Chapter 10 Chapter 9 Misunderstandings of Leaders’ Daily Speech

Weigh your words carefully lest they become swords - Carlyle The opening chapter states that an ideal eloquent and a successful leader should pay attention to observation and thinking in addition to basic eloquence training, because observation and thinking are the source of experience accumulation.If you pay attention, you will find that many people are not listening carefully when others are speaking.They may be thinking, you say yours, I say mine, we are two people, don't influence each other.In this way, those who speak will be finished when they finish speaking; those who listen will be finished after listening.Moreover, when many people listen to other people's speech, they are just listening. As for what others say, which ones are well said, which expressions are very distinctive, and which problems are handled well with language, it is worth learning. , but often do not pay attention.In fact, the eloquence we are pursuing is not only a problem of speaking, but also a problem of listening; it is not just a problem of mouth, but also a problem of ear.

A person with a good eloquence must also have a good ear.A person who is good at talking must be a person who is very obedient at the same time.A person who can speak, when he speaks, never just speaks blindly according to his own meaning.Before he speaks, when he speaks, and after he speaks, he is very concerned about one thing, that is, how his words sound to the other party.If you can't even hear what the other party is saying, and you can't fully understand the meaning, then how can you talk about absorbing something useful from the other party? Don't think that a person who can talk for hours in a row, eloquently and eloquently, is a good eloquent person.The truth is not necessarily true. As the old saying goes, "too much talk will lead to failure". For leaders who are leaders, this point may be more important.

A leader who is really eloquent does not lie in how much he speaks, but the key lies in his understanding of other people's moods and opinions. He can convince people with a few words, and this kind of leader is often very good at listening to others and has good eloquence. A good leader even has the ability to let a person who is unwilling to speak communicate with him normally. We know that when a normal person speaks, he often cannot fully express his thoughts and feelings by relying on language alone, and his words often cannot express his meaning very accurately.At this time, they will supplement it with demeanor and actions.They may gesticulate downwards or clenched their fists when they emphasize what they think is particularly important; they may smile slightly when they are satisfied with what they have said; When unsure, they frown or run their hands under their chin or scratch their ears.From his actions, we can analyze some meanings he wants to express.

The tone is also a portal.The same sentence, expressed in different tones, often has different meanings.Moreover, you should be able to catch something from the other person's eyes. When speaking, the other person's eyes often reveal a lot of important information.When you say something seriously and try to make you believe it, but your eyes are uncertain, you should doubt the truthfulness of the words. These people should first accumulate experience in speaking, listening, and seeing before training their eloquence.Use your eyes and ears to understand the other party, grasp the other party, be considerate to the other party, and then the words you say will penetrate into the other party's heart. This is the highest achievement of eloquence.

In the process of talking with employees, leaders sometimes inevitably talk about some random topics in order to make employees feel friendly. However, even if the relationship is relatively good, as a leader, there are still several topics that are quite taboo. Let’s introduce them one by one. (1) Privacy of employees Privacy is some of the secrets employees have that they don't want to share.Unless the employee voluntarily tells you his privacy, don't inquire about the employee's privacy at will.Respecting the privacy of employees is a manifestation of respecting the personality of employees.If the leader ignores the psychological needs of the employees to keep their privacy, and blindly asks about the privacy of the employees, it will affect the effect of the conversation between the two, and it will also make the employees have a bad impression of themselves, which will damage the relationship between the leader and the employees.Even if employees take the initiative to tell their leaders their privacy to ask for their opinions and opinions, the leaders should pay attention to the content of the answers, and don't get carried away, making suggestions and making irresponsible remarks like an expert.Just say something symbolic.If the employee insists on the leader to give some constructive suggestions, the leader might as well tell the employee a story, saying that a friend of his once encountered such a thing and how it was resolved, for his reference only.In this way, even if the suggestion has no effect or even has the opposite effect, the leader does not need to blame himself, and the employees will not attribute the fault to the leader.

(2) Sadness of employees The sad things of the employees cannot be used as the content of the conversation. Firstly, it is because the sad things of the employees do not want to be known by many people, unless the employees have some kind of psychological need to talk about it urgently; Talk to the leader, so the leader should try to avoid other people's sad topics.While it is often possible to win people over by being sympathetic, bringing up someone's sorrow is not, after all, smart conversation. (3) Embarrassing incidents of employees When learning about embarrassing topics for employees, leaders must avoid them.Because embarrassing topics often make employees feel particularly awkward when they are mentioned.Embarrassing topics can be said to be taboo topics for others. Before meeting with employees, leaders must figure out which topics are embarrassing for others.

