Chapter 71 Sharing Your Child's Sexual Experience

Fifteen-year-old Jason talks to his father about sex and love.He said: "I've discovered the real difference between boys and girls, girls commit to sex for love, boys commit to love for sex. Love them and leave them is my philosophy." Father: After you fall in love with a girl and leave her, what happens to the girl? Jason: It's none of my business.I try not to think about it. Father: Well, think about it.If you lure a girl into having sex with you with promises of love, then her feelings have something to do with you. Jensen's father stood by his ethics, believing that honesty and responsibility apply to all human relationships.Whatever the situation, simple or complex, social or sexual, requires personal integrity.

Sixteen-year-old Natalie said: "My parents and I lived with an unspoken rule: 'Don't ask deep questions, don't give real answers.' They really didn't want to know what was going on. , I can't tell them, therefore, it can be said that I am a good girl." “My dad was always bragging about how open and honest he was,” complained fifteen-year-old Joshua, “but when it came to sex, his honesty was gone. In this area, my frankness was not welcome. " Parents should encourage their teens to be honest about their sexual feelings: Don't say "yes" when they feel like saying "no"; listen to their needs and consider their comfort; tell them not to rush Don't have sex because you just want to feel grown up; don't confuse a sexual relationship with a loving relationship.

Many parents are confused about their role in their teen's sex life.Sally's mother went to see a psychologist because her seventeen-year-old daughter asked her for the pill: "I know my daughter, she's in love, she wants to have sex, and at least taking the pill will keep her safe. But making it so easy She was having sex with other people and it made me uncomfortable." "Adolescents ask their parents for the pill, and it is the very request that shows they are not ready for adulthood," the psychologist replied. "By giving them the pill, the parents deprive the child of an important experience: the self." Make a decision and live with the consequences. An adult doesn't push responsibility onto another person, she takes responsibility for herself."

Sally's mother came home and told her daughter: "Honey, if you feel you are ready to have sex, you can also go to your doctor and ask about birth control pills. If I give you birth control pills, then I was brought in to take responsibility for your actions, not you."