Chapter 53 Speak principles to colleagues and look at character

Colleagues, colleagues, when we work together, we are "comrades in arms" and "friends in difficulty" in the same trench, but at the same time, because of the pursuit of work achievements, hope to win the favor of the leader, get promotion, etc., there are various conflicts of interest, which makes the colleagues There is a competitive relationship.And this kind of competition is largely mixed with complex factors such as personal feelings, likes and dislikes, and relationship with leaders.On the surface, everyone is of one heart and one mind, peaceful and harmonious, but inwardly they may have their own calculations.Stakes lead colleagues to help each other in the same boat, or fight openly and secretly for their own interests.

It can be seen that getting along with colleagues also requires certain principles. As a person in the workplace, social activities are inevitably related to work.After get off work, having a glass of wine and chatting with colleagues will not only help your daily work, but you may also know news related to the company.Therefore, it is natural to attend all kinds of gatherings held by the company, and it is also necessary to play a game or two of "social mahjong" with colleagues and leaders, but one thing must be remembered: Do not talk casually. Among colleagues, only when everyone gives up competing with each other, can there be friendship.If you give your heart and move your true feelings, you will only ask for trouble.For example, A and B are at the same level, and they are good friends, there is only one chance to upgrade.If A gets a promotion but B doesn't, what does B think?If B continues to be friendly with A, people will inevitably be considered as a follower; A's initiative to be friendly with B may not make people feel as sincere as before.

After being scolded unreasonably by the leader during the day, some people like to ask a colleague for a drink at night, and then complain to the colleague.He thought that since his colleague had drunk with him, he should be on his side, so he used the strength of alcohol to criticize the leader.This kind of thing must be avoided. No matter how trustworthy a colleague is, when work and friendship are out of balance, friends can become enemies.Criticizing the leader in front of colleagues is undoubtedly throwing the blame on others, and one day he will suffer without knowing it. Even if this colleague treats himself with sincerity and will not do anything to betray him, he must be careful that "the walls have ears"!

Therefore, when you want to vomit bitterness to your colleagues, you may wish to test the tone of the other party first to see if you agree with your own views.Such dedication is an indispensable condition for gaining a foothold in society. When a colleague is criticized publicly in front of all colleagues, he is definitely hurt more deeply than when he is criticized in a one-on-one situation.The person being criticized must also be burning with anger, hating why the leader embarrasses himself in front of everyone, and his heart is also the most vulnerable at this time. At this time, if we rashly give sympathy or comfort, what will happen?Not only being criticized in front of everyone, but also being comforted in front of everyone, the feeling of humiliation must be more profound.

In this case, it is not appropriate to say anything. Maybe we think it is a good intention, but in the eyes of the other party, it is adding fuel to the fire. Therefore, it is best to remain silent.Then after the work is over, ask the colleague out for a meal or something to change his mood. Not only will this not cause a feeling of "anger", but it can also win the trust of the colleague. So, how to deal with colleagues with different personality types? The easiest way to deal with it is to stay away from it.When you meet at work every day, when you have no substantive work to cooperate with him, you can laugh at him and laugh it off.If he intends to get close to you, you can adopt a compromise attitude, be neither hot nor cold, and try to "naturally" find reasons to keep a distance from him.If you can not do the same job with him, try to avoid it and don’t do it with him. If you can’t avoid it, you must learn to keep a diary and keep a record of your work every day.

Don't be his enemy, there is no need to offend him.Usually when you meet, you still greet him with a smile and are friendly. If you intentionally isolate him or provoke him, he may regard you as a stepping stone to climb up. Acrimonious people are less popular in the company.His characteristic is that when arguing with others, he often poachs people's privacy without leaving any room, and at the same time, he is full of cynicism, which damages the other party's self-esteem and loses face. Such people usually take pleasure in making fun of their colleagues and bosses.When you are criticized by your boss, he will say: "God has eyes, and you deserve what you deserve." When you quarrel with your colleagues, he will say: "A dog bites a dog, and a hair on the mouth is not a good thing." You go to correct your subordinates. , if he knew about it, he would also say: "Some people are bullies, some people are born scumbags, what kind of world is this?"

Bitter and mean people are naturally eloquent and unreasonable.Because of his outrageous behavior, he doesn't have many friends in the company either.The reason why he can survive is not because others are afraid of him, but because they don't want to talk to him.But if one day arouses public outrage, he will be treated terribly. In the face of this kind of colleague, you should keep a distance from him and don't mess with him.In case of a disadvantage, when you hear one or two stimulating words or gossip, just pretend not to hear it.Don't get angry, otherwise, you're just asking for trouble and messing with ghosts.

The same mouth, some people use it to brag, some people use it to satirize others, and some people use it to sow discord and separate colleagues.Acrimonious people harm others and benefit themselves; those who sow discord make the company panic, everyone is in danger and fights each other. This type of person brings great and rapid damage to the company. As long as they are not careful or handled improperly, they may cause more conflicts or intensify the conflicts.There is no good way to deal with this type of people, either to prevent in advance and not let such people in; or to stop or eliminate them as soon as they are discovered.Otherwise, the consequences will be disastrous.

In the face of this kind of colleague, besides keeping a distance from him with caution in words and deeds, the most important thing is that you have to contact other colleagues, establish joint defense and alliance relationship, and isolate him.If he picks anyone apart, don't be swayed by it. The biggest characteristic of a person who turns his face and is ruthless is: his face is turned like a book.Turn over as soon as you say, and it will take several pages at a time.When he loses his temper, you don't have to ask him why, and you don't have to tell him about your kindness and help to him in the past, because he won't listen to a word.

A ruthless person, he seems to be suffering from a "disease of ungratefulness and hatred".Your care for him in every possible way, as long as there is something that doesn't go according to his wishes, he will completely deny it. The ruthless person found that he used this method to deal with his interpersonal relationships, which was almost invincible and took advantage of everything.He knew that every time he finished using others and found a new one, he could turn his back on the former. When you meet this kind of colleague, if you don’t have any stake in it, and each of you does your own work, it’s up to him if you want to check it or not!If you have an interest with him, you must remember the matters related to the interests of both parties, so as to prevent him from turning his face and being ruthless.