Shi Daoyuan of the Song Dynasty recorded in "Jingde Biography of Lantern Records": "A traveler asked: 'Someone asked the Buddha to answer the Buddha, and asked the Dharma to answer the Dharma. I don't know if it is called a one-character method?" The master said: "Like a parrot learning human language. , I can’t talk to myself, because I have no intelligence.” There is an allusion of “parrot learning the tongue” in ancient times, in which the original meaning of learning the tongue is to imitate other people’s speech.The parrot's mouth is a metaphor for not having your own opinion, and following what others say.Just like a parrot learning how to speak from a human, it follows what others say and follows the scriptures.

As a leader, when you are waiting for your superior to arrange any tasks with words, you first listen to his instructions, and then convey his instructions to your subordinates according to the scriptures. Pass screwed up.There are also leaders who often take the speeches written by others and read them when they get up to speak without making any preparations.However, scripting can seriously damage a speaker's credibility for three reasons: (1) Going by the script cannot bring a real sense of security There is a difference between a prepared speech and an impromptu speech.The latter is certainly more believable, funnier, and sincere.It is difficult to read a speech like a normal speech.When reading a speech, there is little eye contact between the speaker and the audience, few gestures, no facial expressions, and a monotonous voice.In the end, the speaker cannot form a close relationship with the audience.They may walk away dissatisfied (“What a waste of time, I might as well watch it myself!”), doubting the speaker’s credibility and sincerity.

(2) If you follow the scriptures, you can't do whatever you want Relying on lecture notes or detailed outlines often limits your flexibility.If you encounter an accident, you will suffer a lot.For example, if you're in a group discussion and it's your turn to speak, time is running out.This last-minute flexibility is not easy.Once the on-site questions are interrupted or the topic is diverted, it is usually difficult for the reader to regain his train of thought and continue with the original topic. (3) Your reputation may be damaged Regardless of the intention of the speech, the audience always sees is believing.Reading a speech to an audience is likely to disappoint them.They will realize that you haven't worked hard to prepare.As a result, your credibility may be damaged, your message will be lost, and your speech will be ineffective.

The cornerstone of successful communication is the reorganization of speech or orders from superiors.If your speech is well-founded and has your own unique language taste, you can speak freely and give full play to it, and other aspects will follow suit. At work, there are many subordinates who deliberately ask questions about the things they are most proficient in, in order to find out the truth of the leader.If the leader is hesitant, vague or speechless, he will be even more proud, and then he will start to shake your authority: "You don't know such a simple thing?" On such occasions, if the leader blushes, keeps silent, or keeps silent for a long time, he will lose his due dignity and will not be able to do a good job of management in the future.If you try to save face and "fight to the death" with your subordinates, the result will only be more embarrassing.

