Chapter 62 leave room for change

Duke Wen of Jin, one of the Five Overlords in the Spring and Autumn Period, named Chonger, had to wander around because he was hunted down by his younger brother Yiwu before he ascended the throne.One day, he and his entourage passed a piece of land, because the grain had run out, they begged for some grain from the farmer in the field, but the farmer gave them a handful of soil. But for the teasing of the farmer, Chonger couldn't help being furious and wanted to beat the farmer.His entourage, Hu Yan, stopped him immediately and said to him: "My lord, this soil represents the earth. It means that you are about to become king. It is a good omen!" Collect the soil well.

With patience and wisdom, Hu Yan resolved an embarrassment, which is a manifestation of greatness.If Chong'er had beaten the farmer in a fit of rage, their whereabouts might have been exposed.Hu Yan's advice not only tolerated the farmers, but also resolved the humiliation, and achieved great things. This story tells us that we must leave room for doing things and not do things absolutely.Throughout life, one must not let something develop to extremes along a certain fixed direction, but should fully understand and calmly judge various possible things in the process of development, so as to have sufficient conditions and room for maneuver to take flexible coping measures .If you are not extreme in emotion, but not too rational, you will be able to advance and retreat freely on the road to success.

The editor-in-chief of a newspaper office assigned an important interview task to the new reporter Xiao Wang. At the same time, the editor-in-chief told him: "There are certain difficulties in the implementation of this interview work..." Just when the editor-in-chief was about to introduce him in detail, But Xiao Wang patted his chest and said: "No problem, you are satisfied." Three days later, when there was no movement, the editor-in-chief asked him how the interview was going.how is the progress?He had to say: "It's not as simple as imagined." Although the editor-in-chief knew that the interview would not be easy, he was very disgusted with Xiao Wang's easy pat on the chest and expressed his opinion at that time, and thus had doubts about his ability as a person.

In terms of doing things, you can agree to accept other people's requests, but don't "guarantee", you should replace them with the words "I will try my best, I will try it"; "Should be fine, I'll do my best" words.This is for in case you can’t do it and leave a way out, and answering like this does not actually damage your sincerity, but instead shows your prudence, and others will trust you more because of this!Even if things are not done well, I will not blame you. There are many things in life that we cannot predict their development trend, and some of them do not understand the background of the occurrence of the event, so we must not easily assert it without leaving room for it, so that we have no room for manoeuvre.

Once, Zhao Gang had some conflicts with his colleagues and was very unhappy, so he said to his colleagues: "From today onwards, we will cut off all relations and have nothing to do with each other..." Less than two months after he finished speaking, the colleague He became his boss, and Zhao Gang was embarrassed by what he had said, so he had to resign and find another job. There are examples everywhere of embarrassing yourself by talking too much.Talking too full is like filling a glass to the brim with no more water, or it will overflow.A balloon that is fully inflated will explode when inflated.

Legend has it that Phaeton, the son of Apollo, the sun god, drove a luxuriously decorated sun chariot on rampage and galloped wantonly.When I came to a cliff, I happened to meet the moon car.When the moon car was about to turn around and retreat, Phaeton relied on the advantage of the strong shaft of the sun car to push all the way to the rear of the moon car, leaving no room for the opponent to maneuver. Just as Phaethon was gloating at the moon car that could not protect itself, his own sun car also came to a dead end, and there was no room for turning around. One step forward was dangerous, and one step back was a disaster. Finally, he was helpless buried in the sea of ​​fire.

There will always be accidents in everything, and room is left to accommodate these "accidents".If people have room to speak, they will not be unable to step down because of "accidents", and they can turn around calmly because they have room to do things. We can see that some government officials prefer to use some vague language when interviewing reporters, such as possible, as far as possible, research, perhaps, evaluation, soliciting opinions from all sides...the reason why they use these words is to reserve for themselves room.Otherwise, if the words are dead in one shot, and the result is counterproductive, how much impact will it have on the image of the government!

In short, there is room for doing things and speaking, so that your actions will not end, your words will not be extreme, and you will advance and retreat, so that you can handle affairs more flexibly and solve complex and changeable problems in the future.At the same time, we must also pay attention to leaving room for others. No matter what the situation is, don't push others to a dead end. In this way, the outcome of the matter is beneficial to both parties.