Chapter 45 Getting Dressed: The War of the Laces

In some families, parents and children fight every day over shoelaces.The father said: "Whenever I see my son's shoelaces untied, I want to tie them up. I wonder if we should force him to do so, or just let him walk around like this. Maybe he is happy, but shouldn't we teach him responsibility?" It is best not to tie shoelaces and teach children to be responsible. To avoid arguments, you can buy a pair of lazy sneakers for your children that are easy to put on and take off. , or for little ones, just tie him up and make no comments.Then it is almost certain that sooner or later the child will learn to tie his shoelaces, unless his peers do not.

Children shouldn't wear their most expensive clothes to school or worry about keeping them tidy.A child's freedom to run, jump, or play ball should be prioritized over appearance.When a child comes home with a soiled shirt, a parent can say something like, "You look busy today, and there's another shirt in the closet if you want to change." Tell your child how messy she is, how dirty she looks, how we are It was useless to say that she hated washing and ironing her shirts.A realistic approach does not depend on a child's ability to prioritize tidiness over play.Instead, it accepts the reality that a child's clothes won't be clean for long.A dozen cheap easy-press shirts are better for a child's mental health than a dozen lectures on cleanliness.