Therefore, as a leader, you must learn to deal with such difficulties from your subordinates instead of carrying them to the end. For example, in the above-mentioned occasions, you can answer calmly: "You have been doing your own business for three or four years, and you should keep improving. If you show off the little knowledge you have mastered like this, it just means that you Still young and ignorant?" Such tepid words and tepid attitude are the heaviest and deadliest counterattacks against subordinates who are in trouble.By doing so, you can not only prevent things from getting worse, but also show your own demeanor and tolerance. Of course, a leader should be a "generalist" slightly higher than others. He should be knowledgeable and capable, but it is impossible to be proficient in everything.Therefore, instead of competing with employees when they are better than themselves, they can cleverly avoid them in a roundabout way, and then take a long-term view to guide and inspire subordinates when they are better than their opponents. Arguing with subordinates is also a scene that leaders often encounter in actual work.The ability to effectively handle such embarrassing incidents is also an important condition for determining whether a leader can gain the respect of his subordinates. Often, if a leader feels he is giving his subordinate the upper hand, he will feel ashamed and eager to refute the other party.However, subordinates (especially individual subordinates with stubborn personalities and eccentric tempers) may also insist on their own small principles and engage in fierce debates with the leaders with the drive to refuse to admit defeat.The more heated the argument, the more emotionally charged both parties will become, and the more difficult the outcome will be. Sun Tzu, an ancient Chinese military theorist, once warned: In a war with no chance of winning, it is better to withdraw as soon as possible.That is to say, if a war without success is guaranteed, if it continues to be carried on blindly, it will definitely cause a hundred harms and no benefits, and it will only harm itself.This military strategy can also be used in dealing with employees.If the relationship with the employees is at a stalemate, it will only become the result of "death".Therefore, leaders should be wise to find a way to retreat, and say at the right time: "It seems that you have done some research on this issue!" In this way, not only will the subordinates feel honored or flattered, but the leader himself will have a step down. In daily work, it is impossible for a leader to satisfy his subordinates in everything, and to say everything pleasantly.It is impossible not to say what is difficult to say. The key is to be tactful and sincere, and try to reduce the blow to subordinates as much as possible. (1) How to explain to subordinates As a leader at the top, if you encounter such a thing, you should directly tell the reason without beating around the bush, and you don't need to explain more, or blame yourself in front of your subordinates for this matter.You can only clearly state the reasons, trust your subordinates, and believe that he will digest it. If you are a middle-level leader, you must never say to your subordinates: "It's none of my business. The manager alone has the final say, and I can't do anything about it!" The manager resents.Or, once the subordinates understand that you are shirking responsibility, they will definitely have great resentment against you, and your own prestige will definitely decrease. What's more, in order to prevent the subordinates from objecting, use high-pressure means to stop the other party from speaking.Doing so will leave a pimple in the subordinates' hearts, and they will be dissatisfied with the leader and work. This is the most unwise and undesirable approach.The correct method should take both reason and reason into account. Only by persuading him in good faith can the subordinates be truly convinced and will not lose their enthusiasm for work. (2) How to explain the delay to the superiors when the approval time of the proposal is delayed Sometimes the leader accepts the proposal from the subordinate and promises to "take a look", but after a period of time, he still hasn't read it. The subordinate hopes to get a satisfactory answer, so he asks the leader: "Have you read that proposal? How is it doing now?" In this case, you should say frankly: "I'm very busy now, and I really don't have time to take a closer look. But I will definitely give you a satisfactory answer within a week!" At the same time, it is best to take the initiative to ask the leader to reply before the appointed time. inferior.Subordinates will definitely be moved by the enthusiasm of the leader.Especially if the answer is negative, instead of asking the subordinates to ask the reason, it is better for the leader to take the initiative to explain, indicating that the leader really takes his proposal seriously and is sincere, rather than hastily dealt with it. If the proposal needs to be submitted to a higher-level leader, and the attitude of the upper-level leader is not clear, so that no conclusion has been determined, it is best for the leader to be in the middle and explain his position at this time, saying that he has submitted it to the superior, but there has been no response for a long time .When I had to urge my superiors, the answer was negative.At this time, it is necessary to explain in detail, and must not be perfunctory. (3) How to communicate the demotion order Sometimes, the company's personnel is transferred, the subordinate is demoted, or transferred to a branch, or assigned to another unimportant department, in short, he is no longer valued by the leader.At this time, the leader has the responsibility to inform him before or after giving the order, and he must be patient and appease, so that he can maintain a positive and happy mood and go to the new post as much as possible. You know, when a subordinate is demoted, I feel very unhappy in my heart.If the leader chooses words inappropriately, or does not try to comfort them, or even simply does not say a word because it is difficult to speak, it will undoubtedly plant a landmine that may detonate at any time for the subordinates who are filled with discontent, causing unimaginable consequences. "The circle that is cut is not as good as the circle that spins."This is a truth that carpenters are familiar