Chapter 41 Chapter 6 Positive Parenting: A Day in the Life of a Child

Parents don't wake up their children who go to school every morning. Children hate parents who disturb their sleep and destroy their dreams. They are afraid that their parents will come to their room, lift their quilt, and say cheerfully: "Get up and brush your teeth." It's better to let the alarm clock wake up the child, and the alarm clock is much better for children than "alarm mother" or "alarm father" staring at them. Eight-year-old Emily always had a hard time getting out of bed in the morning.Every day, she wished for a few more minutes in bed, and those few minutes had better never end.Her mother was sometimes nice and sometimes tantrums about it, but Emily was always the same: slow, unhappy at breakfast, hated going to school.The daily quarrels made her mother feel tired and dissatisfied.

But things improved dramatically when mom gave her daughter an unexpected gift—an alarm clock.In the gift box, Emily found a note: "To Emily, you don't like people waking you up too early in the morning. Now you can make your own decisions. Love your mother." Emily was shocked again Youxi, she said, "How do you know I don't like people waking me up?" Her mother smiled and said, "I figured it out." The next morning, when the alarm clock rang, her mother said to Emily : "Honey, it's too early, why don't you sleep five minutes longer?" Emily jumped up from the bed and said, "No, I'm going to be late for school."

If the child does not wake up easily, it cannot be said that he is lazy; if the child does not get up and brush his teeth immediately, it cannot be said that he has a bad temper.Don't tease a child who has a hard time being active and enthusiastic in the morning.Instead of embroiling them in an argument, let them continue to enjoy another ten minutes of sleep or daydreaming, perhaps by setting the alarm a little earlier.Our words convey compassion and understanding: "It was hard getting out of bed this morning." "It's nice to lie in bed and dream." "Give me five more minutes of sleep."

Words like these brighten up the morning and create a warm, intimate atmosphere.On the contrary, the following angry or mocking words can only bring a cold and somber atmosphere: "Get up, you slob!" "Get up from the bed right now." "My God, you're another Rip Van Winkle." Or worrying about their health: "Why are you still in bed? Are you sick? Something hurts? Stomach pain? Headache? Let me see your tongue." The way to care is to be sick.The child may also feel that the parent will be disappointed if they deny the illness the parent so kindly lists, so the child has to feign illness.