Chapter 8 1. Don’t Overcare Your Infant Child

After infancy ends, the child enters the second period of life: childhood. As children talk more and more, they cry less and less.This is a natural thing, meaning that humans have replaced one form of language with another. If they have enough verbal ability to express their pain, and the pain is not severe enough to resort to language, they will not express their emotions by crying.Therefore, if the child is always crying, it must be that the person who took care of him did not do well. If Emile cried that he was "in pain", I would never go to see him, and I would not go to him until he stopped crying.

In this way, he will slowly learn that crying is useless.If he wants to ask for help, he has to keep quiet, or he can only cry once or twice. Children judge how they feel based on how others react to their cries, so the meaning in their cries is different every time. We often see that no matter how wronged or hurt a child is, as long as no one is around him, he seldom cries.He cries mostly because he wants others to hear him cry. If he falls, breaks his head, cracks his nose, or scrapes the skin off his fingers, I don't act panicked, but I stand by calmly, or walk over to comfort him after a while .

It was he who fell to the ground, so he had to bear the consequences.In fact, when he was injured, the fear caused by the injury made him more uncomfortable than the injury itself. He would judge the extent of his injury based on my reaction.If I behave calmly, it will naturally alleviate the pain he can feel.If I'm flustered, he's bound to be nervous too; if I'm nonchalant, he'll think it doesn't matter. I want to exercise his courage when he is young, let him learn to see those small pains clearly, so that he can face the bigger pains in the future. I wouldn't be careful to protect Emile all day long. If he didn't experience a little bit of pain when he was growing up, I would feel that it was my negligence.

It is inevitable that there will be harm in life. This is the first thing he should know, and it is also the most important thing he should know.Children's frailty is an inevitable consequence of their innocence. If a child falls by himself, he will not break his leg; if a child accidentally hits himself with a stick, he will not break his arm; if he holds a knife, he will not be injured by holding it too tightly. scratch yourself. Unless we inadvertently put him on a high place, or leave him alone by the fire, or put a dangerous tool within his reach, a child will not toss himself by his own strength alone. Got bruised all over.

Some people try their best to protect their children, but when the children grow up, they will find that the children are weaker than when they were young.A little setback can break him down, a little hurt can make him feel like he's dying. We all have the psychology of being good teachers.There are some things that a child can learn only by his own ability, but we insist on teaching him, but we stay out of the way for those things that children must be guided by us to learn. We tried every means to teach the child to walk, for fear that the child would delay the age of learning to walk because of the negligence of the nanny.We tried our best, but in the end, how many children couldn't walk well, leaving lifelong regrets.

I don't give Emile those tools such as a walker, a walker belt, etc. I want him to learn how to put one foot in front of the other naturally.When walking on the gravel road, maybe I will give him a hand, and other times I will let him walk by himself. I don't let him stay in the house all day, but take him outside, preferably on the grass, let him run and jump as much as he wants, and I don't care if he falls 100 times.He quickly understood the meaning of getting up after falling, which was more than enough to make up for the small pain caused by the fall. Although my student will often suffer a little injury, his heart is happy and free, and your protection of your student is just a bondage to him, which can only make him depressed all day long.I really don't know what is the use of your approach!