with, and leaders should be even more proficient in it. When making decisions that go against the wishes of subordinates, explain them tactfully, so as not to feel blunt and cold. Speaking is usually not for yourself, but for others. In this case, how can you not consider how others will interpret these words after hearing them? A person who really knows how to speak may not be full of words and sentences, but he can always say what the other party wants to hear.Therefore, you cannot patronize your own words and disregard the feelings of others.If you don't listen to other people's feedback and don't give them a chance to speak, then no matter how nice you say it, it will be rubbish.It is better to speak well than to speak well.One sentence may make you promoted to a noble rank, but it may also bring you a disaster of death.It is better to have no books than to believe in books. Similarly, if you cannot master the knowledge of speaking, then it is better to speak less. As a leader, when listening to employees' conversations, it is very important to understand and grasp the personality and mind of employees, and then how to lead them, encourage their enthusiasm for work, and achieve the goal of improving efficiency.A careful boss can discover the following two types of subordinates by listening. (1) External-oriented employees Their interests and attention tend to be objective, active, like going out, enthusiastic, optimistic, sociable, love group activities, express themselves well, like to express their opinions, can sincerely accept criticism and encouragement, be generous and trust others ; but due to enthusiasm and good self-expression, it leads to impulsive emotions, inconsiderate consideration, impetuous behavior, strong vanity, and often impatient with trivial matters. (2) Introverted employees It is generally not easy to understand his intentions, because he is often taciturn, which stems from his sensitivity and shyness. Most of the time, he speaks softly, judges things based on subjective impressions, is unwilling to express opinions, is not easy to cooperate with others, and is unwilling to Participate in group activities, not interested in social interaction, reclusive, lonely, romantic thoughts, strong self-view.But this kind of person is interested in tedious and boring work such as research, planning, secretarial, inspection, and statistics. After understanding the difference between the two types of people, leaders face different types of employees and carry out targeted work to obtain the best results.For example, challenge and compete with extroverts to arouse their enthusiasm for work; for introverts, leaders should put down their airs, enter with a low profile, and gently arouse their enthusiasm for work. 7. An apology is an admission When a leader communicates with people, it is inevitable to say wrong words and do wrong things, and it is inevitable to offend people, and sometimes even bring great mental pain and huge economic losses to them.In this regard, if you can realize your mistakes in time, sincerely apologize to others, and take the initiative to take responsibility, under normal circumstances, you can always be forgiven by others.If you find that you are wrong, and you cannot apologize to others in time, or even try to find excuses to justify yourself, the result will not only not be forgiven by others, but on the contrary, you will suffer moral condemnation and damage to your personality and image. You lose friends, you lose friendships.Therefore, no one should underestimate the role of an apology. Simply put, an apology must master two principles: one is to be sincere, and the other is to be timely.There are several ways to make a timely and sincere apology. (1) Expressing awareness and hoping to be forgiven During the Three Kingdoms period, Gongsun Yuan separatist in Liaodong, afraid of Cao Cao's conquest, wrote a letter to Sun Quan to submit to Soochow.Sun Quan decided to send troops to support him with money, and made Gongsun Yuan King of Yan.Minister Zhang Zhao believed that Gongsun Yuan was unreliable and strongly opposed Sun Quan's doing so. The two had a fierce dispute because of this, but Sun Quan still did not accept his opinion in the end.Zhang Zhao was so angry that he refused to go to the court. Sun Quan was also angry and sent someone to block the door of Zhang Zhao's house.Zhang Zhao didn't show any weakness, and let his family block another layer in the door.Later, Gongsun Yuan killed the people Sun Quan sent, and Sun Quan realized that Zhang Zhao's opinion was right, so he went to Zhang Zhao's house several times to admit his mistakes, but Zhang Zhao just didn't see him. Once, Sun Quan came to Zhang Zhao's house again and called Zhang Zhao's name loudly, but Zhang Zhao was still bedridden.Sun Quan sent people to burn his door, intending to force Zhang Zhao to come out, but Zhang Zhao ordered people to close the windows too.When Sun Quan saw it, he asked someone to put out the fire, and he himself stood in front of Zhang Zhao's door. Later, after his son's persuasion, Zhang Zhao finally showed up. Sun Quan was very happy when he saw it.Since then, the monarch and his subjects have been reconciled as before. (2) Expressing abandonment of past suspicions, hoping to get help In 1754, Washington was still a colonel, leading his men stationed in Alexandria.In one election for the Virginia legislature, a man named William Pace opposed a candidate supported by Washington. Washington is said to have had a heated argument with Perth at one point over election issues, and he said something offensive to Perth.Pace knocked Washington to the ground, and Washington's men rushed over, ready to avenge their chief.Washington stopped them on the spot and advised them to return to camp. Early the next morning, Washington sent Pace a note asking him to go to a small hotel as soon as possible. Perth arrived as promised, he was coming for a duel, and to his surprise, he saw not a pistol but a wine glass. "Mr. Pace," said Washington, "it is human nature to err, and it is an honor to right it. I believe I was wrong yesterday, and you have been satisfied to some extent. If you think you can If it's settled, then please shake my hand—let's make friends." From then on, Perth became an ardent supporter of Washington. (3) Expressing responsibility and hoping to be understood In the 1950s, the chancellor of the GDR visited China and planned to sign a