Chapter 79 Both wearing a top hat and tightening the hoop

What should I do if I encounter someone who is difficult to obey?It is a way to wear a high hat and tighten the hoop.Especially when facing villains. Cao Bin, the famous founding general of the Northern Song Dynasty, was honest, generous and benevolent.In fact, Cao Bin also has a way of dealing with villains. Once, Song Taizu Zhao Kuangyin appointed Cao Bin as the chief general to lead the army to conquer the Southern Tang Dynasty. Before leaving, Taizu gave him a Shangfang sword and said: "Below the deputy general, those who don't need to be killed." any request.Cao Bin said: "I ask for the emperor's permission to call general Tian Qinzuo to be the former enemy commander of the other route." The most annoying thing about fighting for fame and fame is that they like to make snitches behind their backs.It's too late for everyone to hide such a person, why do you want to get him into the army?

Afterwards, Cao Bin made it clear to his confidants: "This Southern Expedition is an arduous task and will take a long time. It needs the full support of the officials in the court. I am leading the army. If there are people in the court who continue to slander and make trouble, it will be very difficult. It may be a major event, and this Tian is very likely to be such a character. The best way to prevent him is to put him under his nose, send him to the battlefield, give him some fame, and block his Mouth; besides, there is Shangfang's sword, so I'm not afraid of him causing trouble."

After saying this, his confidantes understood Cao Bin's far-reaching intentions, and even called him brilliant. Where there are gentlemen, there are villains. This is an objective existence in society.Blindly avoiding the villain is not the best policy, it is a smart way to bring the villain under his control like Cao Bin.In this way, when we do things, we will not be taken advantage of by villains and hindered. Here, Cao Bin hired an official for Tian Qinzuo—it is false to wear a high hat, but when necessary, he uses Shangfang’s sword—tighten the hoop to warn the villain that it is true.

In communication, you can also "treat" those who are not convinced in the same way: first praise his talents and say, "Only you can do this, so I have to beg you."In this way, he has to do it if he doesn't do it. And for rebels, you can also use this way of wearing a hat and a tight band.The most famous is Zhuge Liang's seven captures of Meng Huo.The example here is not a cliché, but a thought-provoking one. Through the story of "Seven Captures of Menghuo", Zhuge Liang's strategy of using both kindness and power to conquer people's hearts is vividly and superbly described.

The rebellion of Meng Huo and others in the southern and central regions not only destroyed the desire of the people of all ethnic groups to live in harmony, but also seriously threatened the Shu Han regime, hindering Zhuge Liang's plan to conquer the Central Plains and unify the country.In order to maintain the unity of the Shu Kingdom, Zhuge Liang made active preparations. In 225, he divided his troops into three groups and marched towards Nanzhong. When sending out troops, Zhuge Liang adopted Ma Di’s suggestion of joining the army: The purpose of this expedition is not to kill the rebels and occupy their cities, but to conquer the hearts of local leaders and make them submit to the rule of the Shu Han. , no more rebellions will be launched in the future.This is called attacking the heart as the top and attacking the city as the bottom.

Not long after Zhuge Liang sent troops, the rebels in the Nanzhong area changed internally.Yong Kai was killed by his subordinates, and Meng Huo became the commander-in-chief.Then Zhuge Liang killed Gao Ding and defeated Zhu Bao.In the fifth month of this year, Zhuge Liang led his troops across the River Lu and pursued Meng Huo. Because Meng Huo had a certain prestige among the local people, the local ethnic minorities and the Han people all obeyed his command, so Zhuge Liang ordered that he was not allowed to be killed, but must be caught alive.When Meng Huo saw the Shu army coming in, he raised his troops to fight.The general of Shu, Wang Ping, confronted him. Not long after the battle began, Wang Ping turned his horse and retreated. Meng Huo drove his troops forward and pursued along the mountain road.Suddenly there was a loud shout, and Shu soldiers rushed out from both sides. Meng Huo was caught in an ambush and had to lead the troops back.The Shu soldiers gave chase and captured Meng Huo alive.

The soldiers escorted Meng Huo to the camp to meet Zhuge Liang. Zhuge Liang asked Meng Huo, "We treated you well. Why did you rebel against the court? Now that you have been captured alive, what else can you say?" Then he personally led Meng Huo to visit Shu The army barracks asked Meng Huo: "What do you think of our army?" Meng Huo saw that the camp of the Shu army was pruned, the military discipline was strict, and the morale was strong. He secretly admired it, but he was not convinced.He said: "I was not defeated, but I was arrested because I didn't know the truth and I fell into your ambush. Looking at your army now, it's nothing more than that. If we really fight hard, we can win." Zhuge Liang smiled and said, "In that case, I'll let you go back. Get your team together and fight again." After speaking, he ordered the soldiers to set up a banquet, entertained Meng Huo, and then let him go back.

After Meng Huo returned, he fought Zhuge Liang again and again. He fought seven times in a row and was captured seven times.For the last time, Zhuge Liang led Meng Huo's army into a valley, cut off their way back, and then set fire to the mountain.The mountains and valleys were full of raging fires, burning Meng Huo's soldiers to death, and they were in great distress. Meng Huo was captured alive by Shu soldiers for the seventh time. Meng Huo was escorted to the camp of the Shu army.The soldiers handed down Zhuge Liang's general order, saying: The prime minister did not want to see Meng Huo again, so he ordered Meng Huo to be released, and he was asked to organize his troops before a decisive battle.Meng Huo thought for a long time and said: "Seven captures and seven attacks, this is something that has never happened since ancient times. The prime minister has given me a lot of face. Although I don't have much knowledge, I also understand the principles of life. How can I not give it to the prime minister?" Save face!" After speaking, he knelt on the ground and said with tears, "Prime Minister Tianwei, we will never rebel again!"

Zhuge Liang was very happy, and hurriedly helped Meng Huo up, invited him into the camp, hosted a banquet, and finally sent Meng Huo out of the camp gate politely, and let him go back. Zhuge Liang beat Meng Huo again and again with tight hoops, each time getting tighter, and Meng Huo lost more and more each time.At the same time, every time he captured Meng Huo, Zhuge Liang did not take off the hat on his head, but kept wearing the hat of "Great King" on his head, and treated Meng Huo with courtesy.For the last time, Zhuge Liang finally moved Meng Huo deeply, and he surrendered to Shu from the bottom of his heart.This made the southern part of the Shu Kingdom stable from then on.

In communication, you might as well learn from Zhuge Liang’s method and spend more time to let those who are not at odds with you show you the grace of tolerance on the premise of knowing how powerful you are, so that they can be influenced and sincerely communicate with themselves .