Chapter 110 Restrain oneself with squareness and treat others with roundness

Restraining oneself with respect and treating others with integrity means that in interpersonal communication, one should not only focus on one's own self-interest, but try to eliminate revenge and jealousy as much as possible.We must be broad-minded, self-restraining and forbearing, so as to be "strict on self-discipline and lenient to others". In daily life and work, we all get along with friends and colleagues, and have various relationships, and conflicts are inevitable.Under such circumstances, what attitude should be adopted? "Be strict with yourself and be lenient to others" is the best principle.

From ancient times to the present, "strict self-discipline and lenient treatment of others" has been a fine moral tradition of the Chinese nation, which should still be inherited and carried forward.Mencius once said this: "He who loves others will always love them; whoever respects others will always respect them." A moral person, in getting along with others, because he can care for and respect others well, Therefore, he can also get the care and respect of others. From the perspective of "strict self-discipline and lenient treatment of others", there are three aspects worthy of our attention:

First, in daily life and work, when you have interests with your colleagues, friends, and related people, you should consciously care about and take care of the interests of others; Treat others", preferring to suffer a little. The second is that when getting along with others, we must strive to achieve "don't forget the kindness you give, and you must repay the favor", which is also an important traditional virtue of the Chinese nation.A person, whoever does something that benefits others, should not take it to heart, or even forget it.Because, forgetting the favors you have done to others, you will not always think about others to repay yourself, and complain about others.Conversely, anyone who has received favors from others and received benefits from others must try every means to repay, or even repay more.

The third is that in the process of communicating with others, we should use a kind of "putting ourselves in the place" thinking to understand and be considerate of others at all times.When people get along with others, they should push themselves and others, so as to achieve the purpose of caring for others better.When you encounter difficulties or encounter misfortune, you always hope to get help from others. Therefore, when others encounter difficulties or encounter misfortune, you should take the initiative to care for others.People who blindly blame others and don't know how to care about others will never handle the relationship between people well in their life.

"Be strict with yourself and be lenient towards others" is not only an attitude towards others, but also a noble moral quality. It can resolve many conflicts between people, enhance the friendship between people, and make us business is developing smoothly. At the same time, if a person can develop the good character of "strict self-discipline and lenient treatment of others", he will be able to strictly demand himself when dealing with others, forgive and treat others well, and his own ideological realm will also be continuously improved. Let yourself gradually become a moral person.

Of course, what needs to be mentioned here is that being lenient to others does not mean being "lenient" to everyone.For good and honest people should be lenient, for their words and deeds have nothing to blame.On the contrary, wicked people have committed too many faults, and if they are treated too leniently, they will indulge them and encourage their crimes. Therefore, we must face their evil virtues and deeds with a strict attitude.There is also a kind of person who has not reached the level of a good person, nor has he reached the level of a wicked person. To such a person, we must use both leniency and strictness according to the time and situation.

Peace is an attitude towards others and a virtue of being a human being. Tolerance is the extension of peace.In life, a peaceful person is virtuous, magnanimous, deserving of merit, and able to bend and stretch when doing things. "Forgive the heart of the loser, pay attention to the road of the winner", handle things in a round and decent manner, and treat others with lenient and strict. Calm is the connotation of peace.The secret of a peaceful person lies in the word "quiet", "don't be surprised when it comes suddenly, and don't be angry when you don't have a reason", get along with people calmly, handle things rationally, put your body in a leisurely place, and keep your heart "quiet" all the time. ".

A peaceful person has a very high vision.On the surface, it looks very ordinary, but in fact, it has a cohesive wisdom and has a strategy of economics in mind.Its heart is blue sky and white sun; its talent is hidden in jade and pearls.Living in the Xuanmian, you will not forget the taste of the mountains and forests; living under the forest spring, you will embrace the economics of the corridor temple. A peaceful person, enthusiastic but not artificial, loyal but not hypocritical.Don't see yourself from the inside, don't see others from the outside, showing kindness to others comes from the sincerity of the heart, not using others to gain fame and fame, and believes in "a gentleman is open and honest, and a villain is always concerned", be upright and pure-hearted.

Peace is not only a kind of self-cultivation, but also a kind of life attitude and way of doing things.A peaceful person in life will never be bothered by busyness. He is tense when he is free, and he is leisurely when he is busy.Treat people not strictly, teach people not to be arrogant.It is appropriate to be lenient and strict, and to measure appropriately.Feel comfortable physically and mentally, and you will definitely enjoy the happiness in life!