treaty of friendship and mutual assistance between China and Germany.In accordance with international practice, the announcement should be made at the same time as agreed by both parties.However, due to the negligence of the reporter, the news was sent in advance before the treaty was signed.When Premier Zhou Enlai saw the newspaper, he immediately called to apologize to the Chancellor of the GDR who had already visited other places. In the afternoon, he invited relevant leaders and reporters to his office for a meeting.After understanding the process of the problem, he said: "I only reminded the reporter not to publish it at the state affairs meeting, but did not explain it to the reporter at the Standing Committee of the National People's Congress. As a result, something went wrong. This is my negligence." Then, the Prime Minister It is only then that the nature and impact of the mistakes, as well as their respective responsibilities and lessons are pointed out to the relevant personnel.The chancellor of the GDR was very moved by Premier Zhou's proactive apology and expressed his understanding. A true apology is not just about admitting your mistakes and acknowledging that your words and actions have damaged the relationship between each other, but about taking responsibility for your mistakes bravely.Showing that you take the mistake seriously and want to get back together by apologizing can not only make up for a broken relationship, but also strengthen the relationship. Some leaders tend to subconsciously have a sense of superiority because of their higher status and age than others. They feel that they have more experience and know more than others, so they often tend to have a preaching tone when talking. Of course, preaching cannot be completely negated, and sometimes there are indeed correct advice, but these advices are often not accepted because they have a preaching tone that arouses rebellious emotions from the interviewee.Since you want to persuade and educate others, you should pay attention to how to make others accept your opinions, so try to avoid being superior and arrogant, but to present vivid, vivid and vivid examples to make others accept you sincerely. We see preachers who often say something like this: "You must know that I am not interfering with what you are doing." "I don't like to talk about this kind of thing now." Perhaps these words should not be said, but I think you will see the merit of them." In fact, the words said by the preacher should be the thoughts that come naturally from the heart when others accept the point of view.And if it is said by the preacher, no matter how much it is said, it is just empty preaching, and it will not achieve any effect, but it will arouse people's resistance.Therefore, as a leader, you must pay attention to your own words and deeds, and avoid empty preaching to your subordinates. Pretending to understand because of face problems is a common problem of many leaders. If you know nothing about everything, you will easily have a sense of oppression in your heart for fear of falling behind. This is also a common mentality of people.Driven by the competitive spirit of never admitting defeat or "not losing the battle", some half-knowledgeable leaders pretend to be ignorant everywhere in order to save their face. This kind of leader is not straightforward, even the simple things he has to show off, he seems to be very proficient in general principles, and he looks like he understands everything. His vanity is at work. But in life, some people seem ordinary and worthless at first glance.And after a serious conversation, they can be directly infected by their inner thoughts. This kind of people are often frank and straightforward in their dealings with others, and the vocabulary they use is often simple and clear.Friendship must be based on sincerity, and fancy and false remarks are only suitable for occasional play. The leader and the people around him move and attract each other, rather than force each other to accept their opinions.In order to force the other party to accept your opinion, show off some remote and unpopular vocabulary to show that your level is superior to others. From the perspective of the other party, they just feel that they are incompatible with you and cannot accept you. It is not difficult to see that the more expressive a person is, the less able he is to master everything.Leaders and subordinates should learn from each other's strengths, and don't be ashamed to ask others where they are better than themselves. Even if you are very good at something, you must show your strength with a very humble attitude, so as to convince others. Modern society can be said to be a highly complex information age, and the knowledge absorbed by everyone cannot contain everything.If you don't have an open-minded attitude in dealing with people, how can you be welcomed by everyone; a person who is self-righteous in everything will definitely not be respected by everyone. Because whether it is pretending to understand or really ignorant, it is also detrimental to the expansion of the scope of communication. There is Mr. N, the president of a small magazine that does not have a large scale. No matter what the occasion is, he always likes to put on airs, deliberately lowering his voice to show a solemn look.Not only that, but he always seems to know everything, a posture that makes people feel as if he is promoting himself.No matter how much he puts on airs, no matter how much suggestive words or English he expresses his opinions, he still cannot be recognized by others.And the magazines or weekly magazines published by this man will never be on the stage.The publications he publishes are always criticized as superficial miscellaneous knowledge, because he likes to judge everything.As soon as he opened his mouth to speak, the people next to him said: "Oh my God! It's about to start again." Then they gritted their teeth and endured the pain.This is no different from talking big and bragging.I don't have superior intelligence, but pretending to know everything will be seen as a bluffing hypocrite. The most respectable person in social relationships is this kind of person who always pretends to understand. It's not ashamed to admit that you don't know something, but pretending to know in order to promote yourself, once the other party sees it through, it will make the other party feel distrustful and unwilling