyone can draw inferences from one instance and learn and use them flexibly.In fact, it is very difficult to exhaustively explain how to be clever and appropriate, and it is impossible to cover all of them in one article.I hope that in the practice of communication, everyone will give full play to their ingenuity and wisdom, and always pay attention to the brilliant practices of others. This is the only way to make progress in Circumference. 1. "Flexibility" is the most basic means of Fangyuanshu. 2. To grasp the "inside and outside" is to grasp the relationship between the essence and appearance of "square and circle".

3. You can be harsh on yourself, but be tolerant to others.Only self-denial can improve in self-examination, and tolerance can be tolerated by others. 4. It is better to use "circle" than "square" to attract people's hearts.It is better to use "square" than "round" to convince people with reasoning.