Chapter 68 Borrow a ladder to climb to the sky

Xue Baochai in the book wrote a poem "Liuxu Ci", one of which is "The good wind sends me to Qingyun by force".Instead of belittling catkins, which are floating, rootless, and unattached, she praised it with a positive attitude.This is just like someone who not only sees the hard-working scalper, but also sees the whip that is constantly twitching behind the scalper. This is the uniqueness of insight.One can get an inspiration from it: in order to succeed in a career, apart from relying on one's own hard work, sometimes one needs to rely on the strength of others to achieve success or rise to the top.We use the philosophy of life contained in the saying "good wind relies on strength" in the process of struggle, and we can call it the strategy of "climbing high with ladders".

The "ladder" here refers to the power of others, such as the status, fame, wealth or power of celebrities, relatives, friends, classmates, etc.; while "high" refers to the goal to be achieved in one's life or work.Others are sometimes the bridges and ladders for you to approach or go to success, especially those famous and respected celebrities, whose strength can help you find a shortcut to success.Throughout the ages, there are countless success stories with the help of celebrities.The story of Prince Liu Bangli, Emperor Gaozu of the Han Dynasty, is one of them. Liu Bang, Emperor Gaozu of the Han Dynasty, had eight princes in total, with different biological mothers. In order to compete for the position of prince, they started fighting openly and secretly between sons and sons, and mothers and mothers.Liu Bang intended to make Mrs. Qi's son Ruyi the crown prince and replace Empress Lu's son Ying as the crown prince. For this reason, Empress Lu asked Zhang Liang for help.Zhang Liang offered a plan: "The emperor has always wanted to recruit four sages from the field to come out of the mountain, but they have always refused. If they are welcomed as guests, the prince often invites these four people to banquets, and the emperor will definitely see them and ask why. Sure enough, as Zhang Liang expected, Gaozu saw that the prince could invite four sages who refused to come out for him, and thought that the prince was respectful, benevolent and filial, and would attract famous people from all over the world, so he finally gave up the idea of ​​replacing the prince.The success of the prince depends entirely on the reputation of the four great sages, with the help of their reputation to get the throne of the emperor, of course, including the ingenious tricks of his mother Lu Hou and Zhang Liang.

In order to achieve your own goals, the queen and the prince still have to rely on the power of sages and celebrities, let alone us ordinary people? In the workplace, borrowing ladders is also a common means of communication.The Chinese have always valued family ties, and even today it is still prevalent to "go through the back door".This "back door" is actually an invisible network of nepotism, similar to what we call a "ladder."It is of course not advisable to use the back door to do things that violate laws and regulations, but if you want to give full play to your talents and achieve something, it is still necessary to use "ladders" at certain times.

Generally speaking, regardless of the referrer's reputation and status, as long as he is helpful to your success, he is a good ladder for you to climb to the top, and his prestige and influence are useful to you. In addition to a sense of admiration and trust in authority and fame, ordinary people also have a sense of dependence and trust in familiar people, so they often evaluate the ability and personality of the recommender from the recommender.This clairvoyance can help job seekers get hired and then move up the ranks. In complex social relations, in front of the barriers formed by various social relations, mutual use is the weakness of human nature, but it is also the psychological appeal of human beings needing each other, and this is the essence of the strategy of "borrowing ladders to reach the sky" where.As the saying goes: "One fence has three stakes, and one hero has three gangs." Without knowing or not being good at using the power of others, it is very difficult to make a difference in modern society by single-handedly going through the world.

When implementing "borrowing ladders to climb high", the following two points should generally be followed: One is to find the right "ladder", that is, to be friends with influential people. "Borrowing ladders to climb high" was originally a strategy in "Thirty-Six Strategies", which is used to explain the use of other people's strengths to achieve one's own goals.The key to implementing this strategy is to find the ladder correctly. If the ladder is not found correctly, not only will you not be able to climb to a high place, but you will also be in danger of falling down.

For ordinary people, in the process of job hunting or employment, they should always pay attention to the character, ability and influence of the people around them, and make friends with sincerity.In order to win the sincere help of others, you must first give something, such as sincerity or material.People's hearts are fleshy, and your long-term efforts will always be rewarded.So when interacting with people, you should keep an eye on who has the ability to help you.Of course, to get along with anyone should be based on friendliness and sincerity. The second is to make good use of the "ladder". Whether the "ladder" can help you depends on how you usually behave.This requires you to take a long-term view when interacting with people, and not to do nothing because of small benefits.

If you have trouble with a friend who has helped your success, you should first forgive him. "Small intolerance leads to chaos and big plans", this is an ancient saying, and the ancients also set an example in this regard, for example, Han Xin could suffer the humiliation of his crotch, and Zhang Liang could pick up the shoes of the old.Once the usual foundation is laid, the accumulation of quantitative changes will eventually become qualitative changes, and it will be "no effort at all".If you treat people well, they will naturally be sincere to you, and it is reasonable to help you at critical moments.From this point of view, the work of borrowing "ladders" is completely included in the daily life.

What needs to be said here is that many people do not know how to implement this strategy, but feel embarrassed and unwilling to ask for help. They always feel that doing so is unseemly, as if they belittle their own abilities.In fact, these ideas are unnecessary.Never forget that even Napoleon needs others to help him build a bridge to success, let alone you are just an ordinary person? No matter what you do, you cannot rely on your own strength alone.When you have some new ideas and the other party disagrees, you need to persuade, and to persuade the other party, you also need to borrow a ladder.

In order to persuade the other party to cooperate with you, you have to consciously pull people who share your views and let them be your backing.Without them, it's hard to convince the other side on your own. At this time, what ladders can you use? One is a mutual consensus friend.The friend you are looking for must be someone trusted by the other party, with knowledge and ability capable of doing what you want to do.If your friend's level is very low, how can the other party trust? The second is an expert or authority.Use some authoritative people, such as some well-known people, such as famous experts and scholars.Because these authoritative figures have certain deterrent power, their ability to judge and discriminate is recognized by the society.The things they approve are generally believed to be right, and there will be no doubts.You can ask them to participate in what you want to do, or write a note for you, etc.These things can prove your strength to the other party. With these things, it will not be difficult to convince the other party.And the other party will be willing to cooperate with you when they see that you have a "background".

The third is a fact recognized by many people.If you want to persuade the other party when encountering difficulties, you can use the power of others or the power of facts.For example, when you ask the other party to do some work, you have to make the other party believe in your ability.And to make the other party believe in your ability, you can tell the other party some important things you have done.At least three things must be mentioned.This way the other party can determine whether you are capable of accomplishing the task.And the three things you listed should have a certain relationship with what you are going to do, which can prove that you have the ability to complete this matter.

When you put your ladders in front of the other party one by one, the other party will seriously consider your questions.He would think: "Since so many people support it, there must be some truth in his idea."