to associate with you. "There is a priority in hearing the truth, and there is a specialization in the art industry." Everyone has their own expertise, and it is impossible to be proficient in everything.Therefore, as a leader, you must be clear that your responsibility is to lead, and you must maintain a good attitude in interpersonal communication, and never pretend to understand. High-level oral communication generally has the advantages of standardized style of expression, fluent enunciation, careful thinking, appropriate detail, accurate expression, and quick response.However, in general communication and oral expression, language problems often appear, which not only increases the difficulty for others to understand, affects the effect of language communication, but also causes other serious problems.Therefore, language disorder is a phenomenon that should be eliminated in high-level oral communication and general oral communication.Common language problems include the following: (1) Brief description It is manifested in the fact that he himself thinks that he has finished his expression, but the listener still doesn't know what to say.Even when narrating, expressing things, and expressing emotions, although the understanding of the topic has a certain depth, there is also nothing to say, and I have to end it in a few words. (2) Lisp Here it refers to those with normal function but "slurred speech", which is related to the lack of training in the past.I was nervous when expressing orally, and I was not used to speaking loudly, which inevitably made people feel slurred.It is not difficult to correct this situation, as long as the training of reading aloud and public expression is consciously strengthened. (3) Tautology The prominent manifestation of this phenomenon is that the expression often subconsciously repeats what has been said, giving people a sense of long-winded and funny.This phenomenon does not only appear on those who lack training, but also people who have been engaged in oral training for many years sometimes have this problem.Therefore, for beginners, it is necessary to strictly prohibit it from the beginning of training. Once a habit is formed, it will be difficult to correct it. (4) Sloppy expression Its characteristic is that it can't grasp the center when expressing, rambling on and on, and going further and further away, even in the end, even I don't know what the original topic is.The root of this phenomenon is that the main control function of the thinking mechanism is not strong, the main direction of the thinking movement in the expression cannot be extended to the topic, and it is easy to be swayed and interfered by non-thematic factors in communication.If you don't pay attention to corrections, it will be difficult to become a master of oral communication. (5) Incoherent language That is to say, the same topic can sometimes be regarded as several subtopics and subtopics, and the complete expression of the topic should be synthesized by the complete expression of each subtopic.The "incoherence" is manifested in the incomplete expression of multiple subtopics. In layman's terms, one thing (or one aspect) is brought up to another thing (or another aspect) before it is finished; and the second thing (or aspect) is talked about before it is finished. On to the third matter (or aspect).This is actually caused by the disordered movement of psychological tension and thinking movement in a tense state. (6) Excessive verbiage As redundant words occupy the presentation time, the result interferes with the communication of information.Language communication mainly depends on the content of the expression, and there is no necessary connection between redundant language and the content of the expression, which is imposed from the "outside" of the language expression during communication.It has a certain blocking effect on information exchange, which directly affects the communication effect. (7) The rhythm is too slow That is commonly called "elongated cavity".There is also a long pause between sentences, which is the so-called "speaking a sentence for half a day".Some people think that the language expression takes a long time and the speed is slow, which looks solemn and steady, and can increase the weight of language.In fact, this is also an illusion. (8) The rhythm is too fast This phenomenon makes people feel "like firing a machine gun", so that the other party will find it difficult to understand the intention of the expression.When talking with others, it is manifested as "grabbing the conversation", that is, before the other person has finished speaking, he takes the topic and talks by himself, or starts another topic by himself and interrupts the other person's topic. This phenomenon often occurs. On some people with certain communication skills. (9) Constant noise The language problem that people often make when they speak is noise.Some people talk very well, but there are many meaningless noises between his words.For example, the nose is always humming, or the throat seems to be clogged, coughing lightly; or there is often a protracted moan at the beginning of each sentence, as if each sentence has to hesitate for a while before speaking or after a sentence, always add an "ah", as if every sentence is afraid that people will not hear clearly.Such noises must be eliminated.These noises make your originally good language, like a layer of dust on the glass, greatly reducing its original brilliance. To sum up, all kinds of language disorders in language communication are mainly due to: the main control function of the thinking mechanism is not strong when expressing, and the "movement" of thinking and vocalization are "asynchronous"; the movement of vocal organs is weak when expressing, and Slow thinking speed; psychological barriers caused by tension in expression, etc. The main way to correct language problems is to receive systematic oral communication training and do more training in speaking loudly.In the early stage of training, you can make more aloud expressions supported by written manuscripts, which will help develop the habit of "thinking before you speak", help strengthen the main control function of the thinking mechanism when expressing, and help realize thinking. Synchrony of movement and vocalization.At the same time, it is also helpful to overcome undesirable phenomena such as expressive psychological barriers caused by tension.